Friday 22 January 2016

Good to Feel Free

When you're interacting with someone, it's easy to ask questions like "How was your day?" but it's a lot harder to ask the big questions like "What are your thoughts on religion?" .Cause that's very awkward. When someone says to you, "How was your day?" don't respond with, "Fine. Yours?" Be more open than that. Give details. Provide examples. Share stories. People will feel more connected to you (and will probably share some of their own stories) if you open up to them. And staying in the moment means really making an effort, right in that moment, to connect with someone else. Don't think about the things you have to do later. Don't worry about what you didn't get done that day. Be present.

Esmeralda's Story

I'll be honest: I'm not a very open person. If I were a door, I would be locked most of the time. For various reasons (I won't get into them here because I'm pretty sure you don't have all day to read this post), I'm suspicious and distrusting of others. Because of my lack of trust, I password-protect everything. I'm obsessed with guarding my writing, to the point that I hesitate to let others check their email on my computer, narrowing my eyes and quickly replying, "Why? What for?" when asked if I can lend my computer for a moment. This, I know, is a problem. It's a good thing to know your problem, accept them and work towards them as well.

Explore Yourself More

You would never know how persuasive you are until you get a phone call and a friend of yours is on the brink of committing suicide. How fast you can run until you been chased by a dog. How brave you are until a thief is running off with your iPhone 6s. How smart you are until you start making up stories. How caring you are until a friend of yours is sick. How romantic you are until you meet someone you love. How un-shy you are until you organizing a friend's drink-up. How funny you are until you meet someone who always laughs at your jokes.
How silly you are until you start giving silly comments. How annoying you are until you start showing attitude. How careful you are until you buy a new car. How brilliant you are until you have a day to complete a pdf. How discipline you are until you are given a prestigious position. How friendly you are until you feel bored. How punctual you are until you have a flight to catch. There's more to you than you think.

Trust your Struggle

Clark: There is always a lesson to be learned in life, always something we can take away from a situation. Every cloud has a silver lining. Situations we go through life help shape us mentally, emotionally, and physically, these things do not happen for no reason, they happen cause they're helping us become the person we supposed to become. It shapes our thinking, due to our experiences.
Not anyone believes this because they know the hell they've been through and that it's easier said than done. They just don't understand why God would allow their business collapse, baby or relative die, mother go on comma just before school reopening, father go jobless for someone's mistake. In fact, all hell breaks lose on them and God would watch them struggle like no man's business. And you wanna tell them all that is for "some reason". They seriously don't wanna hear the Story of Job during such times, it really pisses them off. But they forget God also watched His One and Only Son, Jesus Christ, go through hell just for "some reason". What about that?..
One thing I have discovered in life is that, the causes why things happen are easily known with good analysis but for reasons why thimgs happen, it takes a long while to actually discover after critical analysis. Some don't understand theirs, because they choose not to, others find it pointless.
Some say, it is what it is and move on. But sometimes the reason why we struggle is to pave way for others or our generation or become a role model for others like Nelson Mandela or helps us think twice when opportunities come our way. Sometimes, it could a curse someone placed on our parents. Remember, when Jesus met the man born blind and healed him. He was asked if he was blind because of the sins of his father or mother. Jesus replied, no, he was born blind to be healed for the glory of God to be shown. Believe it when we say, "Everything happens for a reason".

Does Everything happen for a reason


Does everything happen for a reason? Yes, it does. Nothing happens without a cause. The unspoken premise of the question is at fault. The query is questioning whether something can happen without divine intelligent control. Regardless of the reality of that argument, the logical truth remains that nothing can happen without something causing it. If a coin is flipped, it will come to rest as heads, tails, or on its edge. Any of the three outcomes have an exact reason for the final result. All of the elements of that reason may not be understood, but taken as a group, contributed to the outcome.

Tuesday 19 January 2016

Collete's Story

Trust me, since I was first held down and raped at 5 years old, I have tried to find a meaningful reason or purpose to explain it, but there just isn’t one. Not everything is meant to be. I like to think that if they could, God’s followers would try to intervene and help me if they saw my childhood body being broken and abused, and not just write it off as something that was meant to be, and will make me stronger one day. When people say it ‘happened for a reason’ – although I know they’re trying to be hopeful and optimistic- it feels like they are absolving the perpetrator of blame or wrong doing, and denying me the right to be upset or damaged by my past. They say ‘the abuse doesn’t matter, what matters is how you grow and recover from it’, but actually these are horrendous things that need to be processed, not dismissed.
For me, pretending that everything awful thing that happened to me is just an opportunity for self-improvement and part of a perfect plan, that I can’t understand yet, is more often harmful than hopeful. I have tried to grow and strengthen through all the abuse I suffered, and I’m going to continue trying to make the most of where I am, but I’m not going to pretend being raped and beaten has improved me. It has shattered me. (You may have a similar story but I pray Romans 8:28 would keep you going.)

Controversial Topic

When I hear some people say they have no reason for what they did, it keeps me wondering. In principle I do believe everything happens for a purpose. We may never know the purpose, may not need to or may not be ready to know the purpose. Looking for the purpose may also not be the most helpful thing at certain times. I believe God’s plans are comprehensive and always carried out. He is not a weak God being surprised or stumped by tragedies and disasters. He is in absolute control. And He is good. I would rather avoid the risk of painting God as out of control. I believe we cannot even try to interpret His motives unless He reveals them to us. I believe in hiding in His Almighty Power.

A Break Off

It's a good thing to give yourself a break once in a while
just to get your mind off things. It helps you regain focus
and think straight if you weren't. It also enables you to rethink
and reconsider any hasty decisions you made. You'll surely realize
your mistakes and correct them if you want to. Brings you back on
track if you were distracted. It's a necessity, that's why we grant leave
permits at work places to take some time-out and also during sports to
help players release tension. Give yourself a break!