Achiaa: I don't know if I'm the only one who feels this way lately, but I'm just being real that's all. Cause it took me a while to love myself, mainly because people's opinions of me got to me. But the incredible thing is, with time we all grow out of it. Suddenly, what people think of us doesn't get to us no more. It's all based on our experiences in life. Experience has taught us that people who want to change us rather than loving us for whom we are, in the end, leave us hanging for another. I've had people tell me, "I love you, but if you could work on your tummy at least, cause I like my women wearing bodycon". So I started going to the gym to be in shape for this guy. I think it might be a good thing to at least get to see your partner's ex, even if it's their picture, cause then you get to know the kind of people they are attracted to, cause there is always a trend or type or characteristics they like. It might answer a little bit of the "why you?" question. For me, I'm not really interested in finding out. Sometimes, knowing too much also creates unnecessary doubts. Already, we are living in a world where the majority have trust issues, so why give them a reason to, when you can avoid it. My brother had this lady he opened up to very often, I mean they could talk for hours which annoyed me, cause she told him, she rejected his proposal because of the way he talks a lot about things that worry him. It taught me to keep things to myself; some things are just better not shared. Anyways, now I'm single cause the guy left me for someone of his specifications. So the question is, why did he have to waste my time if I wasn't his choice all along. So after this experience, it doesn't matter how you feel about me. If you do not love me for me then I'm sorry I won't commit. Basically, it is our experiences in life that have made us who we are now. Experience teaches us nothing, but evaluated experience teaches everything. Also, reflection turns experience into insight,
