Monday 29 January 2018

Talk to Miss Guma

Joy: Miss Guma, I have a strong feeling my boyfriend is cheating on me. Anytime, he begins to distant himself from me, after a while, I realize, someone else has been getting all of his attention. On two occasions, he has done that. The first time, we were still friends. The second time, things were complicated between us. And again, I am having the same strong feeling that he is gone back to his old habits, which is really eating me up. I cannot confront him straightforward because I cannot really tell. If I go ahead and ask him, and I am wrong, it would really mess things up between us. So what should I do?
Miss Guma: I do understand your situation my daughter. But how sure are you, that you two are dating now?. Does he introduce you to others as his girlfriend?. If not, you should know that breaking up with you wouldn't be a problem for him. That also shows he either does not love you enough or he is just playing with your emotions. I mean, take time to think things through. Again, does he really break up with those girls?. Do you have any prove or whatsoever or you just take his word for it?. I think you should bring up a sensitive topic concerning your relationship with him and cautiously study his response and reactions, you would know where you stand, there and then. It could also be that you are just over reacting.

Friday 26 January 2018

Framing the question is difficult

Gerald: Why do people do that in the first place?. I bet you would also relate to this feeling fully. Spare me a minute or more, while uncover what you already know. Framing the question is just a little difficult than I expected. But the idea is quite easier to grasp, if only you can relate to the experience. So the question is; why do we want to risk the good relationship we have by having someone else on the side?. Seeming like one isn't enough for us or we ain't satisfied with one. I do really wanna understand this one. What is really lacking with the one we have that we result to having another on the side. Some people just like having an open relationship. At least they make their intentions clear. Few like to keep their relationship matters secretive. Many like to let everyone else know whom they're dating to show they're proud of their partner. These people know what they want, which is also a good thing. Cause you would know how to relate with them on certain issues. But one little problem I'm having is with the category of people, who cannot choose who they really want. So virtually, they decide to move with the flow. It's like this month, Ama has shown interest repeatedly, okay let's give her a shot. Next two months, Yaa is really making the effort. Next four months, Akua have proven herself, vice versa. And it keeps rotating. We just better make up our minds before we get into someone's rotational relationship routine also. I'm just saying!

Wednesday 24 January 2018

Meet Asante Bota

Bota: I think this picture portrays only 30% of my fineness. Oh yeah!, I'm a very fine girl. Sometimes, I feel like, the word 'fine' does not really describe me in my full abilities, but rather a limitation. I mean, you can say that I'm sweet but that wouldn't be enough. You can try eloquent, dashing, flashy, on-point, but I'm not really a fan of classifying beauty with adjectives. I usually don't like to do make ups cause I like to look normal often, which is difficult being overly beautiful. But I still try to blend with my environment by not giving too much pressure to others, cause I practically look good in everything. I do go to the gym every once a week to keep my shape intact, cause I don't fancy a protruding tummy. I have a lot of girlfriends with tummy issues that messes up their great shape. And I don't wanna be a victim so I try my best by taking precautions. Most ladies suffer from inferiority complex issues when it comes to beauty. As for me, I don't need anyone to compliment me, I do that all the time in my mirror every morning. Even before others add up theirs. And that's called Self Love.

Monday 22 January 2018

Something You Should Know

Blaq: I would love you to know me; inside out. The only problem is, I'm afraid of the outcome. I know you might be thinking I'm not capable of loving. Cause one moment I'm like; l'm in love with you, another moment; my actions are contracting my words, bla bla bla. And that makes you see me as emotionally vulnerable. I totally get you if you think that way about me. Cause I'm very aware you've witnessed people taking advantage of my emotions. But please don't define me by my past. I wouldn't mind if you decide to leave me for whom I am, even though it may break me. Deep down within me, I know that if you knew certain things about me, you wouldn't love me for me. Cause you've grown to love this person that deep within, I'm not. It hurts that you see me to be emotionally unstable. If only I could erase that thought from your head. I know that is the only reason why you're holding back. Same with me thinking you're insecure. And I've realized you sometimes don't communicate where you go or whom you're talking to on the phone with or whom you're with, with me. Please don't get me wrong. I'm not saying you're hiding something, only saying don't make it seem like it. And Linda said I should tell you not to use her to kill your boredom, find someone else.

Saturday 13 January 2018

Grateful Soul

Gregg: I'm forever grateful to the LORD for how far I have come. Few years ago, I was a young boy trying to figure out life. But here I am in a new year, having my career goals and life ambitions written down. Acting all grown up and putting my life in order. Focusing on my strengths and leaving my weaknesses to God, since He had me figured out, right from when I was a clot of blood in my mama's womb. Outrightly, He knows me better than I know myself. And He knows the path that accomplishes my life's purpose. I couldn't be more thankful than I am now. At first I was a bit skeptical as to whether He had a hand in this path of life I chose. But now I'm rest assured He truly does. Cause when I sit down and reminisce about my past up until now. I just see everything fitting in perfectly and it all makes sense now. All along I was thinking this path I chose was as a result of my shortcomings. But then I realized, my shortcomings are perfected in Him. And I would have been forcing myself down a path I would be thinking is right for me. For He made me smart to my level. Had He made me overly smart I would have chosen an entire different path. And had He made me less smarter I wouldn't have gotten this far. For He knows the full length of my capability. And unto one He gave 1talent, another He gave 2talents and another He gave 5talents, according to their capabilities. It's never too late to know your life purpose as well.