A Wrong Turn

Some mistakes we make ain't fixable, we just have to
live with it as it is. Realized why some people commit
suicide regardless how many loved ones they have. Sometimes,
we need someone we can pour out our heartfelt desires to but we wonder
if they would feel our pain. They may end up saying if someone could
do it, we should be able to do it as well, but that doesn't help, even though
it does to a point. I had a feeling I was lost the very moment I found myself
in a science class in senior high school, I liked reading but all the good students
in my junior high school were encouraged to offer science based on their good performance in both science and math as well. I always encouraged myself I could make it but I did really struggle anyway. So I know how it feels like taking the wrong turn, trust me I do and keeping it ourselves doesn't help us.

Think About

Having someone on your mind once in a while isn't a bad thing
you know. Doesn't mean in anyway you obsessed with the person or
you have fallen for the person. You just have them on your mind to keep
you smiling or happy because you admire their personality. Thinking about
someone doesn't make you weak, it makes you care and it is between you and
yourself if you don't want them knowing you do. Cause some people say if
they realize you cared, they will walk over all over you or use it to their advantage.
But my question is, whom do you normally think about and why?

Wish You Were Here

Has anyone ever told you this before?
What occasion was it?, Where you the only one the person told?
Did it feel sincere?, or was it just something the person said
in order to make you think you missing a lot or to feel special?.
Once a friend visited me and whilst escorting her she looked at me
and said "I enjoyed your company", I was very touched.
After a while, I found myself sitting by her during church service
after which she said same, but it didn't feel as it was the first time.
Realized that the frequent use of most phrases or words makes it lose it's
taste but not with this very phrase, "Wish you were here". During such a moment,
even if you thought of committing suicide you would hold that thought back.

Appearance

We easily intimidated by the visual aspect of people.
It becomes difficult for us to lay before them what we wanna
tell them. We fumble if we manage to find a way to talk to them.
We later keep gnashing our teeth after our awful experience with
them, thinking we could have done better. We later get another
chance of speaking to them and we start fumbling again, it's as if
our body is giving us up and all the words we rehearsed to say are
escaping from our minds. It's a normal feeling.

September Rush

I know this obviously sounds silly but it's a real deal.
This is a season whereby freshers, that is newly admitted
students into the university are being spotted-out by the
continuing students and many grab one for themselves.
It is the most celebrated and acknowledged season of all
semesters. During this period, freshers are enlightened and
welcomed into the real world. Some make mistakes they regret
for the rest of their life, but others read in-between the lines
and for others they come with a totally different mindset.

It's a very interesting time of the semester.

Technique 2

Some simple ways are as follows: (Doesn't always work)
Done towards someone you've said hello to a couple of times or someone you in talking terms with not someone you just met, greatly depends on your approach and confidence.
1.You can trick them into asking for your number to find out some sort of information if you two are chatting on-line. Thus if you excuse yourself at the moment you are to deliver the information and that you may not return soon since your on-line time is done and they may need the info urgently.
2. Invite them to an interesting program and act as if you already have their number by telling them you will send them the details later and start walking away.
3. If you attend the same lecture or extracurricular activity or same church, anything at all you two participate in, you can use that to ask for their number in case of any update or needs help in practicing.
4. You can also trick them into calling you by wanting to hear your new caller tune or people have been saying you have weird ring tones so you wanna verify. Since they have your number and you also have their number now. Don't be in a hurry to say hello after a day or two, hold on.
5. You can directly ask for their numbers after you've been friends for quite a while and been chatting often. It could be through a social media if you haven't met the person yet or face-to-face if you know the person.
6. Lastly, If you get their number through a friend, or through your own devious means just have a good reason for calling or texting and explain why you needed the number so they wouldn't ask a lot of questions. Eg. Hello, this is Ehud your church member, got your number through our choir group, just want to wish you a merry Christmas and to ask how you doing? and the timing should be right.

Phone Number

Getting someone's number could be very difficult depending on your confidence level.
The kind of approach you use also counts a lot though. Lemme help you out with a little
approaches you could adopt:
Don't get someone to get you their number, if you really serious about them. Also don't trick the person by saying your phone is off and you need theirs to make an urgent call. They wouldn't take you serious if you say hi afterwards. So if you are truly interested in them, doing it face-to-face is the best way and not through emails or facebook if you know them in person.

False Friends

I've been lucky enough to figure these things out early enough in my life such that my life is filled with good friends upon whom I can rely on. With these tools, you learn to distinguish between friends and acquaintances. Fine to have both as long as you know who can differentiate.
False friends:
* Only call when they need something.
* Only call when they wanna talk badly about someone else.
* Love drama. (and wanna be part of it)
* Always make you feel low about yourself.
* Never have time for you.
* Listen only as far as something pertains to them.
* Dump you the moment they pick up a romantic interest and return only when it is over.

Pretending to Like You

1. Jealousy
Your accomplishments makes them insecure.
2. When discouraged
 They always make fun of your failures.
3. Conveniently friends?
They stick around if they need you to get things done and ignore you afterwards.

4. Ask for help

Just text them you need help but don't describe the kind of help and observe them.
5. Notice how often they break their promises
It could be that they only like your company but soon enough they may replace you.
6. Do they make you feel bad in front of others?
Making fun of you with sensitive topics that will hurt you shows how they careless.

Make them Love You 3

Being Lovable
1. Work on being the best you. (No pretending)
2. Take good care of your body.
3. Give your life a purpose and direction.
4. Be nice to others as well.
5. Show them the best side of you. (Again no pretending)
6. Afterwards let them see your good and bad side whether they can cope.

Preparing for emotional hurdles
1. Be emotionally available. (Don't be confused from the start)
2. Be sure that you are the one. (Be serious with your feelings)
3. Have a pure motive. (eg. Not because you want to make someone jealous)
4. Have a long-term goal for your relationship. (Not the let's try and see one)
5. Believe that there are other people. (Move on if you ain't the one)

Make Them Love You 2

Earning their Heart
1. Show them love during difficult times.
2. Make yourself significant in their life.
3. Show them how much you care through sincere actions.
4  Ask them out on a date. (Be straight-forward.)
5. Be a great date. (First days out are very important.)
6. Go the extra mile.

Loving Right
1. Respect them. (Never judge them nor make them feel bad.)
2. Be a good friend. ( Make them our best friends)
3. Remember that you are two separate people. (Don't try to change them)
4. Let them be whom they are, how they are.
5. Let them make choices about their time and private space.

Keeping them in Love
1. Don't ever take them for granted.
2. Don't stop putting in effort.
3. Make a commitment.
4. Always do something new and exciting together.

Make Them Love You

Sometimes we meet some people and we know know: it's love.
However, it isn't always easy to see the wonderful qualities of some
people right away. They may need a little push to realize that maybe they love you
too. Remember theit there is no way to make someone fall in love with you that wouldn't
want love that was forced anyway. But, with time and effort, you may be able to be for
them all the amazing things that they are for you. Here are tips for getting that special
someone to have eyes only for you but the rest depends on you:
Developing a bond:
1. Find someone that is right for you.
2. Get to know them.
3. Involve yourself in things they love.
4. Make them feel special.
5. Create trust.

Make Them Not Love You

If someone is madly in love in you and you don't feel the same way about the person or your ex wanna get back with you and you don't love them anymore. It could also be that you don't want to be rude by hurting someones feelings by telling them you don't love them. Then these are the steps to make someone not love you;
 1. If he/she calls start complaining about anything.
2. Ignore them on phone. (eg. Oh sorry one min, I want to watch this TV show)
3. Have a childish attitude. (eg. Compliment everyone but ignore them)
4. Be irrational. (make no sense when you speak especially when they are serious)
5. Say things like he/she deserves it. (eg. when they get beaten by the rain)
6. Hardly answer calls. (Say that you busy and can't really talk)
7. If they message you a paragraph reply in two words..
8. Don't sympathize at all.
9. Make yourself unavailable.(esp. If they want you to come out)
10. Be embarrassing to be with. (eg. Telling them what to do)
11. Be a push over. (Force them to do things)

Don't Take For Granted

Never take someone's feelings for granted. If you realize they are
beginning to show interest in you and you don't feel same just make it
known to them. Could be either through words or gestures. How to realize
they into you before is too late are as follows;
You will notice that he or she looks at you differently and smiles a lot
when you're around. Be considerate of their feelings cause once someone is into
you your actions mean a lot to them. Be gentle
And when someone doesn't talk with you it doesn't mean they don't like you,
sometimes they are shy. Let's be careful not to mistaken friendliness for flirting,
you could end up getting disappointed or hurt.
If in anyway you get suspicious that they like you, then you definitely do not want
to ask them, "Do you like me?". This could make the person more shy and probably never want to try to ask you out or answer you. Never give them more space than needed. You may lose the person since the person may try to sacrifice the love between you, if you have expressed lack of interest.
I'm talking about someone who truly loves you so someone whose in for something.

How to know 2

Another way of realizing that someone is truly into you is
what they often do around us. In the previous episode we talked
about things they mostly say. In this episode we emphasing on what
they do. As they say "actions speak louder than words"
Let's get started already;
1. Observe if the person listens to anything you say
(Or do they change the subject?)
2. Observe if the person is always there for you as they say they would
(Are they only around during the happy moments?)
3. Observe if the person does nice things for you
(Or do you always have to ask first?)
4. Observe if the person always wants to be around you
(Or they give excuses they want to miss your face?)
5. Observe if the person knows when to give you space
(Is it infatuation or love?)
6. Observe if the person truly understands you
(Are your gestures understood properly?)
7. Observe if the person wants the best for you
(Are you mostly laughed at instead of being comforted?)
8. Observe if the person supports you
(Do they believe in you?)
9. Observe if they can truly themselves around you
(Are they comfortable not looking perfect?)
10. Observe if the person is happy to be around you
(Or you are needed only for a moment?)
11. Observe if the person gives you goodly eyes
(Do they look at you in the goofy, watery, silly, adorable way?)
12. Observe if the person is giddy around you
(Do they laugh for no reason?)
13. Observe if the person is upset when you're upset
(Are they affected by your emotions as well?)

How To Know

We are easily deceived by people's actions into believing they into us.
There's no guaranteed way to know if a person truly loves you, but there are a few ways to read the signs to figure out what is on the mind of your loved one. If you'd like to know if the person you love truly loves you back, then you have to pay attention to how the person acts, what they say, and what they do when you're together. Though love may mean something different to every person, there are many ways to tell if a person truly loves you instead of just having a crush on you, liking you a lot, wanting your money, or just being momentarily infatuated with you. If you want to know if that person truly loves you, just follow these steps
1. See if the person talks about your future together.
(What are their reactions when you talk of your future together)
2. See if the person gives you meaningful compliments.
(It's the quality, not the quantity)
3. See the way the person says I Love You
(There's a big difference between love ya and I Love You)
4. See if the person opens up to you.
(If he mostly says  "I've never told anyone this before..." )
5. See if your love one tells you how much they miss you if you are apart.
(How often do they text, email or text you?, or Do they give excuses?)
6. See if the person is comfortable at pointing out your mistakes.
(Healthy amount of criticisms, not too much)
7. See if the person truly values your opinion.
(Mostly on stuffs that matters to them)
    To be continued

Whom To Trust

Some people are good at listening but not at advising.
Others are good at advising but listening is a problem since
they think they've heard similar stories as ours. Others don't
listen at all, they just like to know if they have in anyway contributed to our trouble.
Others listen and even ask questions but end up using us as case study. It's not compulsory
to trust someone but it prevents us from making certain mistakes that we can't see ourselves.