Overview of 2019

Kojo: I woke up happy today, seeing how grateful people are for 2019. Personally, it has been one of the best years. And I strongly feel there are more to come in 2020. I had a whole lot of experiences, awareness, opportunities, fun, adventures, delights, achievements and many others. The road was rough, I wouldn't lie, yet perseverance and determination kept us going. Made resourceful memories; memories that hold water and makes you say, "Why isn't life always this way?". I had so much fun in trying new things I had not planned to and it was worth it. A lot of things to laugh about on social media, and the Year of Return climaxed it all. Met a lot of people along the way, who changed my perspective on certain things, and I thank God for their lives. Made a lot of mistakes and I am glad I did. I learnt a lot, especially that the people we greet on our way to work or school, that ask us, "how we are doing?", don't really listen to our replies. I once replied, "I'm not fine". And she replied, "We thank God". With all things being said, we give all praise to the One who gives us Breath of Life. It has never been by might or by power. With our resolutions set for the next decade, we pray that the Lord God Almighty orders our steps in the right direction. May our next decade be of no regrets, but full of positive achievements. Cheers to Growth.

Our Secret Conversation

Larry: Father God, it's been a while we spoke. I know I have been distant from you lately, kindly forgive me. Can we talk one on one like we used to?. Cause there are a couple of things disturbing me. Regardless of them all, this particular one eats me up the most. Why am I still single, Lord?. Laugh out loud!. Oh! please I'm serious Father. I know this isn't Your fault but You still have an answer to this question. For that, I'm sure of it. I wonder what exactly I do wrong, that makes people just wanna take advantage of me. The moment I try to escalate our relationship to the next level they opt out. Sowing where I  don't reap. I really wonder what the problem really is, cause this has been happening for a long while now and its beginning to eat me up Lord. I doubt it's the way I carry myself about, cause I have female friends who commend me of my outgoing nature, yet are not just interested in me. Why wouldn't I just find someone who would love me for me?. Am I looking too far, Lord?. Is the person really close and yet I cannot see?. What should I do?. I'm really frustrated here, Lord.  I feel no one has actually been honest with me, to sit me down to tell the truth as it is. I mean, I've kept quiet for a long time on this. Hoping that You would come through for Your boy but nothing yet. So this is just a reminder to let You know that I'm still waiting on You, Lord. Do it for Your boy, as You always do. Being single hasn't been a bad experience though. I mean, freedom is fun and all. But the funny part is that, all the ladies I chat with are in a relationship. And at the end of the day, they go back to their own and I'm left hanging. Not a single soul to just check up on me. And I won't lie that really hurts, because of that I've named my next year, "My Year of Settlement". Kindly lead me to someone with a sound mind cause the fooling is too much in the system of late. I'm counting on You on this one. Will be waiting for feedback. Yours Sincerely. Signed.

Steady Love V

Do you want your man to do whatever you ask him to?.

Steady Love IV

Lamar: I take a look at him now and all I see is him rubbed up in lies. Have you ever met someone that was so soaked up in lies, that they themselves got confused sometimes if they told you the truth or lie?. I bet you have no clue how it feels then. I mean, you can read a conversation with them flirting with another girl on their phone, and they would still make you want to believe that it was their friend using their phone to chat with that particular girl. That is how good they are. Sorry for you, if you've fallen for such a person. How I wish your eyes would open, that you may see the light. Falling in love with a liar only ends in tears. Cause they are never ready to learn from their mistakes. They rather get smarter from every break up as a result from their lies. But you know, Karma is a very gentle fellow, it creeps up on you unaware. Then they meet that one person that breaks them also. And they forget about all the pain they caused others. They have the courage to ask God sometimes, "why me?". Forgetting all the tears they caused others, has finally caught up with them. How I wish you wouldn't fall into the trap of a deceitful lady, who only wants you for a season. How hurting it is, when you pour your heart out in a relationship with someone that had entirely different selfish motives all along. I feel your pain; cheer up, there is light at the end of the tunnel. May the next decade we walk into next year be full of smiles. And may this smiles drain away all the pain pilled up in your heart over the years. May you experience a different type of love that is heavenly sent. May no one take advantage of the kind heart you have. May you have a taste of how sweet life can be, with the right person. No more tears. Welcome to the New Age; Free From Heartbreak.

Steady Love III

Peggy: The type of love most live by lately; steady love. Especially those that gave their all in their previous relationships and were heart broken. Many that misinterpreted the affection shown by someone; thinking they loved them more than a friend. A few that were told straight forward by the ones they loved, that they didn't feel the same way about them; but they kept pushing only to be heart broken. Others that were misled, used and eventually dumped. Many more whose story hasn't been shared, and others who still live in pain cause they were naive. Another group of people who genuinely gave their all and were cheated on. Some who were unlucky and ended up with ungrateful partners. A handful who were not aware they deserve better. I think most of us are broken inside, but we don't fix what's broken, we mask over it. And we meet that innocent person who unknowingly triggers that wound and in our heads we move on without their knowledge. So then all these group of people decide to play it safe, reluctant to go all in. And all we seek for is timely assurances, cause we have a good heart but past experiences have clouded our judgement. We've guarded our heart, yet with the intention of settling down. We know deep within them, we would find our right pair. God bless our good heart, and help us use our good instincts to make the right choices.

Steady Love II

Ato: Alright so lemme tell you the truth right from the start. Apparently, I've reached that stage in my life were beating around the bush is simply a waste of time. Cause I've had this experiences where I've had this "back and forth" thing with someone, when in our heads we knew the path we would end up eventually. You may decide to delay the "decision making process", but you would still evetually get to that "decision making junction" anyway. No matter how long you decide to hold unto each other. Deep down within you, you can always tell the outcome. Mostly, we choose to ignore our inner voice and enjoy the moment while it last. Your ideology may be different per your experiences too. Truly, we all see life from different perspectives per our experiences. So you would meet people who have these funny ideologies about life. Then you begin to wonder if we are all living in this same world. Yes we are, the only thing that separate me from you, is our experiences. And these experiences sumed up contribute to whom we became. The whole reason behind this long speech is because my free ride home, left me behind today. Just then that popular quote,"We came alone and we would leave alone", dawned on me. Suddenly, I fell into a trance and begun to overthink things. Before I realized, I had texted this person: hi. Then I begun to understand a whole lot of things I thought was senseless. I begun to understand things better from a different angle entirely. I begun nodding as I was walking, unknowingly I was nodding to this cute girl walking towards my direction. She smiled and nodded back at me. There and then, a voice echoed in my head saying, "Waaa look, and you are stressing over a girl who doesn't like you". So ma buddy relax, in this life, your time to blow up go come.

Steady Love

Vibes: I came across his picture on my phone, and tears filled my eyes. I tried really hard not to blink, cause I knew tears will be dripping down if I lose guard. I bet you can tell how deep we were into each other. We came a long way, went through it all; crossed bridges, climbed hedges, moved through foggy, stormy weather together. Unfortunately, all that couldn't sustain us. Sometimes, I go so deep into my thought, descending deep down to moments we shared even on his birthday. When we would watch a documentary together, share ideas and thoughts. Yet we sucked dry the affection we had for each other. Another came into the picture just at the right time when we needed a different kind of experience. The other knew just what to say, how to manage, take care, control affairs. I witnessed my better half drifting away slowly, yet every measure I put in place backfired right in my face. "There is nothing as painful as that feeling; watching the one you love slipping into the arms of another while everything you try pushes her further away the more". Anything I tried made me look stupid, cause my newly discovered rival did everything right and beautiful. Shockingly, every step my rival took appeared to be spot on. And all I had left were shuttered memories filled with pain. Thank God I survived this too. In deed, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I've learnt a lot of things I couldn't as a couple. I have improved and worked on myself so much being single. Singleness gave me a chance to patch up most of the loop holes I had left bare. Now I am ready to fall in love again.

I'm Sorry IV

Foden: I met a guy and we both fell in love. Months passes by and we were still going on strong, then he got attached. He calls me all the time, double texts me, makes me his WhatsApp profile picture. He sleeps over at my place whenever I ask him to, he takes me to movies. He does everything to make me happy. Later, he notices me being distant and confronts me and I deny it. I cheat on him and he notices it but he eventually forgives me. He starts being skeptical about his relationship with me. Feeling like he's not enough for me. Cause he tries fighting for the relationship but realizes he is fighting alone. Finally, he walks away and I don't even try stopping him, cause in my mind it was over between us. A month later, I start dating this new guy. And its it's super less stressful than the previous one. We start meeting up, taking cute pictures and dope videos. His company is just amazing, his flaws are highly manageable. Months later, I use him as my profile picture. My ex finds out and it breaks him, cause it was the same guy I denied having anything to do with. He still finds it difficult moving on. I wake up one day and realize my Ex is my better half. And that was after my current boyfriend cheats on me. I guess that was my awakening moment. I bumped into my ex at the mall recently and he looked more handsome. I called him when I got home and we talked all night. There was a lot to catch up on. By then, I realized I lost the moon while counting the stars. Cherish and be satisfied with whom you have now. But don't keep people around you simply because no one knows tomorrow. Move on if you have to. It might be your breakthrough.

I'm Sorry III

Heavenly Father, is me again. This year hasn't been easy, but You've been there as always from the beginning. There's been a whole lot of ups and downs, happiness and sadness, joy and sorrow, rejoicing and grieving, but You've been my refuge and fortress, my peace and hiding place. When I remember how I started this year, thinking everything would work according to plan, and how certain things happened out of the blue. All I do is thank You for being there when I couldn't share my pain with anyone, but You knew and You never turned a blind eye. Cause I've experienced how short term human love can turn out to be; when one moment they pledging their allegiance, and the next moment they leave you hanging. Even when they ain't bold to tell you to your face, yet implying they don't really care how you survive. And through it all, even days when I have mood swings and other times when I'm full of myself, You still don't give up on me. You've been patient with me, waiting on me to involve You in whatever step I take. You just know when to step in and when to give me space. What have I done to deserve you?. Entirely nothing!. Yet You keep on showing me such love and mercy that I don't deserve. In my thinking, I know I'm not worthy of Your love, cause I already have difficulty confiding when I'm broken, yet You help me up anyway. My trust issues may get the best of me sometimes, but You don't allow that get in our way. I thank you for every single thing You've done for me this year. I'm so much grateful that words cannot describe. Some of us, all we have is You. Friends failed us & Love broke us, but We know in Your time, all things shall be made beautiful again.

I'm Sorry II

I've noticed how black mothers have this interesting traits of child upbringing. Whereby, they instill fear into their child, by using a different figure like the child's dad or making them believe in ghosts.

I'm Sorry

Chance: In my previous write ups, I've stressed enough about love. How it has lost its value and depth, cause of our misuse and shallow understanding of it. Take a couple of minutes to think through, if all the loving we do is not based on conditions. But love goes beyond condition; limitless. The other misused phrase, "I'm sorry". Per my statistics I've come to a conclusion that we mostly say, "I'm sorry", particularly to end prolonging matters and not that we actually feel remorse for what we did. Should the same instance happen, we would hurt the person all over again and still end up saying, "I'm sorry". So then I ask, what's the need for saying I'm sorry, if we don't regret our actions?. If we wouldn't retract our actions if given the 2nd chance. Sometimes we don't know why we say we are sorry until we are asked, "sorry for what reason?". Then we reflect and realize, we are not actually sorry for hurting the other person, but rather sorry for not feeling sorry for the pain we putting them through. Sometimes we may step on someone's toes and say sorry. But should we reverse time, we would still step on their toes and say sorry again. With that in perspective, it tells you, we are not actually sorry for stepping on their toes, but we are sorry they had to be the one. And that has also killed the true intention of saying, I'm sorry. So now, if someone says I'm sorry, we cannot really tell the motive behind the reason why they are saying so. And that has devalued the phrase, "I'm sorry". I'm sorry only settles things but doesn't fix things.

How does love feel like? II

To all those who love and care about me genuinely. To all those who look out for me and check up on me. To all those who dey ma back and are always there for me. To all those who are always ready to listen and don't judge me. To all those who know how to put a smile on my face, regardless of the mood I'm in. To all those who know exactly what to say and are always real with me. To all those who don't hide the truth from me and are bold to tell me to my face. To all those who broke my heart. To all those who hurt me. To all those who did me more good than evil . To all those who sort me out whenever broke. To all those who believe in me. To all those who promised and failed me. To all those who assured me and left me hanging. To all those who held up their end of the bargain. To all those who have no idea how much they helped me. To all those who faked feelings for me. To all those who opened up to me. To all those who crushed on me. To all those who trusted me with something. To all those who haven't given up on me. To all those who forgave me. To all those who lied to me. To all those who accept me for me. To all those who criticize and correct me. To all those who respect and do what I like. To all those who cherish and are loyal to me. To all those who spoil me. To all those who never betrayed me. To all those who wish me well. I'm grateful.

How does love feel like?

Pearl closed her eyes for a minute and she fell in a trance. Her mind was cast back to 31st night, when she was praying to God for a heaven sent boyfriend. She had enjoyed single life, now she was thinking of settling down. It wasn't as if she didn't have options to choose from, she just wanted someone out of her circle. She was vigilant during that period so she wouldn't miss anything but her expectations weren't met. Then she met Kevin again. She remembered how she could miss Kevin and wished he was around her most of the time. There was a lot of special moments with him, cause they went a long way back to 1st year in the university. And thereafter they had a connection. Their 1st encounter was exceptional, they met on a bus home from school during vacation. They didn't really communicate halfway through the journey. It was after a funny scene in the movie they were all watching in the bus. They began chatting as and when, until they got to their destination, exchanged numbers and that was how it all began. There was a movie premier of a particular movie they both loved and decided to go watch, and that was their 1st time meeting up. They could chat on phone non-stop and all that. School resumed and they saw more and more of each other. He visited her often. Seemed they spent most of their time with each other. It really felt special, but undoubtedly they had their rough times. Suddenly, she opened her eyes and fell out of the trance. Kevin was now out of her life. They had broken up, cause she didn't feel she was happy. It was a risk she took, with no regrets though. She had learnt to live without him anyway, cause it got to a time he wasn't really there when she needed him. She's learnt a lot from Kevin, and she was grateful she met him. Now it was time for her to move on. Moving on comes with it's own stress as well, she thought and laughed.

Her Message Got HimThinking

Kwesi woke up to Esi's message notification popup on his phone. He was a bit skeptical if he should go ahead and open it, cause its been 8months since she left him a message or initiated a conversation. This message could decide his mood for the day. All he saw was, Kwesi, on his notification. He was yet to read whatelse followed. The fact is, he had a record of her sending him bad news whenever she typed his name first, before her message. He didn't like this feeling at all. "What if its something urgent, that is why she sent it overnight, he said. Maybe she is something she couldn't master courage to tell me during the day." I guess this was his way of convincing himself to read the message.

New World II

Phil: Hi Jesus, thank you for yesterday. I'm grateful, cause we've not been really close lately, yet You still came through for me. That really gave me a clearer demonstration of love. Your timing was just spot-on. Wow!, You did surprise me on this one. You could tell I did not put much effort into it, even though my heart was in it. It's not my fault, the disappointments are too much off late. Now, trusting people on their word is a no go area for me. But with You, I know I'm rest assured that Your will and my plans shall always fall in alignment. Truth be told, You almost lost me there with Your timing. But I just withnessed why they say Your timings are perfect. The wait was worth it, cause it has taught me a lot of things I was unconscious of. Kindly permit me to talk to the Father. Hello, God the Father, How are You?. Thank You for being God. What will I do without You?. You are so dependable and true to Your Word. I'm humbly waiting on You per the last conversation we had. There was a little confusion on my part, which I needed a little clarification. Thank You for the Holy Spirit. Holy Spirit, haven't You missed me?. You always know what to say to bring awareness unto oneself. Please order my steps daily. How I love to hear from You all the time. Please never leave nor forsake me, Amen.

New World

Phil: Have you ever been in a situation where you have a whole lot running on your mind at the same time?. Then the only thing you do to help yourself, is to put one thought on hold, as you expatiate the other. And you don't even feel for food and cannot even force a smile. You may be present in the physical, yet absent-minded. It's a whole new world out there. I mean, there is always a whole new world out there. Depending on the stage of life we find ourselves. We adjust our "mindset and thinking" as we go along, based on our experiences. Many begin to say, "Its an unfair world". Others say, "Hard work surely pays off". Some also say, "Time and chance happens to us all". The very phrase I say repeatedly to comfort my soul whenever distressed; "It is well". It normally puts me in a trance, especially when I have a particular song playing in my ears. I review my life and gather my thoughts, as to what next step to take. I usually don't wallow in sorrow for long, cause I know I depend on a God who always makes a way. If you've been in a situation where you have only one choice and not even one option to fall on, and the same choice that failed severally suddenly falls in place. Then you would understand me clearly, that it is only God who can turn anything at all in your favor. Simply believe and have faith. Big ups to ma homies; Clergy and Gabbay.

A Long Way Out

Gigabyte: I've come a long way Charley. Sometimes I look myself in the mirror and salute my soul for putting up with my flesh for all these years. Cause I know how these two battle each other, yet they have learnt to live together in the same body. I remember when Ama left me cause she said I wasn't confident enough as a person. And I wondered if that could also count as a reason to breakup a relationship. People see me now and think I had it easy in life, just because I can now afford to take good care of myself. I thought I didn't care about myself, but I recently realized it was because I was mostly broke. Being broke makes you overlook a lot of things; thinking they are unnecessary. Riches on the other hand, opens your eyes to a lot of things you easily overlooked when you were broke. One thing I've consciously added to my personality traits, is being grateful for the little things. I remember giving away a chocolate toffee to one lady I just made friends with. And I learnt a lot from how grateful she was. Moreover, on my birthday she bought me a gift and I had known her for just 3days. Besides, I've been friends with some people for 14years and they've never got me something on my birthday. So Charley, is whom you surround yourself with; how you relate with them. And that is highly dependent on your character. Yolo! Enjoy Life!

You Might Learn Something New

King: Alright so a friend of mine recommended that I write about; "Romantic things a man expect from his woman in a relationship." You would realize that a lot of people get remarks of being unromantic; I was also told a couple of times from my lady friend on campus. And you may think that you are saving it all for the special someone. But that special someone comes along and you still the same, cause it's not part of you. I don't know if you get what I mean. All I'm saying is that, being romantic is a habit we keep up with and enhance over a period of time, and not just learnt within a month or two and you are good to go. Cause it all depends on your partner's taste. Anyways, I have divided my ideas about this topic into characters in order to make it less boring. Let's dive in. Jane: Personally, I think dressing up for his taste, instead of yours, often, when you are about seeing each other can have a big effect. And also being handsy, not necessarily flirting but holding hands, touching him once in a while during conversations, hugging him for longer periods. You shouldn't be too stiff, or disciplined around him. Feel free!. Sweet talk him, don't make it sound fake, as if it is force. Allow it to flow naturally.  Joan: I also think that you should send him a love message every once in a while. Not a copy and paste one, just a simple, two/three line message will do. And also compliment him when he wears new clothes, perfume, haircut or anything at all you like. Let him know you feel good about it, so that he does it more often. Ask for his opinion often, and be willing to carry them out, just to make him know you value them.  Janice: I also think that you can find time to frame a picture of the two of you in a photogrid app and forward it to him. It's basically just the little things, cause as a lady, much is not really expected. I mean, you can find something of his interest and do it with him, or attend it with him. Tell him a secret; have a deep and meaningful conversation every once in a while. That really binds the two of you. Go out with him to a place you two love, drop your phones, get intimate, talk about something, don't force it, just be willing to interact and the rest will flow naturally. Jackie: Flirt with him on purpose, make him know it. Kiss him out of the blue. Do something naughty intentionally to get him in the mood. Tease him afterwards, let him work for it to spice up the romance. Desire to see him everyday, if not video call him, better still communicate often, love each other's company. It shouldn't be difficult; we complicate things ourselves.

I & Toya

Davis: I've been talking to Toya for a while now. I knew she was straight forward but she surely did sweep me off my feet last week charley. I find it interesting and tricky cause I'm not use to ladies being straight with me like that. She makes it exciting being around her cause she has her way with words. I know I'm better at it, laugh at loud!, but she always has the right way of saying and doing things; making it seem nice even though it's freaky. She once held my hand the entire time during church service, and even during offertory. She made it seem as if nothing was wrong at all. And the funny thing was, my hand never felt tired the entire time. I mean, she can sweet talk a guy into doing something, he would brag about never doing for a lady friend. So last week, we were having a conversation, forgotten what exactly it was about and she mentioned that she wants us to be more than friends. Immediately, I freaked out, cause we both knew dating wouldn't work out for us. You don't need to know why. But she went on to clarify what she meant, she said, " I don't want us to date cause we both know it won't work out, yet I want us to be more than friends. Something like friends with benefits.". She asked if I knew what that was, and I was like, I have a fair idea but I want her definition of that. And she said, I want us to be able to do anything, go anywhere, share anything, no restrictions at all, with only one condition; no sex. Then she asked if I was in, and I said, lemme go think about it. We both laughed so hard, cause she knew I was in. Then I woke up.

Up for Debate III

Adam:  Kissing her feels so good, but I'm a bad kisser, she says. I miss her body close to mine sometimes when I wake up horny. She is just so good in bed. I love the tenderness of her body. I have no problem licking and touching her all over just to get her in the mood. She always has a freaky style to lighten up the romance. Trying the same old styles doesn't really get her groove on. I'm just addicted to her love cause she always satisfies my hunger, not entirely though. Laugh out loud!. She's the only woman I crave for, and she only knows the extent I would go to have her on top of me again. She just knows how to do me right. Sometimes, it takes a while to get her in the mood, cause it demands a lot of working on her body, since she's mostly off. But after getting her in the mood, we let Jesus take the wheels.
Eve: The only love making I miss is we doing it under the shower. There is nothing like that feeling under the shower. Kissing and fondling ourselves just to set us up in the right groove. When your bodies feel slippery, restricting the friction in touching. He does my body right, but I always expect more new freaky stuffs, even though he is mostly creative with the touching and kissing. He never gets tired but I do eventually. And he is always in the mood which is mostly annoying and boring. But after he sets me right in the mood, we become one. We learnt to appreciate each others flaws and worked on it to better ourselves on every romance. I told him what I liked and didn't, what he should do more and shouldn't. He got better with time. I was very patient with him cause he was my man, and only option since we were only two on earth. Currently,  y'all have a lot of options lately so the least romance you have that doesn't suit your expectations, you run off to another's arms. Have you wondered how that fellow got that experience over time?. How lovely it is to grow together and be able to say how far you two have come, reminisce and laugh.

Up for Debate II

Sharon: He has no idea the extent of my love and I blame me for that. I've suffered a lot of hurting from this love, yet it never dies. It may not be easily noticed, cause it's been buried in a lot of pain. I lit up every time I see him out of the blue, but I get mood swings whenever he brings up certain topics I don't wanna talk about. The very one I'm tired of hearing is, "we need to talk", cause it never ends well. I won't deny my love for him, nevertheless certain things are better not said. He mentioned that I complained of him hiding me, meanwhile I never introduced him as my boyfriend to any of my friends and many more that really got to me though, but I ignored. I was crushed by the many things he said, that he had no idea of, cause I decided not to respond to them. He is such a sweet loving guy, who is not really decisive yet when he makes up his mind I'm certain he will stick to it all the way. He shares a lot of things with me and I appreciate that a lot. He has a little deficiency in cheering me up when I really need it. Notwithstanding, he is a talented writer, singer and super smart and I admire that about him. Any woman would be lucky to have him, cause he is unique, hence one of  a kind. Togetherness broke us apart, yet I miss his presence these days and that smile of his that gives me inner peace.

Up for Debate

Clinton: She might not love me the same, yet she's still my number one. I hold her high esteem cause she's taught me a lot in life. She has opened up my eyes to a whole lot of possibilities. I love her inside out, and that includes her flaws, one is she holding back her thoughts and not saying a thing when I am yearning to hear her speak, comment or reply. And that makes me assume a whole lot of things I shouldn't be, simply because she wouldn't tell me. She is the best woman you can ever have. She's simply the best without question or doubt. Her love is pure, kind, unfermented, precise, exact, undiluted; it is what it is. Even though, there is no new happy memories of us, I still clinch on to our past. That should tell you how wonderful she is. She saying hello brightens up my day, cause it reminds me of how we use to be. She's just a sweet lovely person, and I'm unhappy when I feel she's okay without me, cause I'm not without her. My heart gets weary when she cuts me off for days or stay silent when I need her to talk. I need her closer everyday, yet we get wide apart anyway. Cause we live in two separate worlds where everything is interpreted and perceived differently. I love her like I love my life, and that makes me unhappy. Togetherness broke us apart, cause things we deemed unnecessary to communicate had a tow on us eventually.

His Testimony Got Me Thinking

Griggs: Someone shared a testimony today which inspired me. He thanked God for having a purpose in life. That, for a couple of weeks now, he wakes up having a goal, and targets set for the day. And on top of it all, he can see progress in his life. He continued by saying, at first he woke up and moved whatever direction the wind blew him. But since, he found a reason for living, his whole life has transformed, and he wakes up with a certain zeal and energy to go through his day. Futhermore, he actually looks on to tomorrow, to finish whatever task he has to. After the testimony, the MC said, that the guy's testimony got her reviewing her life also. Definitely, she did have targets she wants to attain as well in life. But the measures in which she had put in place in order to get there, and the next step after reaching her target is what she was reviewing during the testimony. And what got her thinking the most was whether she had discovered fully her life's purpose. You know, sometimes you can be doing something with your life but deep down within yourself, you know, you are at the wrong place. You can just tell that this isn't your passion or purpose. And if it were up to you, you would be doing something different of your interest. I understand you perfectly, my only question is, "What is stopping you?". You may say I don't really understand your situation, yes I don't, but have you done anything about it?. And how far are you willing to go, to get where you want to get?. Remember, every celebrity you admire, really invested in their time and built themselves to a certain point that they are now paid millions just for their time. Because of the value they added to themselves over the years. The same 24 hours we all have. May we also get to that level where we would decide the amount we want to be paid for our service, because of the time we're investing in ourselves.

A Piece of Junk

Cardi: I decided to pick a taxify yesterday, it was my first time. I don't really like to try new things but I decided to anyway. Can you imagine the car broke down. What a huge let down it was. So I had to result to taking an Uber eventually. Another time, I went to a chinese restaurant and I decided to order for a drink I've never tasted before. And Lord knows how I regretted doing that. Another instance, I just wanted to intentionally do something to spite my guy which I have never tried before. And before I realized I was dating this new guy I just met. I have no idea how we got to that stage. And I had to cover things up and go through a whole episode of drama; breaking things off with this new guy. And I remember the first time I decided to go to the club, I got tipsy and that was the day I de-virginized, I still don't remember how that felt. I never regretted it though since it was with the right person. I think one time too I decided to give my number to this guy on our first encounter, which was during a bus trip, and I understood the adage, "prevention is better than cure". All I'm saying is, trying something new is needful and helpful sometimes, but it isn't always right. The fact that we say you must try new things or explore does not mean include a lot of junk. Some things on your bucket list are not necessary. Some mistakes will haunt you for the rest of your life. Tread cautiously!. But the main reason behind this writeup was out of boredom, and I guess you also read it because of the same reason. So why act as if I wasted your time?. Behaving as if you cannot find the head and tail of this writeup. Abeg shift, thank you for reading though. Maya call me, I miss you. Lol!.

The Love I hate

Fosu: Dad, Don't laugh about what I'm about to tell you. I know exactly what you would say after hearing this but I have to tell you anyway, just to make you happy. I think I married an unromantic lady. Laugh out loud!. I know I have been bossing you around about how unromantic you and mama are, and I ended up with one. I guess God would be up there smiling down on us, on such an interesting world He knows we live in. I mean I was blinded by love when we were dating, thinking things would change when we got married, yet weirdly things are still the same. I bet she even feels weird when she calls me honey or baby or sweetheart cause is something she is not used to. Can you believe she still calls me, Mr. Adu Mensah right from the start, up until now. She doesn't seduce me to get something she wants, neither does she sweet talk me to accepting to buy her something. She might beat about the bush and be all slow about carrying out the message yet it would be as plain as always. Even if she sounds romantic in the process she might not even notice herself until I point it out then she stops. So I don't mention it cause I don't want her to stop. She doesn't send any sweet, romantic messages out of the blue nor even on occasions. Its as if she sieves the message and remove any profane words before she forwards it to me. She doesn't even get sloppy at times and send a romantic message, just for me to say, "Where did I sleep today?". And she is shy to chop love in public, even amongst our friends. If I lean on her or hold her waist right now, she would lay me off after 30seconds.  So Dad, tell mom I feel her pain for marrying an unromantic man. 😂. Finally, you have something to laugh at me about. I guess karma is real after all.

Love II

Drew: I miss my girl, with every fibre of my body. The only problem is, she doesn't like me talking about it to her. So all I have left is to wish. To wish she was here with me, with her body close to mine. She lying down on her tummy, tweaking her ass while I jiggle my young man on her. Wishing we would kiss and cuddle with so much passion all night long, cause we would be on some freaking ecstasy. With all her curves and edges, and all her perfect imperfections. Lord have mercy on your son, for what I once was and what I have become. Save me from the enemy and my horny self. To live beyond the pleasures of my flesh and for the desires of  Your Spirit. Who else can I go to for help?. For You are my helper and my refuge, release me from the bandage of lustful desires and fornication. Make me whole again, renewed and revitalized for the things of You. For the Spinitial is willing but the flesh is weak. Let me love my woman sorely and let her love me only. And let our love be inseparable and withstand all temptations and trIals, without shrinking.  And let success and every good thing be ours and ours forever and ever.Amen.

Love

Welcome to the Month of Love; where romance, reconcilling, love-chats, love-songs, lovers, man-marking, hypertension, guilt, breakups, peace of mind, quarrels, desperation increases. Love is a beautiful thing when reciprocated, cherished and worked upon. Making it glow, sparkle and blossom. How deep is your love?. Yes, indeed love is measured in depth. Your love for people tells how you treat them. People don't really appreciate love mainly because of trust issues. Others may say they ain't the "love type" due to their upbringing or experiences  in life. But its quite certain everyone meets someone special they fall in love with at a point in their life, depending on the direction they take. There's a difference between falling in love with someone and having love for someone. One lasts and one doesn't. One can be overcomed by poverty, difficulty, hardship, sorrow, and others. Falling in love doesn't guarantee a successful marriage, cause love is not the foundation for marriage. Love does not make marriage work, in other words, don't marry someone cause of love. Okay, lemme say it right; falling in love with someone doesn't make them the right person for you. The application of knowledge sustains a marriage not the exchange of love. Think about this carefully. 90% answers to our problems are written in books. Learn for your unborn children, cause what you don't know are transferred to your kidz. The more you know, the more they can learn from you.

You & I

Tevez: Charley, adey feel very bad. Everytime, Ella needs me to sort her out, I'm unable to, My eyes are heavy with tears, cause I can feel her pain, eventhough she doesn't complain. If only I wasn't always broke. All I do is suggest solutions that doesn't even help. I can tell she isn't happy; my conversations with her are full of "Hmmm" these days. Its obvious she's fed up of this long talks without show. She has stopped discussing with me anything that involves money lately, cause she knows I cannot be of any good assistance. I don't remember the last time I bought her something that made her blush or scream out of happiness. I'm unable to ask her what she needs on an occasion, cause I cannot afford it. Neither am I able to ask how she got any new stuff she possesses. It surprises me she still sees me as a boyfriend, cause I don't match up to its definition. If being a boyfriend was a job title, I would have resigned, cause I'm tired of these disappointments. The fault is totally mine, I blame myself for putting her in this situation. But I know it wouldn't be like this forever. Any good thing starts on a rough note, and as such we are in our rough times. If only she would be patient; hold on tight and continue to be this caring, loving and supportive. We would surely be unstoppable and reach higher heights together.

Friday Night Outing

What do you think are the causes of these numerous breakups and divorces lately? Gabby and his friends deliberate on this issue on a friday night outing.
Gabby: Personally, I think ex's are the number one causes of breakups. That is why I told my woman to cut ties with any guy she had a fling with or dated. Cause is easy for these category of people to exploit us, since they already know us. They don't hesitate to tempt us, all they need is an inch or a loop hole and they are good to go. They don't see us beyond whom they knew us to be when they were with us. They still see us to be that person who gave themselves freely to them, without restrictions. So they feel, once we were theirs, we still do have an affection for them deep down. And all they need to do, is dig deep down within us to release that feelings for them; embedded in our hearts, held in captive. Dzifa: I agree with you perfectly, I think its not advisable to be close friends with someone after a sexual encounter, while we are dating or married to another. Cause our motives may be pure but we cannot say same about theirs. And I also think having a close friend, besties, twinny as an opposite sex isn't advisable when we are dating or married. Then what is the use of the person we are with?. I have no problem having one of the same sex. But why should it be an opposite sex when we are dating or married to another. That is what I don't understand. Anna: And the ones that meet a new person while dating or married to another, and they start opening up to them and telling them everything cause they seem easy to talk to. They meet up with them occasionally to talk and they get closer and closer with time. It gets to a point that they think they know themselves more than those they are dating or married to. And they feel reluctant to now mention him/her to the one they are dating or married to, cause they didn't from the start. And they end up having a sexual encounter with them, which they stop it along the way out of guilt. Now how do they tell their partner what transpired without their slightest knowledge throughout their entire encounter with this new person. I think this results in most breakups as well when they keep on getting messages and calls from this person and they keep quiet about it and their partner finds out themselves.

Is this a Prank or What? II

Cruise: Fast forward to three weeks later, we started dating. I judged her not by the circumstances we met, it only enlightened me on the type of person she was. She was a free-spirited person, and loved to be around people, and make friends. So she was mostly on phone with a new friend, which disturbed me not because I was used to it. She could go out with a different friend every weekend without seeing me in a month and she wouldn't be disturbed. Until I made an effort to see her, then she would comply, if not she had other options and I knew it too. Sometimes, for a month we wouldn't talk about anything, just the "hello, how you doing?" normal conversation. So oneday we decided to confess and spill out what we've been up to that the other knew not. I thought mine was worse so I was reluctant to say it. I told her that I kissed a girl, but nothing happened afterwards. She also said she went out to watch a movie with this guy, they went home afterwards and durng the conversation they got physical but she eventually stopped it out of guilt. I decided not to ask any question cause I knew for her to go to that extent without my knowledge then there was more to this guy. I only asked his name and that was all, I went to bed. We became very close but she was still seeing the guy once in a while. I asked her severally and she said they were just friends and nothing more, so I let it go. Two years later, we broke up and I heard she was dating the guy a month afterwards. That alone made me block her, cause clearly she took me for a fool.

Is this a Prank or What?

Cruise: I sat next to this fair skin colored girl in a taxi one fine morning. The girl was fine; spotless face, pink silky lips, thick eyebrows, brownish pupils, cute fingers with this nicely painted finger nails. And she kept staring at me, for some reason I knew not. At a point, I actually thought it was my imagination playing tricks on me so I turned to look at her and I realized it was no joke. She noticed I felt weird so she winked at me and licked her lips with a soothening laugher. Immediately I had goosebumps all over. This girl must be messing with me to her delight, I thought, or this might be a new tv show prank I have no idea about. So I started looking around for the camera, then a passenger had to get down, so she stood up. Lord have mercy; the girl ended up on my laps just because the driver sped off without notice. She got up after 3secs, took my hand and said sorry. I have never felt anybody as soft as she was, not to talk of her palms. I took out my tablet to reply messages after such an awkward moment cause work could be so stressful at times that you would forget to reply important messages. She saw a picture on my phone and asked who that was, and the conversation begun. She read a couple of my scripts on my phone and took my number to whatsapp me so we would chat often. And during our chat she just held unto my hand; only God knew why, cause I asked her and she said she didn't even know why. And that was how we became friends. Truly speaking, I have never made any friend with such drama on the first day. We laugh it off whenever this topic comes up everytime.

Do Hard VI

Gerrard: I woke up only to realize a female slept beside me. I panicked at first, but I got closer and noticed it was Kukua. I think I got too close that she noticed it in her sleep. She opened her eyes, stared awkwardly into my eyes for like 3minutes and whispered, "I love you". It actually felt weird, cause I have never had that experience of waking up to someone comfessing their love for me. I think my mind went on a break for a while, cause it was too much of a load to carry. By the time it was a little stable and I could now reason properly, Kukua wasn't laying next to me anymore. "What a way to start my day God", I looked upwards while saying it. I wondered where she had gone to, she wasn't at the kitchen, hall or bedroom. I had to even check the wardrobe, just in case. I was a little sleepy cause I hadly really had a goodnight sleep that night, so I headed back to my bed. I almost fell asleep when I saw her come out from the washroom, she was holding something. She laid next to me, kiss me and drop the piece of paper in my hand. I had an idea what it would be, guessing from the kiss. Yet it was only appropriate that I open it. So I leaned in and kissed her back, and before she realized it I had turned around to sleep. She wondered where the paper was and if I opened it. She closed her mouth only to realize the paper was inside, she took it out and opened it. She slapped me on the back after reading my reply. I guess you wondering what was written on the paper. She wrote, you are really good at it and I replied, Otwea, abi you enjoyed it.

Do Hard V

Miley: I think this was the best friday night ever. All we did was move from one place to the other. We talked, danced, laughed, hugged, looked into each other's eyes, and all the silly stuffs you can think of. She kept on disturbing me at first cause she was freaking hyper and I was as sober as a teddy bear, until I woke up from my slumber by taking in something that quickened my immune system. All of a sudden, we were doing dance moves that no one could imagine. And then the slow song came up, Ed Sheeran; Perfect, and that was when we started talking whilst dancing, looking each other in the eye. For a moment, it felt as if the room was empty and we were the only two in it. We even played a silly game called, "kiss me if you can". Lord knows she tried, but she just wasn't fast enough. She told me everything there was to know, about her family, how she grew up, how she thinks sometimes, what she loves and hates. It took us like 3hours to talk, but we did break from time to time to play any silly game that came to mind. From "kiss me if you can" to "show me your dance moves" to "what are your deepest secrets, fears" to "what filthy thought are you having right now" to "how romantic can you be" to "make me laugh" and many others. Immediatley we thought the place was getting boring or we weren't feeling the DJ, we left to a direction location. We didn't really eat anything, just drinks and meat. We made sure we wasted no drink or meat. We called us, the consumers. Before we realized it was 5am and we had to return home. We told ourselves that this stress realising outing would definitely happen again. And I woke up.

Do Hard IV

Kojo: I miss her voice; that silky, smooth, authentic, soft voice of hers, and the way she speaks when she's tired. She mentions my name in a certain tone that I love so much. But sometimes, she goes all formal on me and calls me with my surname. For real, I miss her, but my ego is as thick like that of a cathedral pillar. My mind and body is willing but my ego is too strong. It shuts me down anytime I make up my mind to call her, just to hear her voice. It springs up out of nowhere and mellows me with a whole different set of thoughts, just to disengage me from wallowing in my depression. I wonder how long I can keep up with this. I might break down if I do, yet my ego wants me to take the risk, with this lame reason I hate with passion. "If it's meant to be, she will reach out to me". But my question is, her ego is also using that same card on her?. Then it means we are both going to wait till eternity, or not. #BrainShutsDown

Do Hard III

Kojo: Boss, how far?, you are doing fine abi?. Abeg take this message show your sister gimme. Thank you.
" Maya, it's interesting how people behave sometimes. I thought it only happens in movies, whereby a guy goes to prison, having to endure a lot of pain, guilt, misery, ruthlessness, hunger and many more for a woman he loves, due to something they both did together. Only to end up in prison, and the woman neither visits him nor sends a message. He does his time and gets out of prison, the woman he loves hears about it and still does not call or visit him. All she does is grief inwardly without the guy knowing. He waits for her to reach out, or look for his whereabout but she does not. She posts indirect messages that the guy cannot tell what it means or whom its meant for, and he's thinking they've passed that stage of indirectness. Yet she expects him to visit or reach out to her after coming out of prison. And he is also filled with pain that the woman that he knew to love him could do this to him. He makes up his mind not to reach out or visit her until she does, cause he doesn't see why he should do the time in prison for the both of them without hearing from her, and she expects him to reach out to her first after coming out of prison. How inhuman can she be?, he thinks. What was wrong with giving me a call even if she couldn't come visit, just to check up on me?, he continues to grief. After going through such a series of heartbreaking thoughts, he finally decides to mind his own business as she also did when he ended up in jail and even on his release. He sees no reason while he should stress himself over someone who showed no concern during his time of crisis".

Do hard II

Jeff: Ruby, there is something bothering me for a while now. Can I share it with you?. Its no big deal, don't give me that serious face already. Its about Aisha actually, I want to know if its just me escalating the issue or you would too if you were in my shoes. We went to watch a movie last week Monday and since then I haven't heard from her. Why are you laughing already?. I'm serious, kindly put on a serious face. The reason I'm asking is that, I accompanied her after the movies to her house since it was late, but the unfortunate thing happened. Two guys approached us right in front of her house, one was holding a knife. Luckily, I was able to hold them back for her to escape leaving me behind with these two dunkards. They wanted my phone only, they said. Fortunately for me, I managed to outwit them by speeding off non-stop for almost 30minutes until I lost them. I got home with bruises all over and all I wanted was a call from Aisha to ask if I'm fine and what happened but I got nothing. It took me 3days to fully recover and come online, and there she was. She realized I was back online yet she didn't whasapp me or send a text message. Its been 2weeks now and still nothing. Sincerely, I don't understand this. Ruby: Don't stress yourself too much, she would finally come around. Just give her the space she deserves and continue to live your life.

Do Hard

Floyd: Charley Kofi, have you heard about Johnson and Mildred's issue?. I bet you have heard but you didn't know it was them, cause it was the talk of the group page the whole of yesterday. Not the class group page, the other one Jude created which comprises of Johnson, Mildred, James, Yaa, Osteen, Hilda, Karen, Jill, you and I. They were saying that Johnson was

Dear Future Husband II

Wilson: I don't usually talk about my woman but sometimes we have to, and this is one of those times. I love my woman and I'm aware of her weakness, that is why I'm always around to keep her together. But I won't always be around to keep her in check; work or education might keep us apart for a while in the future and that shouldn't be a problem. Just to have an idea how she would behave when we end up in a long distance relationship, cause we're usually around each other. Due to that, I decide to absent myself from her life for a couple of days just to see how she would react and how long we both can take it. I've realized she has this ego she needs to overcome, and I'm ready to help her out. Whenever we quarrel or there is a little gap between us, all she does is sit and wait for me to call or text her first. And I always come through for her by doing that, but there will be a time I wouldn't. I bet when that time comes, we would both wait for eternal. I love her to the bone, she's sweet, wow and lovely, all rubbed up in one. We love to have fun, she looks sweet in anything and she loves to try something new everytime, and I love that about her. I know how to get her along even when she doesn't feel like it. She's troublesome, yet she acts as if I'm the troublesome one. Shes's not so picky and she claims she has eyes for classy things, but who doesn't?. Laugh out loud!. We don't usually see eye-to-eye on a lot of things, and that can get scary sometimes. She may love something, I don't see the need to, and vice versa. I think we were made for each other, and there's a lot of things we have to discuss over a date. Laugh out loud!.

Dear Future Husband

Jane: If this isn't love then I wouldn't know what to call it. Cause his silence is even enough when I'm with him. I don't need any third party: my phone, to keep me company. I forget I do have a phone sometimes, until someone calls me, cause there's never a dull moment with Freddy. We could just be sitting staring at each other's face and that doesn't make me bored at all. He always knows what to say at the right time, he knows how to piss me off, turn me on, shut me up, make me behave, keep me silent, keep me talking, turn my groove on, lit me up, make me smile, make me laugh, make me cry, keep me going. He's just the one for me; I'm so #teamFreddy for life. What more can I possibly ask for?. I know I do stress him a lot by asking for stuffs I know he cannot afford, but sometimes you've got to push a man to reach his full potential, in order to get him to that higher heights you expect of him. And I know exactly how to do that with Freddy and he's cute too on top. Disturbing him is just so fun, cause he is so troublesome indoors, and all calm and quiet when we're outside. He knows that I would get him too when he's disturbing me, so he does it so well, so that when his time comes to be disturbed, he knows he deserves it. He's a little indecisive when it gets to making certain simple decisions like what to do first and what to do later, and I also have trouble choosing what to wear and what to eat and where to go. So we mostly help each other since we know each others weakness, and we've learnt to cope with it too. He can be hilarious at times and serious too. The good part is that, is not that difficult telling whether he's kidding or serious. I know him inside out, yet he still surprises me per his decisions and actions sometimes. I've made up my mind to stick with him and groom him into my future husband. And we're surely on the right path.

Please don't fall into trouble

Alex: Sincerely, my prayer is that you never fall into any trouble this year. It's very hard to recover after falling into trouble these days. Cause everyone is busy looking out for themselves, caring little about others. It's not like we don't care, we do a lot, but it's difficult putting others first when we might get affected alongside. Its quite a painful thing to experience, it changes your thinking, mindset and perspective about humans. Many people after getting out of trouble, do so with trust issues and its very difficult recovering from that. An example: Kwesi tells Akua, his parents would be away this weekend so they could step out without worries. Akua gives him the idea of getting Kwame, Ama, Yaa and Kojo to join them in his house instead. And that they could just order pizza and drinks and have a movie night, play truth or dare, pick and act, dare-devil and many other interesting games. He does and it ends up becoming such a memorable event, they got to bond really well and had some lonely times with themselves as well. Kwesi directed every pair into their room after playing the dare-devil game. There was a lot of noise during that game actually, which would have drawn their neighbors attention, cause they were made to do crazy things they never thought of doing. Yaw nearly broke up with Ama during the game, cause she gave Kwesi a hand-job while wearing his boxers, yet it was just mind-blowing. Yaw was also made to dance with Yaa, to Wendy Shay's song, and the kind of moves that evolved during this dance is not something healthy to disclose. Kwame and Ama were made to kiss, which was lovely to watch, then every pair started making-out as well in the dark. Finally, everyone was in their seperate rooms until morning. They all had a nice chat in the morning, had breakfast and departed to their various houses. Kwesi decided to go escort Akua, then Kwesi's father called that they were infront of the house. Kwesi had to run home, on his way he called each of his friends to check if they left anything behind. They were a bit skeptical if they did, but Kwame said he might have left his condom and sperms all over the bed-spread, Yaa said her night wear too and the worst of all was that; none of them rearranged the place before leaving. Kwesi's mind was all over the place, knowing not what to say if asked what happened. He began praying, cause he remembered his Sunday School teacher use to say, "Prayer is the key". A whole week passed and none of his friends called to ask what happened to him, whether he found a way out or he was punished. None of them also helped him out with what to say either. All of them just stayed quiet, waiting for him to call so they would ask what happened. So tell me, after this experience, do you think Kwesi would risk doing anything for his friends again?. This wasn't even that serious of a trouble and they all left him hanging.

The Feeling that comes with a New Year

Yaw: I guess most of us have lost the fresh vitalizing feeling that comes along with a new year and a new beginning and a fresh start. Have you ever been caught up between two troubles; one at work and the other at home?, and its like no where is safe anymore. There you would understand better, the agony the Isrealites went through, discovering the red sea infront of them and the Egyptians right behind them. It's a new year once again and most of us are hoping for God's intervention in our lives. While others just don't really care anymore, cause they've lost their hope that things would get better. Their faith of "better days ahead" have been shredded to pieces, year after year. They voted for change and yet things never changed. They thank God for what they have and how far they've come, yet they bare a grudge with Him within them. God, sincerely we thank you for every little thing you did for us in 2018, we're overwhelmed by the greater things as well. We are expectant this year once again. Some of us have no new plans for a couple of years now, cause our old plans 2years ago and more hasn't been fulfilled. Yet we know we will have testimonies day in and day out this year. We thank you, Oh Lord that you still keep us and we have lives to boost of. Into your hands we commit this year once again, our hope, aspirations, joy, happiness, peace of mind, comfort, love, protection, guidance is in You. You are our direct pipeline and source, we thank You once again. And we know that You never disappoint and You won't ever too. Our dreams and aspirations this year are in Your hands once again, do Your thing.