Lousy Misunderstanding

Blaise decided to go home after school today. It was blackout at
 home so his sisters decided to relax at the balcony since it was hot inside.
The sun was really scorching that day, so about 60seconds away from the
house he started taking off his top whilst he was maundering about the weather
condition. Little did he know his younger sister had spotted him from afar
and shouted  "Look, BB  is becoming mad oo". His other sisters hearing this
turned in his direction and join in the howling. He heard the noise coming from
his house and looked towards that direction. He then realized he was the cause
of the wailing, since his sisters were pointing fingers at him and looking at him with disgust. He turned around started running away whilst he was thinking about all the naughty stuffs he had done in school that semester. Counting the number of friends that knew his siblings in his head. Would you have done any different if you were him?. Yeah obviously.

Meeting Someone

We all meet someone new everyday. It could either be
through a friend, face-book, whatsapp, twitter and many others.
At the start the friendship maybe a little shaky but after a week we
just know where exactly the person fits in our life. Whether the ignore,
rejection, friendship or relationship zone. It all depends on us and how we
relate to them. Meeting someone isn't any more exciting cause we just know
we ain't gonna meet anyone different from the group of people we know and
have categorized. But is actually our lifestyle that attracts certain kinds of people
into our life. Even though some people are just lessons in our life. 

Ruining Your Chances

Have you met anyone you think have been ruining
your chances with others?. Is like they introduce
you to their friends by saying meet my husband.
Or they mostly all over you in public making people
think otherwise but you know very well there's nothing
between you two but others just can't believe so. Cause
you two are mostly seen together and you seem to like
each other from people's observation but is the other way
round. And you used to being around the person that when
you start distancing yourself cause of what people think
it would be like you two fought or something so you just say
to hell with what people think and do what you do.

Avoiding Heartbreak

I understand why people get heartbroken when
they could see the signs from the word go but are
still blinded by love. I don't blame them entirely
but the ones they fall for. We are the ones who are
simply heartless by leading you on with false hopes
knowing very well we have lost interest. But we just
don't know how to tell you with the excuse of not wanting
to lose you, hurt you, upset you and many more. It's up to you
to read in-between the lines during such times. And you should
take note of comments like I almost choose you as my boyfriend
or girlfriend. This shouldn't make you happy, it's rather a clear
indication you've been rejected. And don't think you have a shot
if you try harder or something, cause the sentence designates the fact
that we have targeted someone else. Comments like these are actually a
full package but we seem to misinterpret it. Also when we always find a way
to change the topic when you bring up anything concerning relationship or
matters concerning both of us. And when we seem to ignore your i miss you
or i love you messages or sometimes we simply just smile or divert the topic
in reply cause we don't wanna go down that road with you. As I said earlier,
it's up to you.

Proving a Point

I noticed that it's not every time we are
supposed to prove a point. Sometimes we just have
to make people think whatever they want to think.
Proving a point is good but can sometimes backslide.
I just heard a 22years old boy sentenced to life imprisonment
after proving a point of being stronger than his friend of which
he ended up killing. Sometimes we just have to let things go.

Creativity

I didn't believe at first that there was a disadvantage
attached to every good thing. But I realized that being
creative can also be a disadvantage sometimes. My point being
that, I was caught up in a situation whereby I was supposed to
explain myself for a certain behaviour I put up at a friends
get-together party. Before I could open my mouth to explain
she warned me not to make up any story. Her words being,
" Don't try that your creativity thing on me". It sounded more
like a threat that I even panicked. lol

Can't Explain

Have you ever been caught up in a situation
whereby someone walked up on you and you didn't
know how to explain yourself?. Like your brother's
friend meets you in the club knowing very well you
should be in school when the reason why you went there
is because your roommate took the room keys along and told you
to come for it since it's just a 15minutes drive away. It could
also be that the boy/girl you like walks up on you in your room,
hugging someone else with your eyes closed.
By the time you realize she was standing there the whole time she
just walks out. Another scenario could be that your mom enters your
room while you in a shower and decides to lay your bed and discovers
a condom under your bed and then you walk in. Lastly, your boyfriend
or girlfriend walks in on you when his/her friend has just kissed you
unexpectedly. It's just difficult to explain yourself in certain situations.
Even if you do, would the one you explaining to trust you.

Feeling Special III

Everyone loves to feel special around someone they like the most.
It's a normal expectation, which calls for a certain kind of jealousy.
And everyone has someone he/she likes the most. If only they are being
sincere to themselves. So the moment we realize that someone else is
benefiting from something we saw to be special between just the two of
you then that special feeling is replaced with something else. It could be
a term you thought only you two understood or many other things.

Feeling Special II

Adrian met this girl who liked calling him with
sweet words like honey, sweetie, bae and many others.
He felt special anytime she did that in public or during
private chats. Then he one day took her phone during one of his
visit to her whilst they were conversing and what he saw just made
that special feeling disappear. Since then anytime she used those sweet
words on him, he just felt like vomiting or choking to death. It just
disgusted him all of a sudden. 

Feeling Special

I guess you know this feeling
very well if you have experienced
what I'm about talking about. You know
the kind of feeling you have when you think
you the only one they do that to until you realize
they do that to everyone. Edwin had a friend called
Sia. They met at church and he realized this girl loved
hugging him, cause anytime they said welcome your neighbour
to church. This girl will locate him where-ever he was for
a hug. He felt special in a certain way, since she just
handshakes the rest. But he visited her one day and discovered
the kind of warm hugs she gives her visitors then that sense of
feeling special just left his system. You'll get this feeling if
you've only had a similar experience.

Disputable Fact

I don't know about you but due to my past experiences
I have learnt to trust God with my all but man with only my head.
Cause my heart is something I wouldn't want anyone to mess with and
I guess so do you. Obviously people exaggerate by saying I love you
with all my heart or I trust you with every marrow of my bones.
Yet they get suspicious after seeing you with the same person twice
or more. Don't be deceived with words, of course, these days actions
don't move people that much to talk of words but love is blind.

Takes Time

It takes time to really get to know someone.
Sometimes you'll think you know them very well
but they can surprise you unexpectedly. It takes
few seconds to guess whom someone is but it takes a
while to actually know why they do what they do.

And She Left

Please listen to my story and comment for me,
he said. I went to church, an all night service to be precise
with my girlfriend. The pastor called out all bachelors
whom would marry soon in front. I also joined and when I returned
I saw a note, "Foolish Boy".  and I haven't heard from her since.
Was it my fault?, he asked and there I stood speechless.

Wednesday Afternoon

I met a girl today at the mall. As soon as I saw her
I smiled and it was like I was suddenly happy. She was
facing my direction and walking towards me. I was hitting
my head just to check if I wasn't day dreaming. So I stood there
waiting for her to catch up with me whilst I was looking around to
make sure I wasn't mistaken. I took out my phone just in case her
contact would be made known to me. She was slim but had a model-like
figure and walked like a model as well. It was nice to watch the way she swerved
left and right as she approached me. She was wearing green pants, a black nice footwear, a black overcoat and a green inner with her designer bag. I'm slightly taller than she is as I pictured her from afar. I realized her pupil were actually ash as she got closer. She smiled and I felt like jumping. Wow, I need to take a selfie with this girl. This would be the topic of the month. Like I wouldn't change my profile picture for a month. The way she was tossing her hair left and right was so ravishing. Just when she finally got to me, I reached out my arms for a hug. it lasted for roughly 5seconds, almost fell asleep. She then looked at me, smiled and asked,
"Please I heard the Ladies washroom is around here somewhere, Can you  direct me?. The she added, why do I look like the person you waiting for, anyways that was a good hug. And she walked away. 

Tempted

I went to town to buy some stuffs for school
and on my way back a woman just walked right
pass me. Her 50pesewas coin fell off and settled
right in front of me and all I did was to look at it, smile
and I by-passed it. I know what you are thinking now
and that's the same way when we mature as Christians
we are no more enticed to fall short to little temptations.

Wanna Know

A good way to know their how they feel about
what you two are talking about isn't quite easy to
notice through text messaging. Unless you know the person
inside out and you'll be able to deduce it when they are
faking an expression. Reason I'm saying this is because
I was sitting by a cute girl in a mini-van to the mall, and this
lady was text messaging on whats-app but anytime she laughs or smiles
and shakes her head as well she would text something else
indicating the guy is boring her. I got to realize this guy was a
new friend she just made and she was just text messaging stuffs like
 (What?, So?, Meaning?, Why is it funny?, Okay I hear, Whatever you say)
but her facial expression was happy and it clearly showed that very guy
was very interesting. So what I'm saying is the only way to be sure is to
call or  face-to-face.

Better to Shut-up

A simple advice a married man once gave me. he sat me
down and said, its better to shut-up sometimes if what you
thinking of saying would hurt someone you care about.
My wife told me one-day that she wanted me to list six things
I disliked about her and that it was a project in the women's
fellowship at church. Instantly a lot of stuffs came in mind but
I told her to hold on and I would text it to her on my way to work.
When I got to work I decided to text her saying she is just the way I
wanted her and I truly loved her just as she is. I came home that very evening
and she was at the door in tears, indicating she was thankful I decided to say
nothing. And also at church, some of the women walked up to me telling me they
wished their husbands were such considerate. I was shocked because I didn't know
it was that personal. So you see, it's better to keep quiet sometimes.

Don't Force Them

The very day school resumed, Tim my younger brother
made up his mind not to go to school because of all the
horrible and boring stuffs he imagined. My siblings and I
decided not to force him but to just strategically convince
him to. The next morning we all decided to do a little painting
after breakfast, we painted anything at all that came into mind
and decided to paste it on the walls of our rooms. He begged to join
but told him, he couldn't know how to paint if he didn't go to kindergarten.
The next morning we woke up and he was already dressed up ready for school.
So you see, not everything is forcefully done.

Not Just Curious

Boy: Eii whose that guy in your dp
Girl: A friend
Boy: Eii and he has been there for a week
Girl: Lol, I sense jealousy.
Boy: So when are putting me there too
Girl: Don't worry, very soon.
Boy: Just like they keep saying Jesus is coming soon.
Girl: Lol...ukr

Trust Dies

My name is Kendrick, and I met Ivy about 7years ago.
After 4years of true friendship, we decided to take it to
the next level of which she started her nursing training school.
I completed Kwame Nkrumah University 2years ago holding a
degree in Business Administration and currently working at Ecobank,
Adum Branch. I noticed Ivy was cultivating a strange attitude, not towards me but
it began when she started using a guy and herself as her display photo and
sometimes using comments like "Miss you somehow,  Missing you, Been a while"
I got a little suspicious even though I trusted her, but she denied out-rightly having
anything at all to do with him and that they were just friends.
After sometime I was tempted to take her phone whilst she went out to accompany a friend of hers, I saw pictures and messages of her and the guy, he was indeed popular in her school. Anyways, when she got back I made her notice I had seen everything by raising the phone and after a while she confessed she was also dating him alongside cause I didn't show any interest of meeting her parents even though she asked a couple of times. I walked away not understanding her silly excuse, cause she never complained about me meeting her parents, and I had told her after she had graduated. Just last week, she then called telling me she had entirely ended it with the guy and expecting me to come back and that is her final year so I should meet her parents just after she graduates, I said okay. But I don't think I can do this because if she could date another guy alongside me and totally covered it up, what else is she capable of?

Silly Mistake

Barry was a smart guy and that worried him a little
even though he was most of the time right. The only thing was
he analyses too many stuffs. And that was the only problem
his girlfriend had with him, because he had a believe everything
is done for a reason but anytime he asked her why she did something
her reason was nothing, she just felt like it. Like one day he saw a picture
on her phone pegging another guy and her reason was he asked her and she
just felt like it. Due to these little little excuses his roommate Nelly was the
one resolving their constant arguments.
Keisha started calling Nelly frequently anytime Barry did something she didn't like
and he always had a way of calming her down. And it got to a time they stopped talking about matters concerning Barry and started talking about fun stuffs which later ended up in love talks and they were in love at last. Barry on the other hand, saw the end from the beginning but anytime he asked her she said they were just friends and that he was also free with friends of hers. He knew that was her attitude and never took her excuses lightly so he timed them closely cause they started meeting up until one day he caught them red handed in his room alone, dancing to a jazz music and staring at each other closely. Before that he had asked her if she was free that very evening and that he was inviting her to a concert, but she replied she had plans. His final words to her was I thought as much. She then came back to her senses 8months afterwards, realizing Barry was the only one who truly understood her and could help her change but it was too late. He had met someone she couldn't match up to.

And Suddenly

I use to have a horrible handwriting when I was little cause I loved
to participate in notes-writing competitions and I was always first.
 I was never any position apart from 1st no matter the number of people
 we were. I held on to my title right from Grade 2 but I retired in Grade 6.
The reason I did so was that my family were always nagging about how
dreadful my handwriting was. So I started taking my time when writing
and that even made it worst cause my fingers were always fumbling.
So I still resorted to writing fast but not in competitions and one day
my handwriting  just changed when I was trying different ways of holding
the pen. I had already tried different ways of holding the pen to see if there
would be any changes but it was just terrible. But this time around there was a
change and when I went home and showed the particular note to my family,
they were marveled and that was it. I could have said is just handwriting, no one
will notice if I choose not to write but I didn't give up. Little did I know in Grade 7
until I completed Junior High I would be writing notes for my teacher on the board
and even in Senior High. So you see the little things are even important, do something
about it if you can and don't ignore.

Falling in Love2

For the first time in my life I saw all in one. She had everything
I wanted in a girl. "God stop messing around with me", I said
She chuckled, Oh shit she heard me, I blurted out. She kept on
with her chuckle. Can't believe I'm speaking to myself, forgive my
bad manners, just a little carried away. My name is Jack I told her.
She smiled and said, don't worry I get that a lot, anyways I'm Jill, she
concluded and reached out for a peg. Misinterpreted it and reach out my
lips instead. She taught it was intentional so she laughed and said, that is
quite bold, I like that, go ahead then. I froze instantly, she waited for about
3seconds and was pulling away with the look on her face that said that's what
they all do. I could see from her face most guys flattered her but weren't bold enough to actually do what they say when given the chance so I slowly pressed my lips against hers. I was stunned, felt as if I had stroke. My whole body failed to function afterwards. It was as if they had finally served their purpose and it was enough to give up the ghost. That was my first kiss though even-though it wasn't really a kiss. It was the softest, silkiest and most succulent thing I have ever tasted. She looked surprised though cause she thought I couldn't pull it off. Your lips really tastes good, she said. I thought she was messing with me until she said come on let's go somewhere private. And that was how it begun.

Falling in Love

Her name was Jill, it's really fascinating how we fell in love.
Words can't describe exquisitely the feeling but I would do my best to narrate.
My name is Jack, and together we are Jack and Jill. I know it sounds
silly but that was how we use to introduce ourselves and we would look
at each other and smile afterwards.
I met her at Pall's Mall in London, I went window shopping because my
mother worked nearby and I don't really enjoy sitting in hospitals. So I was
wondering about in the mall even though I met her at the South Gate entrance,
didn't take notice of her. I was inside at the bookshop and there she was holding  a couple of books in her hand and they were fumbling so I said to her "you wanna take all the interesting books away huh". And she chuckled but when she turned around.
I was totally stunned and it seemed God found us interesting and had pressed pause to laugh a little and pressed play afterwards. Cause we kept staring and smiling until someone passed by and made a teasing sound like clearing her throat. Unknowingly it was her sister. Jill was so cute and slim, really looked and walked a model, piecing eyes, rattling figure, tremendous hair texture, wondrous complexion. What else could I ask for.  To be continued...

Makes Him God

Boy: God I wanna ask you a question.
God: Go ahead then.
Boy: So you know what I'm about asking right?
God: Yes
Boy: Then answer it for me please.
God: Wanna hear you say it.
Boy: Why so?
God: So I would know you really mean it.
Boy: But you can still notice if I mean it whether I ask or not right?
God: I would but what would be the need for prayer?
Boy: Okay so do I need to ask by necessarily saying it with my mouth?
God: Not necessarily so, your heart, mind, mouth can do the talking.

God Ain't Man

Girl: Please God help me!
God: Really!
Girl: Oh please, You know you my one and only.
God: Remember I know your thoughts and I can see your heart.
Girl: Then I'm Sorry for lying.
God: No, you not.
Girl: Oh come on, you can notice that too.
God: Don't under-estimate me.
Girl: Then what can we get away with if You decide to be strict.
God: Why do you wanna get away with something?
Girl: It's normal.
God: Comparing me with Ghanaian government now huh
Girl: Just wanted to know if you could notice that too, so you can really read my thoughts. Wow! Wonder what I would have done if I could do same for a day.

Yeah Right II

Guy decides to hola the Girl after a week of silence.
Boy: Hello, How you doing?
Girl: Doing alright, Been a while, what's up?
Boy: Yeah,  wasn't feeling so well.
Girl: Sorry, Hope you doing okay now?
Boy: You didn't even ask what happened.
Girl: It skipped me, So what happened?
Boy: Ain't use to the french dishes
Girl: Oh so you in Paris?
Boy: Oh yeah, went a week ago.
Girl: Oh Great, Pops and I came for a conference at Paris.
Boy: Really, That's Great then.
Girl: Yeah, Its super-boring ,Text me your location and would come over.
Guy goes Offline for Two Days.

Yeah Right I

 A Guy slacks at impressing a minister's daughter.
Boy: Hey, You Good?
Girl: Yeah, Me's alright, you?
Boy: Same, just pissed.
Girl:  Lay it on me
Boy: Been taking hamburger and melon juice as breakfast for a week
Girl: Oh come on, yours is alright.
Boy: Why What's up?
Girl: Been taking the Range Rover to lectures all week.
Boy Goes Offline For A Week

It Happens 2

Boy: Hey
Girl: Hey
Boy: Good?
Girl: Very
Boy: Alright, I'm coming over to take you out.
Girl: Huh, Please No.
Boy: Too late, You've got only 3hours to get ready
Girl: You kidding me right?
Boy: I'm not
Girl: You didn't tell me on time, besides what shows I would have agreed.
Boy: Please too much talking won't help, hurry up.
Girl: Oh you too, just wanted to make it fun, on my way to shower.

It Happens

Boy: Where are you?
Girl: Why?
Boy: Need a favor
Girl:I'm busy
Boy: Oh please
Girl: Find someone else
Boy: Can't get anyone, besides I'm closer to your workplace.
 No Reply...
20minutes later...
Boy: Thanks a lot, found someone.
Girl: What was it anyway?
Boy: On my way to Accra and was leaving my car with you for 2days.
Girl: Oh I'm coming.

Just Pray

In everything examination from grade 3, I would fall outside the first ten category. Until one day, in grade 3, I and a friend held hands and prayed before the examination that we wanted to see changes in our score. After the examination, we walked up to view our posted results and I was ninth and he was tenth. We looked at each other and smiled. Until grade 8 I never ceased being ninth every-time examination took place. Unfortunately I dropped to twelfth then I came back to my senses and made another request and in grade 9 I was sixth. So you see, if you okay with where you are, you will keep being there until you decide to move forward.

Just Believe

As a little child I could do stuffs I haven't done in a while now. I had so much faith that even when it was black out i would kneel, pray and cry and the light would be back on. It was so real that my siblings thought it was coincidence but anytime I didn't the light wouldn't come back on until midnight. So they would come get me anytime is black out and every single time the light came back on unless I'm not in the mood. Even with that I would let them know it wouldn't work. Faith would keep you going if you believe.

Just Happened 2

I finished eating but i felt lazy to wash my plate so I left it on my bed whilst coding. I fell asleep a couple of minutes afterwards and before I knew it ants had invaded my privacy so I had to do away with the plate right away. I managed to get it to the kitchen, placed it in the sink, gave them a lot of signals about the upcoming flood just like Noah did but the turned on deaf eyes. I opened the tap anyway and I remembered how Noah suffered getting people on board.

Just Happened

I was busy texting through our the night with a new friend I just got, it was black out and hot which delayed my sleep. The chat was interesting though so I wasn't bored. Hours later my phone also blacked out, so I eventually slept. The next morning I ended up at work forgetting to put my phone on charge. The moment I did, it just wouldn't charge. Then a voice said to me, this is how rapture is gonna be like. You'll never see it coming. Until today my battery is still dead without reason.

About That

I still wanted to know the meaning of love and I was told is not the feeling when you with her but the feeling of you day-dreaming of her when you not with her and when you thinking of her every-time something interesting happens and you keep saying in your head, if she were here. Like you wish she were here to hear this or what she would have said if she were present or you see something and you like, she would really like this. That's when you can talk of love, but we mistake selfish desires for love when we hungry or when we bored and we wish they were around us to keep us happy or buy something for us. wink!

Awkward Moments

Times of total silence when no one is talking and no one seems to be thinking of something to say. Example: 1. When you invited by someone to a program or a premier and you decide to go because you've got nothing doing and you two start talking from the start but it gets to time you've said everything on your mind and total silence breaks in. 2. When taken on a lift by a family friend, relative, course mate from work or lectures and after you start off well but after a while no one is talking. 3. Especially in telenovelas when the guy kisses the girl for the first time and afterwards there's dead silence. 4. When you meet a childhood friend or mate on your way to the same destination and for a while you talk but after sometime no one says anything. Share your awkward moments as well

What to Receive

My Grandfather wasn't a spiritual man but he knew a few stuffs an old man should know through a couple of experiences he had. He was a soldier and he always loved to polish his boot and wipe his medals at his leisure times. I did like to sit and watch how serious he was whilst I ate. He was a man of few words so everything he said was taken seriously. I only realized he fought in the 2nd World War after he passed away. One day, a woman visited us and came along with a goat. Few minutes after they left, he called my father and told him plainly he should also give it out as a gift. And he asked why the women came over cause they have never done that before. And he said he went over for a funeral at their hometown and decided to dash them some money. He looked pissed and warned my dad not to give or take anything from them cause they were all witches. My father understood why strange things happened to him that week. A lesson he would always remember.

The Right Direction

I decided to board a mini-van on my way home from work one day.
And as I was about approaching my destination I hinted the mate I was
about alighting, just a couple of blocks away. I was sitting right in front
of  him but he turned around instead to ask who said he/she was alighting.
 Thought he was messing around with me so I just told the driver instead
and I got down. Then a voice said to me, this is how we turn to the wrong
direction when we are expecting something from God and He is trying to
reach us with a simple solution. We end up listening to the wrong voice instead
and when things get messed up we think God did nothing at all. Be attentive!...

Her Little Chat

Girl: God I heard you know all things even before they happen.
God: You heard?, how interesting!!!...
Girl: So I was wondering how come you allow them happen anyway.
God: Gimme a example and I would explain why.
Girl: Okay, so the earthquakes, hurricane, storms, flood?
God: Those are natural disasters, you would understand if you study Geography.
Girl: So it's as a result of man's doing you mean?
God: I put man in charge to handle them and he's doing pretty well.
Girl: What about watching a Christian become an orphan and struggle in Life?
God: That's a good one.
Girl: Yeah!, save the best for the last, I always hear mama say.
God: I could have also stopped Eve from eating the apple but I gave man the power to make his own choices without intervening and the consequences of that isn't mine to deal with.
Girl: So what is yours to deal with?
God: Is to keep whispering in your ear the right choice to make.
Girl: I thought that was my instincts most of the time
God:There's a thin line between instincts and promptings of the Holy Spirit.

What Happened?

Girl: God, why did I have to be born in Ghana?
God: So you wanted Dubai and spend eternity in hell afterwards?
Girl: No, I could have been Canada and still make it to Heaven
God: What if I told you, you would have made so many mistakes in life.
Girl: But I would have still made it to heaven right?
God: So then why are you complaining now cause you will eventually get to heaven?
Girl: You really are smart. Turned it around on me huh
God: Saw that coming...wink!

See Them Too

Girl: Is there anything about me you don't like.
Boy: I'm not answering that, cause is a trap.
Girl: So there are things you hiding from me?
Boy: And here I am in the trap.
Girl: Tell me just one of them and I promise I won't get mad.
Boy: Okay, sometimes you are too beautiful.
Girl: Come on, Harry, Be serious.
Boy: I really don't like how you follow me around but guess you are
my Guardian Angel

An Ambitious Woman

At the end of the day every man want to settle
down with such a lady. A woman who sets her priorities
right. She puts what is important first and doesn't compromise
with anything at all that comes her way. She always end up making up
the right choice eventually even when swayed away with luxurious things.
To be continued

Unfortumate Outcome

Kwame went up to Kofi's hostel one fine Saturday afternoon to hang out.
While they were chatting he was scrolling through Kofi's gallery photos and
came across a picture that captured his attention. He asked Kofi straight away
who she was and he said she was a close friend and that he had tried everything
to get the girl since he noticed she was the good-innocent type. But nothing he has
done so far has pulled through. Kwame looked at him while he was talking and noticed
he was into this girl. You said you have tried everything, he asked. Yes oo ma guy, he replied. Alright give me the number and lemme use a different approach, maybe she sees you in a different way so no matter what you do, the best you can get is her attention, nothing else. For the whole academic year they never talked about her until the next academic year, Kofi went to visit her as usual and to his surprise he saw Kwame's name in her call list over and over again, as soon as he left her place, he called his friend and asked of the girl. "Oh she be ma sweetheart", he replied. Kofi's immune system broke down, he just didn't believe his ears. He decided to visit her with his friend the next time. and when they did he realized the reactions on the girl's face and even the way she hugged Kwame and spoke to him was different. Tears filled his eyes as he click on delete when the girl number popped up on his phone.

A Boy Girl Thing

The same way ladies are aware when a gentleman is about proposing,
The same way the gentleman also know the answer to his proposal before
he asks. If its a No or Will reply you later on, he is expecting, then he has
a way of going about his proposal even if it is a try and error he is doing,
But if it's a yes he is expecting, he either goes straight to the point or triggers
the lady do the asking indirectly. Which results in her asking, whom am I to you?.
He always has the best answer to the question since he has already thought it through
but doesn't give a straight answer. He prolongs the answer, wanting to know if the lady is serious or is just asking by saying something like, I'm your husband or I'm whatever you think I am to you. The answer of the lady always determines if he should get serious or still play along.

Substituition

Sometimes you wanna talk to someone about something
but the moment you are about doing so someone else pops up
interrupting your chat and at the same time the person is curious
and attentive waiting for whatever you've got to say. And you don't
wanna attract attention or let the other person know what you about
saying. You have no choice but to postpone what you really wanna say.
Ending up making up something crappy which results in them saying
you ain't serious. Just deal with it

A Sudden Feeling

I know what you thinking, nevertheless have you experienced this kind of feeling before? Usually when you off to a party, drink-up,  dinner, reception, funfair, etc. It's like one moment you in a good mood and the next moment you just ain't feeling the vibe any longer. You just feel like going home, the kind of vim and vigor you were going with just drops.

Believe This

A professor once told me that women have the ability
to foresee if they've chosen the right partner before they
end up marrying the man. They either have an awkward
inner feeling in relation to her partner's actions, or it could be
through weird dreams. I was a little confused when he said that but he later
clarified his point with a lot of references from his counseling sessions
with women before and during marriage. And about 95% who are having problems have
confirmed saying that they had weird dreams of their spouses of which they didn't
bother to analyses critically. One of them said in her dream, she was boarding a flight with her spouse and she tripped so her footwear fell and she decided to go for it but the moment she took it and raised her head, her spouse had boarded the plane without her. But she was blinded by love and took it lightly so she went ahead to marry this man. And after their marriage this man has never cared of her whereabout or whatever. But she can't divorce him since marriage is for a lifetime. Let's Make the Right Choices Ladies!...

Up the Hill

I decided to board a mini- van to my destination one day
cause I wanted to save money and I was impressed by the sound
of it's engine. But then we got to a hill and as we begun to climb,
the sound of it's engine changed uprightly. There and then, a thought
bummed into my head, of how we easily judge people's character in good
times when we haven't experienced their temper in times of difficulties. This
results in divorces and separations, we should at least get to know someone's
bad side before proposing or saying yes regardless of the fact that people change
with time.

Knowledge is Power II

This experience made me realize why the rich are still
greedy to make more money even after earning it through foul means.
 My sister developed the habit of stealing my granny's credits little by little.
I noticed that right away when she started showing interest in changing her ringtone
and other unnecessary stuffs without her asking. My granny also always bought credits, even  if they said the number she was dialing was out of coverage area, she mistook it for having no credits. My sister realizing this cultivated the habit of stealing her credits in little folds. Then after a while she decided to divide the credits into two and steal half. Until it wasn't enough for her and my granny also started getting suspicious and she was finally caught. How silly!!!.

Knowledge is Power

I met a good friend of mine at Ecobank, Accra branch. He made mention
of now relocating to stay in the capital city permanently. So I was curious of
his dealings in the bank. He spoke with a big smile so I was expecting better, but
he said since he will be no longer in Kumasi, he found it wise to close down his account
in Kumasi and open a new one in Accra. I was a little confused so I asked the what bank he was saving at in Kumasi and he answered Ecobank. So you closed down your Ecobank account in Kumasi to open another one in Accra? , He answered confidently yes without seeing anything wrong with it. Guess you also don't see anything wrong with it too huh!...shaking my head!

Wonderful Experience

I know you may find this absurd but is a feeling that comes once in a while and of course I didn't take it lightly. Two ladies who were friends of my dad in the states decided to pay us a visit on their way back from the states. It was such a memorable one week experience. I began eating foods I don't get to even see until special occasions. It was like everyday was a special occasion. The fridge was stocked with drinks, fruits and junk foods as well. Everything some was inside. lol. Come and see me, as if I owned the house. I always made sure I clear the table after they were done eating cause they always left the drinks half-empty and some fruits or slices of pizza for me to consume. Please it wasn't meant for the dogs. I was caught once though when I was done clearing the table, one of them called me in request of some more pineapples. I fed them to the dog and the parrot, I replied. Okay, then the fruit juice will do, she said. For that one I have drank it, I answered. She smiled and shook her head as she entered the room. I know right!

Happy Father's Day

I bought my father a gift after church service and placed it on his desk so
he could easily see it without stress. Hours later, my mother came over, thanking
me on behalf of my dad for the wine with laughter and smiles. It did seem a little
strange but I soon forgot about it. During the evening, I decided to for my mom's phone to call a couple of friends since she had activated for the mtn talk chaw. And there was my wine, half-empty beside my mom who was fast asleep. I was tempted to also take a sip, before I realized I had drank the whole bottle so I decided to leave the bottle on the floor with a mob right beside it and left the floor a little wet as well. Indicating the wine fell and poured accidentally and I was off to bed.

When We Hurt

We don't always expect what people do or say.
It may be totally uncalled for or out-of-line at times.
But once the harm is done is up to us to know how
to deal with it regardless how bad it hurts.
The choices we make maybe regrettable but at that very
moment we just can't think straight. All we wanna do
is tell them what's on our mind and be free.
It's understandable but self-control is key.

Life is Complicated

How would define life in your own words?
Is Life that easy or smooth always?, why is it that way...
I visited the ICGC Christ Temple Church  a couple of weeks ago
when Dr. Nevers Mumbia was preaching on a topic called Life.
And I begun to wonder and elaborate more on life.
He said, Life is the distance between the day you born and the day
you die. It can also be said that It is how we navigate through the twists
and turns. That is, Life happens even if we ain't ready for what it has for us.
But how we are able to stand and persevere is called Life. He also said the choices
we make differentiate one's life from another regardless. He explained further by saying our choice of a future partner can also drastically change one's life.  Concluded by saying, Life is a queue and there will come a day there will be no one left in front of us but endurance is key. Meaning our time will surely come so we shouldn't give up cause we failed yesterday cause is LIfe.

Mess Up

Sometimes we mess up with someone so badly
that we just would understand if they decide not
to holla at us any more. But we just have to deal
with the fact that we did mess up and would do anything
if we could turn back the time. It's just unfortunate they
wanna hear our side of the story but our explanation may
worsen things so we keep them to ourselves making things
even worse for us. I always say if they meant to be in our lives
they will definitely need time out or a little space but they will always
stick around. But we should play our part in that.

Relax

Julia:  Hey!
Smith: Hey!
Julia: How you doing?
Smith: I'm doing good, finally, you missed me,
       always had a feeling this day would come
       but didn't expect it this soon.
Julia: Hey!, Relax, text messaging  all my Vodafone numbers
       cause my bundle will expire tomorrow and don't
       want it to go waste.
Smith: Oh okay, bye!.
Julia: Lol!, Funny boy

Concern

I know you never saw this coming but I'm curious.
Have you ever felt like you won't make it to heaven
if the trumpet should sound now?. How does it feel
actually?, it's like we ain't doing enough to make it
there. I know for sure we will make it there, but how many
crowns are we gonna receive based on our works?. There is more
we can do, but just the little we doing and our faithfulness towards
that is enough.

Forgetfulness

We see the signs when they once in a while
forget our birthday, then our anniversary. We make
up excuses for them, that is due to the stress.
Then they occasionally forget our children's birthday,
relative's name, parent's name and we still okay.
Therefore we shouldn't get pissed when they also
forget the children's age, grade and other petty stuffs.
Let's look at the bright side, they have good qualities that
eclipses their shortcomings. Thats what we should embrace,
or better still we can choose to tell them to prevent getting
disappointed instead of expecting a surprise.

Google It

Lemme tell you a story of how a boy's life was
transformed by google. Danny was almost 8 years old
when his parents divorced. He liked asking questions but
no one seem to give him a tangible answer. All they said was
"You are just a kid, you won't understand". The only thing
that kept him happy and made him feel wanted was his relationship
with Tricia, his girlfriend. But he got dumped and his world came
grumbling down, he still managed to make it to school the following day.
His teacher kept on saying if you have any question at all bothering you
just google it but guess he took it personal, thinking google was a problem
solver. He stayed awake all night, googling all his problems. Starting with,
why did my parents divorce?, why did she break up with me?, how do I happy myself?,  What-else is there to leave for?. Interestingly, he got several answers for his questions of which he sieved and narrowed them down to the possible answers that applied to him in a sense. Since then, any unanswered question of his was googled. Just made the story up. Jesus is the answer!.

Conversation

Conversation I
Jimmy: Hello!
Paula: Hi!
Jimmy: Been seeing you around,
       guess you in this hostel?
Paula: Yeah!
Jimmy: Lovely hairstyle anyways
Paula: Thanks!
Jimmy: You welcome!, I'm jimmy by the way
       You?
Paula: Paula
Jimmy: Alright, Nice meeting you
Paula: You too

Conversation II
Jimmy: Hello, guess we've met again.
Paula: Yeah!, Hi.
Jimmy: You do remember me right?
Paula: Oh yeah!, jimmy right?
Jimmy: Yeah!, Thats right!, You look tired.
Paula: Really?, just closed from lectures.
Jimmy: That is why. What course?
Paula: Biochemistry, You?
Jimmy: Actuarial Science
Paula: Okay!
Jimmy: Make sure you rest
Paula: Don't worry, I will.
Jimmy: See you around then
Paula: You too

Clumsy

Have you had a super-weird experience that
you think is a dream and someone should have woken
you up by now. Lemme give you an epitome, I watched a series by name
"Finding Carter". About a lady who was having dinner with her mother when
her friends called her to join them for a drink-up party which ended them
all in jail. They were all bailed out after an hour except for Carter who
was redirected to an interrogation room and was told her real name wasn't
Carter but Serena and that her mother wasn't her actual mom but she abducted
her from her genuine mother after birth. And that her true parents were
standing outside the premises to take her home. In short, her 16 years of living
has been on a lie and with a kidnapper. But she still said she wanted her life
back and that she was mistaken for someone else but she wasn't. Is any of your
experiences worser than this?, Then move on!.    

A Disturbing Secret

How does it feel when you finally tell someone
a secret you've been hiding from them for years
cause someone threatens if you don't they would.
And now you master courage to tell them to their face
and they go like, "I know". I saw it in a movie actually,
the wife told the husband I'm having an affair and he's like
"I know and it is with Carl". It's a bit relieving even though
it keeps you wondering and it makes you feel like you owe them and
wanna make it up to them for the pain you caused them but in return they
still showed you love. Cause this doesn't usually happen.

Don't Defend Them

I just don't see the reason why we should defend
someone after they ditch us at the time we needed them
the most by making up excuses for them. But one thing
we should be okay with is that they will always
think of their safety and reputation first in times of
trouble and if we cool with that and can cope then fine
but they will never change cause it's part of them.
Lemme top this up by a silly story I heard whereby a
woman's husband sped off to safety when they were being
attacked by armed robbers in the middle of the night.
He forgot to wake up his wife who was still fast asleep
and it was too late to return so he had to endure hearing
the screams of his wife while she was being molested by the
robbers and returned when they were done and gone to console
her with the excuse of their room being wide apart. It's not
surprising if such a man packs all his valuable assets and vacates
in the night while their house is on fire. Gets to the garage, he now
remembers his wife and calls her on the phone and after she also escapes
taking some her stuffs and that of her husband. She meets him in the garage
and discovers he has already packed, asks him how and he gives the same excuse
of their room being wide apart. Get used to it. Look at the bright side.  

Like Seriously

Barry: Do you feel comfortable?
Wendy: With what actually?
Barry: With my hands on your shoulders.
Wendy: Why do you ask?
Barry: Just curious, since we're​ in town.
Wendy: It's okay since it's not on my waist.
Barry: You sure?
Wendy: Oh yeah!, unless you want to stop.
Barry: Seem like you want me to stop.
Wendy: Also having the same feeling you want me to tell you to stop.
Barry: You're becoming too smart these days.
Wendy: Can't say same about you though.
Barry: Very funny!
Wendy: I wasn't joking. Now you know the truth hurts.
Barry: Point being?
Wendy: That is why I couldn't say take your hands off. But it's a good thing, you figured it out anyway.

The Meaning

It's good to know the meaning of our name you know.
It's about time we either asked our parents it's
meaning or we researched to find out it's meaning.
Cause it's meaning surely serves a purpose in our life.
Every name of a person is unique regardless there is no one
whose name isn't shared by another. It's never too late to
change your name if you don't like it's meaning.

Strange

Guess you have also noticed the radical shouts of joy
when a community is finally powered with light after experiencing
a period of power outage. Frequent power interruptions has now
changed our ways of living and has paved way for personal
holidays by workers. The percentage of heat, idleness and laziness
are increasing vastly. Inflation in the country is now 16.8%.
1US dollar is now 3.86gh, 1Euro is now 4.60gh, 1Pound is now
6.40gh. Indeed, we living in perilous times. Repent!

Dry Periods

Don't get worried when you start experiencing
such moments in your relationship/friendship, it is normal. In other words, anybody who enters into a relationship is bound to experience such moments. Dry periods, meaning the moment of silence, not that you two are short of words but just quiet. It could be that you two are thinking about your personal stuffs at that moment or you are both absent-minded. There is no problem at all. You don't need to see a counselor. Besides you two have your own personal lives apart from the one you share together and sometimes it gets you occupied.

Twisted

I don't know whether you would get this feeling
outright but lemme dilate further. I was watching
a series when a kid had to do 5 years in juvenile and
just the moment he came back and tried to start all over again
even-though it wasn't easy. He got framed again for another murder
which made his life a living hell but he was finally vindicated
cause evidence pointed elsewhere.
The actual killer had been his father all along, who faked his
death years back and had now returned to explain things to him.
They ended up in a grievous argument of which he accidentally
killed out of self-defense on the same day he was vindicated and
all hands pointed at his father now whom they discovered was still
alive. But no one knew he had killed him. So he decided to keep
it a secret since no one would believe him if he explained his
innocence on the same day he was pronounced innocent. Unfortunately
for him, his dad's body was found and the murder was blamed on a close
friend of his. Oh yeah, he should have come out earlier on but he finally
felt like a normal kid and he was actually treated nice by everyone after they
realized his innocence.

Did You Know?

*11% of people are left-handed.
*August has the largest % of births.
*An average person falls asleep in 7mins.
*A ostrich's eye is bigger than it's brain.
*Most lipsticks contain fish scales.
*Lemon contains more sugar than strawberry.
*The longest flight of a chicken recorded is 13secs.
*Most commonly used letter in the alphabet is E.
*Least used letter in the alphabet is Q.
*Dream is the only word that ends with mt.
*Money is the only one thing that couples argue about.
*About 90% of the world's population kisses.
*Coca-cola originally contains cocaine.
*The average human-brain contains around 78% of water.
*Lighting strikes the Earth 6,000 times every minute.
*A minute kiss burns 26 calories.
*On your birthday you share it with 9million others
*An average person will spend 25years asleep.
*Everyday is a holiday somewhere in the world.
*Black & Yellow, the two colors with the strongest impact.
*Safest car color is white.
*Oldest word in English language is "town".
*Monopoly is the most played game in the world.

Saved

Check this out;
Every Sunday morning, Drake always noticed
his dog was never at home. At first he didn't
take much notice of it but it got to a time he
realized it. He became cognizant of the fact that
Bosnia, the name of his dog, was normally missing within
the intervals of 9:00am to 11:00am right after it's breakfast.
He followed it one-day to find out what it has been up to without
it knowing and to his amazement it walked straight into a nearby
church and laid silently at a corner. He waited patiently in his car,
and he realized Bosnia vacated the premises right after closing and
returned to it's cage. The man decided to go the following Sunday
to actually witness what exactly captured his dog's attention and he got saved.
This is a true story of how a dog converted it's master into Christianity.

Babies

I don't know about you but I was very cute
and adorable when was a baby. With all the curly
girly hair and the infectious laughter. Mothers were
all over me, everyone wanted to hold me in their arms
and have a feel my hair. A beautiful fine baby boy I was.
Even as I was growing, almost every Sunday I was showered
with money from strangers but I had a wise brother who always
took advantage of my ignorance. He would just hand me a bunch
of coins that only amounted to 2gh cedis in exchange for my 10gh
cedis but little did I know by then. Knowledge is Power!    

Mind Game II

Boy: What do you want for your birthday?
Girl: Anything from your heart
Boy: Please be specific
Girl: Are you sure?
Boy: Yes, Anything you want
Girl: Okay, Sobolo Drink-up!
Boy: No reply!
Girl: Are You there?
Boy: No reply!
Girl: Took a picture today, should I send you?
Boy: Oh Yeah
Girl: Now you there right?, Bye.

Mind Game

Girl: Who am I to you?
Boy: You should know by now
Girl: Thats why I'm asking
Boy: What do you think?
Girl: Just answer
Boy: Guess you quick-tempered
Girl: Since when?
Boy: You tell me
Girl: Avoiding the question right?
Boy: Just surprised you asking me now
Girl: What do you mean by that?
Boy: After all this while now you wanna know
Girl: What is wrong with that?
Boy: Why the sudden interest?
Girl: If you won't answer is okay
Boy: Alright then

Straight-Faces

A serious facial expression giving no evidence
of interest or amusement. Guess you've not met
someone with such a facial expression at a job
interview, at your defense, visa interview, court
room, office, and any other you can think of.
Don't know whether to term it as annoying or irritating
but it sure ain't cool. You can't tell whether they into
what you saying or they just waiting for you to finish on time
and just walk out. It just makes you lose confidence outrightly and
fumble throughout if it's your first experience. If you have one advice yourself!

Upset

It's not everyone who would
take lightly what you tell them.
Lemme clarify my point. I got a new
friend through an alliance letter with
aburi girl senior high school and we got
along through some one or two calls and all
of a sudden I made mention of the word "concert"
at a silly comment she made and that was the end, she
faked an out of coverage area.

Patience

There is a lot of risk waiting on someone
who isn't ready until they're​ ready, not an indecisive person but someone who knows what he/she wants but due to important circumstances isn't yet ready. Anything can happen along the way though. I wouldn't advice you to play smart but withhold yourself in such a way that you would not get hurt if the outcome of you waiting doesn't end up your way. There's no harm in waiting anyways. Besides, what's the rush?!. At least it prevents regret. Depends on the waiting time as well, should be a reasonable one. wink!

Complicated

Would call it funny but it sure isn't.
Wonder why we don't get whom we truly want sometimes
eventhough we try our best to make them ours. Doesn't
matter the amount of effort we put into and the sacrifices
we make cause we know left to that alone we've done more than
necessary. Over doing it too makes we appear too desperate and we
don't want to lose our dignity alongside if they wouldn't accept us
for whom we are. It's not entirely a bad experience though since we learn
our lesson of how to treat others who have similar feelings towards us. At least
that is what we say to encourage ourselves. It ain't that simple. No pain, No gain. lol

A Letter To Mahama

Ma guy, we admire your good courage and
confidence and that you haven't offered to
step down yet but we have good news. Coming
2016 we want to do you a favor, simply walk away
and none of your families and friends will be kidnapped.
It is virtually because of your face shyness that is why
we haven't planned a coup against you. 2016, advice yourself.
You can choose to settle us now and we will wait patiently for
the elections next year of which you would willingly step down or
we would choose to start torturing you and your family before you step
down next year. It's your choice but don't try anything silly. You should
know we have surveillance cameras all around you and your family atm. You are
wearing white linen and sipping your tea whilst you switch from one channel to another.
We know you don't watch our local television stations and don't listen to our local fm
stations that is why you still have the guts to still be governing the nation. Your wife
as at now is happily being escorted to the new resort you bought her just this morning.
Luckily for us, your sons and daughters are having a get together at Dubai, Bosnia Hotel,
room 478 as we speak and this is a good time to strike or you can transfer the 1million gh
cedis you transfered to your Italian account with the name Fared a night ago for your trip to
Berlin to watch the champions league and many more into our account, call this number when you ready to talk. 050-136-0270. Nice doing business with you, we will keep coming for more.
Thank you.

Fellow Ghanaians

Our Brothers and Sisters in Ghana take heart,
we have heard your cry and plead and we have good
news. We have had several meetings with America's
President, Barak Obama concerning your situation at hand
and we have come up with a suitable solution which would
put a smile on your faces and ours as well. Our plan is to
build another state for you here, a 53rd State and we shall
call it Gold Coast City. Before we can do that we need you to send
us 90% of your monies and natural resources yearly until we complete
this project. It's only a 50years project.
                 Thank you.

Indecisive

The category of people we should be very afraid of.
Isn't because they are deadly or wicked but they can
change their mind any minute due to certain circumstances which
is always personal. They are easily convinced but not thoroughly convinced.
They can say Yes to your proposal and No to you before the marriage
ceremony. They are always afraid of the choice to make even if they
are to choose between two things. Get to really know them before you
start taking them seriously. It's for your own good.

Sometimes

On certain occasions, We have no choice but to say "Yes".
Not that we are afraid or intimidated to say "No" but we
just can't say so knowing how anxious the person is and
how disappointed they would be if we don't. After all the question
isn't anything serious. It could be that they asking whether we love them,
they being special to us, wouldn't we do anything to hurt them and many more.
And it's not that we lying if we admit, its just that we would have wanted to disapprove in order not to make them get unnecessary ideas.

Difficult To Tell

Some people are the quiet type, they usually
have nothing saying or to ask. They just love to listen.
They normally like to smile or laugh at any little joke.
It's difficult to tell what they are truly thinking about since
asking them why they are smiling out of the blue will just result
in them answering, "nothing". They only find the need to explain
when caught on the spot or else they see it unnecessary to do so.
Even with catching them on the spot you would have to be smart
else they would find their way out without saying anything substantial
you can hold against them. But if they feel safe with you, they try to
open up once in a while. It's difficult to tell without them choosing to
tell you. Get used to it.

Into Writing

Lemme tell your how I developed my talent in
creative writing. I was a shy kid, and a quiet type as such.
Couldn't man up for things I wanted and I usually pretended I
wasn't into ladies of which it was obvious to tell I did, by my actions.
I started writing about stuffs and ladies I knew I would never get just to
keep myself happy. Developed the habit of observing people in my class and writing
about how they feel inwardly even though their outward expressions proved otherwise. Wrote theories on a topic entitled, "Why people do what they do". Got me to understand human expressions and many more. I ended up writing letters for people's girlfriends in senior secondary school, depending on how they narrated their story, I was able to deduce the exact information they wanted to carry out. Your talent may be closer to you than you think, don't look far.

Their Company

When I love to be around a particular person it
depends on a lot of things but they being interesting
or humorous doesn't come in. Their smiles, gestures,
touches, mood are just enough even if we both silent.
Their words mean a lot to me but if they choose not to
talk at all I'm definitely okay. I can be with them the whole day
without saying a word but just staring and smiling is enough to
keep me from getting hungry. I don't know if you really get me.
Then it may be that you are the emotionless type or you've shut down
your emotion system or you may say you don't easily get carried away.
Nice try, keep deceiving yourself until you one day get carried away. I mean
chatting with them takes my mind off my surroundings cause I watch out for every
body expressions they make and that can affect my mood as well. I try not to think
about them when I'm alone cause it would make me wanna see them the more. Such people
come once in a while, do well to hold on to them. Trust me, Its worth-it

Suspect

Maya: Mom, I know Kwesi is cheating on me with another. Just waiting until it backfires then he would come crawling back to me again. I guess he underestimates how well I know him sometimes. I can always tell when he has divided attention. During those moments, he doesn't really call or text me that much. He is okay if he doesn't hear from me in a day, it's like he is fine with that. You haven't spoken to someone you are dating in 24 hours and you see nothing wrong with it. And his plans are mostly impromptu and other times he doesn't even mention it to me if he meets up with someone. I can tell when something is up with him yet he would say he is fine. Then when I decide to stretch the matter, he later decides to say what he was going through. But why hide it from me in the first place?. I don't really get it. Sometimes, he just decides to ignore me. He sees my message and doesn't reply. He sees my missed call and doesn't call back. Then 2 minutes later, he would update his whatsapp status. I mean, who does that?. Lol!. He still treats me like his ordinary friend, which hurts me. I see no changes as we graduated from friendship to lovers. No special treatment or exemptions, I don't feel special in anyway. I previously thought it was because we were friends, but now we're lovers and yet I don't feel special in anyway. The very kind of love I wished I never had. But now, I'm in love with him. Mom, he doesn't even know how to exchange common love messages. He reads and never replies. I just don't get him sometimes. How can one be such unromantic?. He's just weird. My type of weird.

Being Bounced

Most of us are afraid to go ahead with our proposals
because we are mostly afraid of being said "NO" to.
Some of us are used to it by now but others refuse to
officially propose because they aint truly certain of the
outcome and are afraid a "NO" may jeopardize their friendship.
Afterwards we find out later there was no harm in trying
after all but it's always at last. Wouldn't blame the guys
too much cause the ladies do make it difficult for them to tell
whether they are into them or not. The moment they think
they are getting somewhere they get shut down discovering something
that totally dumps their spirit which is mostly a chat the lady had with
someone else. I don't also blame the ladies because the guys makes it
also difficult for them to know what they really feel and if they can trust
them wholly since most of their actions are quite contradictory.

Regret

No courage to do something always results into regret. Lemme tell you someone's life story. A guy really liked a lady through out his 4years stay in university but wasn't bold enough to confront her, so he always kept beating around the bush because he had a bad feeling he would be bounced. He did try to propose many times but anytime he tried to, something would bump into it to destroy the chance he had. Luckily, he meets her after university at a cafeteria during their national service, of which they made it their usual meeting hour to talk during their lunch period. He mastered courage to confess his feelings to her one time. But the moment he said "Will You?", he decided to lift up his head to look her in the face. The intensive look on the girl's face alone, not to talk of her reactions made him lose courage and ended up asking. "Will you do me a favor?". Years afterwards, they meet at a business conference, both of them happily married with children. While they were chatting, he asked her, do you remember the day at the cafeteria?. I almost proposed to you and she responded, I was hoping you would, I kept on praying within me you would propose that day, cause you were a responsible guy and a very good marriage material. After she answered, he replied, "if only I knew what you were thinking, because your facial expression told a different story". And they laughed it off. So why don't you give it a try now.

A Nagging Girl

My roommates's friend called Roland, normally comes into our room
pissed off or upset from a chat he had with his girlfriend. She's a nagging
girlfriend, no doubt, but what is really funny is she complains about the little
things and this puts him off to the extent that he has to come talk about it in our
room, which can last for hours, sometimes as early as 7am. He's now fed up and concluding
that he doubts whether he wants her as a wife.
I know you would say im taking his side cause he's a boy so lemme elaborate further.
She complains about him not calling her as he used to which is a good argument but when
he realizes his mistakes and starts calling regularly she asks why he's pretending he cares.
When she calls and it rings for a longer time than usual before he picks up, is a problem.
If he picks up and says i'm busy at the moment is another problem. If she tells him she's off
to the hospital and after a while he doesn't call to ask of the run down is a problem.
If she calls and it happens to be line busy, then is a greater problem. He's now made up his mind to leave his life and that he is still young, and deserves to have his piece of mind.
Is that a good choice?, you tell me.

A Wrong Turn

Some mistakes we make ain't fixable, we just have to
live with it as it is. Realized why some people commit
suicide regardless how many loved ones they have. Sometimes,
we need someone we can pour out our heartfelt desires to but we wonder
if they would feel our pain. They may end up saying if someone could
do it, we should be able to do it as well, but that doesn't help, even though
it does to a point. I had a feeling I was lost the very moment I found myself
in a science class in senior high school, I liked reading but all the good students
in my junior high school were encouraged to offer science based on their good performance in both science and math as well. I always encouraged myself I could make it but I did really struggle anyway. So I know how it feels like taking the wrong turn, trust me I do and keeping it ourselves doesn't help us.

Think About

Having someone on your mind once in a while isn't a bad thing
you know. Doesn't mean in anyway you obsessed with the person or
you have fallen for the person. You just have them on your mind to keep
you smiling or happy because you admire their personality. Thinking about
someone doesn't make you weak, it makes you care and it is between you and
yourself if you don't want them knowing you do. Cause some people say if
they realize you cared, they will walk over all over you or use it to their advantage.
But my question is, whom do you normally think about and why?

Wish You Were Here

Has anyone ever told you this before?
What occasion was it?, Where you the only one the person told?
Did it feel sincere?, or was it just something the person said
in order to make you think you missing a lot or to feel special?.
Once a friend visited me and whilst escorting her she looked at me
and said "I enjoyed your company", I was very touched.
After a while, I found myself sitting by her during church service
after which she said same, but it didn't feel as it was the first time.
Realized that the frequent use of most phrases or words makes it lose it's
taste but not with this very phrase, "Wish you were here". During such a moment,
even if you thought of committing suicide you would hold that thought back.

Appearance

We easily intimidated by the visual aspect of people.
It becomes difficult for us to lay before them what we wanna
tell them. We fumble if we manage to find a way to talk to them.
We later keep gnashing our teeth after our awful experience with
them, thinking we could have done better. We later get another
chance of speaking to them and we start fumbling again, it's as if
our body is giving us up and all the words we rehearsed to say are
escaping from our minds. It's a normal feeling.

September Rush

I know this obviously sounds silly but it's a real deal.
This is a season whereby freshers, that is newly admitted
students into the university are being spotted-out by the
continuing students and many grab one for themselves.
It is the most celebrated and acknowledged season of all
semesters. During this period, freshers are enlightened and
welcomed into the real world. Some make mistakes they regret
for the rest of their life, but others read in-between the lines
and for others they come with a totally different mindset.

It's a very interesting time of the semester.

Technique 2

Some simple ways are as follows: (Doesn't always work)
Done towards someone you've said hello to a couple of times or someone you in talking terms with not someone you just met, greatly depends on your approach and confidence.
1.You can trick them into asking for your number to find out some sort of information if you two are chatting on-line. Thus if you excuse yourself at the moment you are to deliver the information and that you may not return soon since your on-line time is done and they may need the info urgently.
2. Invite them to an interesting program and act as if you already have their number by telling them you will send them the details later and start walking away.
3. If you attend the same lecture or extracurricular activity or same church, anything at all you two participate in, you can use that to ask for their number in case of any update or needs help in practicing.
4. You can also trick them into calling you by wanting to hear your new caller tune or people have been saying you have weird ring tones so you wanna verify. Since they have your number and you also have their number now. Don't be in a hurry to say hello after a day or two, hold on.
5. You can directly ask for their numbers after you've been friends for quite a while and been chatting often. It could be through a social media if you haven't met the person yet or face-to-face if you know the person.
6. Lastly, If you get their number through a friend, or through your own devious means just have a good reason for calling or texting and explain why you needed the number so they wouldn't ask a lot of questions. Eg. Hello, this is Ehud your church member, got your number through our choir group, just want to wish you a merry Christmas and to ask how you doing? and the timing should be right.

Phone Number

Getting someone's number could be very difficult depending on your confidence level.
The kind of approach you use also counts a lot though. Lemme help you out with a little
approaches you could adopt:
Don't get someone to get you their number, if you really serious about them. Also don't trick the person by saying your phone is off and you need theirs to make an urgent call. They wouldn't take you serious if you say hi afterwards. So if you are truly interested in them, doing it face-to-face is the best way and not through emails or facebook if you know them in person.

False Friends

I've been lucky enough to figure these things out early enough in my life such that my life is filled with good friends upon whom I can rely on. With these tools, you learn to distinguish between friends and acquaintances. Fine to have both as long as you know who can differentiate.
False friends:
* Only call when they need something.
* Only call when they wanna talk badly about someone else.
* Love drama. (and wanna be part of it)
* Always make you feel low about yourself.
* Never have time for you.
* Listen only as far as something pertains to them.
* Dump you the moment they pick up a romantic interest and return only when it is over.

Pretending to Like You

1. Jealousy
Your accomplishments makes them insecure.
2. When discouraged
 They always make fun of your failures.
3. Conveniently friends?
They stick around if they need you to get things done and ignore you afterwards.

4. Ask for help

Just text them you need help but don't describe the kind of help and observe them.
5. Notice how often they break their promises
It could be that they only like your company but soon enough they may replace you.
6. Do they make you feel bad in front of others?
Making fun of you with sensitive topics that will hurt you shows how they careless.

Make them Love You 3

Being Lovable
1. Work on being the best you. (No pretending)
2. Take good care of your body.
3. Give your life a purpose and direction.
4. Be nice to others as well.
5. Show them the best side of you. (Again no pretending)
6. Afterwards let them see your good and bad side whether they can cope.

Preparing for emotional hurdles
1. Be emotionally available. (Don't be confused from the start)
2. Be sure that you are the one. (Be serious with your feelings)
3. Have a pure motive. (eg. Not because you want to make someone jealous)
4. Have a long-term goal for your relationship. (Not the let's try and see one)
5. Believe that there are other people. (Move on if you ain't the one)

Make Them Love You 2

Earning their Heart
1. Show them love during difficult times.
2. Make yourself significant in their life.
3. Show them how much you care through sincere actions.
4  Ask them out on a date. (Be straight-forward.)
5. Be a great date. (First days out are very important.)
6. Go the extra mile.

Loving Right
1. Respect them. (Never judge them nor make them feel bad.)
2. Be a good friend. ( Make them our best friends)
3. Remember that you are two separate people. (Don't try to change them)
4. Let them be whom they are, how they are.
5. Let them make choices about their time and private space.

Keeping them in Love
1. Don't ever take them for granted.
2. Don't stop putting in effort.
3. Make a commitment.
4. Always do something new and exciting together.

Make Them Love You

Sometimes we meet some people and we know know: it's love.
However, it isn't always easy to see the wonderful qualities of some
people right away. They may need a little push to realize that maybe they love you
too. Remember theit there is no way to make someone fall in love with you that wouldn't
want love that was forced anyway. But, with time and effort, you may be able to be for
them all the amazing things that they are for you. Here are tips for getting that special
someone to have eyes only for you but the rest depends on you:
Developing a bond:
1. Find someone that is right for you.
2. Get to know them.
3. Involve yourself in things they love.
4. Make them feel special.
5. Create trust.

Make Them Not Love You

If someone is madly in love in you and you don't feel the same way about the person or your ex wanna get back with you and you don't love them anymore. It could also be that you don't want to be rude by hurting someones feelings by telling them you don't love them. Then these are the steps to make someone not love you;
 1. If he/she calls start complaining about anything.
2. Ignore them on phone. (eg. Oh sorry one min, I want to watch this TV show)
3. Have a childish attitude. (eg. Compliment everyone but ignore them)
4. Be irrational. (make no sense when you speak especially when they are serious)
5. Say things like he/she deserves it. (eg. when they get beaten by the rain)
6. Hardly answer calls. (Say that you busy and can't really talk)
7. If they message you a paragraph reply in two words..
8. Don't sympathize at all.
9. Make yourself unavailable.(esp. If they want you to come out)
10. Be embarrassing to be with. (eg. Telling them what to do)
11. Be a push over. (Force them to do things)

Don't Take For Granted

Never take someone's feelings for granted. If you realize they are
beginning to show interest in you and you don't feel same just make it
known to them. Could be either through words or gestures. How to realize
they into you before is too late are as follows;
You will notice that he or she looks at you differently and smiles a lot
when you're around. Be considerate of their feelings cause once someone is into
you your actions mean a lot to them. Be gentle
And when someone doesn't talk with you it doesn't mean they don't like you,
sometimes they are shy. Let's be careful not to mistaken friendliness for flirting,
you could end up getting disappointed or hurt.
If in anyway you get suspicious that they like you, then you definitely do not want
to ask them, "Do you like me?". This could make the person more shy and probably never want to try to ask you out or answer you. Never give them more space than needed. You may lose the person since the person may try to sacrifice the love between you, if you have expressed lack of interest.
I'm talking about someone who truly loves you so someone whose in for something.

How to know 2

Another way of realizing that someone is truly into you is
what they often do around us. In the previous episode we talked
about things they mostly say. In this episode we emphasing on what
they do. As they say "actions speak louder than words"
Let's get started already;
1. Observe if the person listens to anything you say
(Or do they change the subject?)
2. Observe if the person is always there for you as they say they would
(Are they only around during the happy moments?)
3. Observe if the person does nice things for you
(Or do you always have to ask first?)
4. Observe if the person always wants to be around you
(Or they give excuses they want to miss your face?)
5. Observe if the person knows when to give you space
(Is it infatuation or love?)
6. Observe if the person truly understands you
(Are your gestures understood properly?)
7. Observe if the person wants the best for you
(Are you mostly laughed at instead of being comforted?)
8. Observe if the person supports you
(Do they believe in you?)
9. Observe if they can truly themselves around you
(Are they comfortable not looking perfect?)
10. Observe if the person is happy to be around you
(Or you are needed only for a moment?)
11. Observe if the person gives you goodly eyes
(Do they look at you in the goofy, watery, silly, adorable way?)
12. Observe if the person is giddy around you
(Do they laugh for no reason?)
13. Observe if the person is upset when you're upset
(Are they affected by your emotions as well?)

How To Know

We are easily deceived by people's actions into believing they into us.
There's no guaranteed way to know if a person truly loves you, but there are a few ways to read the signs to figure out what is on the mind of your loved one. If you'd like to know if the person you love truly loves you back, then you have to pay attention to how the person acts, what they say, and what they do when you're together. Though love may mean something different to every person, there are many ways to tell if a person truly loves you instead of just having a crush on you, liking you a lot, wanting your money, or just being momentarily infatuated with you. If you want to know if that person truly loves you, just follow these steps
1. See if the person talks about your future together.
(What are their reactions when you talk of your future together)
2. See if the person gives you meaningful compliments.
(It's the quality, not the quantity)
3. See the way the person says I Love You
(There's a big difference between love ya and I Love You)
4. See if the person opens up to you.
(If he mostly says  "I've never told anyone this before..." )
5. See if your love one tells you how much they miss you if you are apart.
(How often do they text, email or text you?, or Do they give excuses?)
6. See if the person is comfortable at pointing out your mistakes.
(Healthy amount of criticisms, not too much)
7. See if the person truly values your opinion.
(Mostly on stuffs that matters to them)
    To be continued

Whom To Trust

Some people are good at listening but not at advising.
Others are good at advising but listening is a problem since
they think they've heard similar stories as ours. Others don't
listen at all, they just like to know if they have in anyway contributed to our trouble.
Others listen and even ask questions but end up using us as case study. It's not compulsory
to trust someone but it prevents us from making certain mistakes that we can't see ourselves.

Talent

A natural ability or quality. A person who possesses unusual
inmate ability in some field or activity. How can one say he/she
have no natural endownment. Is it because we find it difficult
doing certain stuffs people do with such ease. We may give excuses of us
possessing no talent but deep within us we are very aware of things we do with
much ease. It isn't something far-fetched or something we force ourselves to do.
It could be dancing, singing, drawing, advicing, lecturing, inspiring, convincing,
manipulating, flirting, bargaining, smiling, selling, acting, pretending,
athletics, welcoming, deceiving, designing, decorating, organizing, educating,
punishing, creative writing, analysing, good at guessing, calculations, an eye for
quality stuffs, decisive, critical, grasping and many others.
If you can't still locate your talent in the list then I guess you need a therapist.
Nothing personal.

Experiences

The accumulation of knowledge or skill that result from
direct participation in events or activities. The very thing that makes us whom we are now. We all go through stuffs that strengthens  us eventually, no matter how it breaks us down. It could be heart-break, poverty, sickness, difficulties, hunger, trauma, pain, distress, death of loved ones, maltreatment and a lot more.
At that junction, we feel no one can feel what we truly feel inside so we just wanna
be alone hoping to get ourselves through it. Being alone during times as such does us
no good, it only builds up disgust for humanity. It makes us hardhearted towards peculiar
category of people, our reasons may be understandable but whom do we become as a result of that.
Holding up grudges or grievance maybe worth it to us but how many people do we hurt along the way?.
And if they are also to hold a grudge against us, how many enemies would we have made?.
When I watch series or movies about revenging or avenging, the problems those people go through themselves and the innocent people they manipulate, hurt, wangle, falsify before achieving their goals are uncountable and deplorable. My point is, certain things happen to us for a reason. It could be that God is testing us in one way or the other, it could also be the works of the devil or perhaps the bad choices we made so we shouldn't react  to everything that we go through. It is difficult to endure so we would say, "if only you knew what we are going through"  just to keep the bitterness within us. We should let whatever we go through in life strengthen us rather than making us vengeful or bitter.

Lying

Pretending with the intend to deceive.
There are peculiar traits we exhibit unconsciously when telling
a lie. We may not notice but a good observer can tell when one is lying.
It's easy to tell if the liar isn't good at it, that is if we know the person
really well.
We shouldn't misinterpret them because sometimes it isn't a lie.
It could be other reasons preventing them from telling the whole truth.
Some lies could be on the account of fear or duress so judging by their gestures
alone isn't enough. And a good perceiver should be able to distinguish between when a person is telling a lie and when the person isn't. Sometimes, lying can be a good
thing. I rest my case.

Staying Natural

 I find it quite fascinating to see ladies trying to stay natural lately. It's a good thing though. But what really inspires them to do so?. Or is it because they don't have the resources to enlighten their beauty so they stick to being natural?. What is it with cosmetics that they dislike?. Is it that the side-effects surpasses it's advantages?. Do they look better being natural or they feel they aren't trying to impress anyone?. Are those that apply additives also good looking in their natural state or when it is finished, they stay indoors?. Is it because of health matters that people decide to stay natural? Do they apply little additive in one way or another? Is their choice beneficial to them or they are causing harm to themselves? If they had all sort of cosmetics at their disposal, would they still stay natural? What are the actual reasons why they are staying natural?

I Love You

The value that this phrase use to carry has been drastically reduced lately
due to the outrageous number of times we vaguely use it. Basically, it was simply used to express one's deepest and sincerest feeling for another that could not be expressed by words.
Moreover, It was the shortest way of letting one know how we cherished and adored their presence in our life and wouldn't in any way do anything to jeopardize that. How happy one felt when they heard one say unto them "I Love You". It was said with such passion and warmth that it made one feel on top of the world. It wasn't misused in anyway since it was followed by sincere actions that proved their love.
How I wish we could go back to the days when love was expressed with such veracity. You could feel each words as they were told with such passion and romanticism as written in the book of "Songs of Solomon". The feeling behind this phrase that has lost it's redolence and earnestness, that could revitalize the broken-hearted and reassure the lonely-hearted. It was just but a sincere "I Love You"

Delay Before Replying

It could be that your message may have delayed due to network problems, but on a normal basis whereby the person reads your message and doesn't reply at all.
Or the person replies minutes or hours later is definitely because of the content of the message of which we all aware..
It is definitely on purpose since they are aware the longer they keep you waiting the more the eagerness to know the reply dies out and even if they eventually do they don't answer the question as it is. They may totally ignore the message or change the subject that is if it isn't in their interest at that point in time.

Loss of Interest

We stop chatting with specific people mainly because we
lose interest in their chat. It could be that they keep bringing
up stuffs we not interested in or they are simply annoying and boring.
It could also be that they like to bring up irrelevant stuffs during unplayful times.
Sometimes we just haven't gotten to the stage where they can say anything and get away with. Moreover, having them around us doesn't feel interesting anymore. No matter how they try to impress us we just overlook their efforts besides their lifestyle doesn't blend with ours.That is when we lose interest.

Copy and Paste

Basically, everything we do now is copy and paste.
Writing of reports, pronunciamento, holiday wishes,
special occasion wishes, class assignments, essay writing
and a lot more.
It is quite normal if we are able to modify it to suit our
prospect. But I wonder why we ain't able to conjure words
ourselves on special occasions like valentine and happy birthday.
How difficult could that be?, It is too obvious to notice a copy
and paste message from an original message especially on such
special occasions.
We can do our best and think of anything lovely we have realized
about the person, their positive impact in our life and anything
to inspire them to keep on with it. It is that simple if only we
put our minds to it.  

Hear You Say

Compliments are showered on us everyday yet we ain't that happy if the one we admire does not. We may seek refuge in the sweet talks of others but that isn't enough. It's like our soul isn't content.
I heard a song by Passengers entitled "Nothing compares to you" and I was triggered to write something about it. The lyrics talked about how one could laugh and socialize with everyone in another's absence but it still couldn't be compared to the feeling when that person was around.
I thought of it and realized it was very true, nothing can be compared to the one you admire or love. Even their mere presence is a relief. Not seeing them for a week or hearing from them for a day is disheartening. We wish they were always around us and that they would shower us with sweet talks as others do but it's unfortunate they sometimes take that for granted. And we have to keep ourselves occupied in order not to miss them too much cause we know even though they may be missing us they wouldn't say it. The response we always get when we say we miss them so much, isn't good enough so we decide to keep it to ourselves sometimes. Nevertheless, we like them anyway so we have to deal with it but if it fades away with time then it isn't our fault but theirs.

An Introvert

I found myself in this category of people at a very tender age, and that resulted into writing, because sharing my thoughts with people wasn't really my strong hold. I had people I could share them with, but just didn't. Shockingly, I had handful of friends and I didn't know anything about them either, apart from their school life. Getting to know people wasn't something of my interest, since I didn't want them knowing me either. Basically, my friends mostly only guessed everything concerning me, and never knew the vivid truth, because I only smiled when they always asked me, "How many siblings I had?" or "Whether I was a Ghanaian?". I was a person who tended to shrink from social contacts and became preoccupied with my own thoughts.
 The few friends I had were the very ones I mostly spoke to. Mingling with other children wasn't something of my interest. I was very picky with choosing friends, hence, I was mostly alone. If none of my friends showed up at school, I would be on my own the whole day; not entirely talking to myself or acting strange, but just randomly smiling cause I always had funny thoughts running through my mind. I became very observant with time, cause all I did was to observe people of my interest.
Going for parties, reunions, social gathering wasn't something I liked. Funny enough I bought myself a diary which I wrote stuffs that transpired in school. I had a few crushes I always loved to sit and watch all day without getting tired; of course they had an intriguing personality. I didn't have a boring life as it may seem, I did have gadgets to keep me busy always. Music was something I never felt okay without at my leisure. I even studied with music, which also made me learn how to sing.
I was very attentive in class, I smiled once in a while when I had funny thoughts about silly gestures my classmates made unknowingly. I actually knew my mates who had crushes on others cause all I did was sit and observe more than I talked, which made me more accurate at guessing. People always misconceived my mutism for shyness, which wasn't the case. I was funny and interesting as complemented by many, but boring as well, they concluded. Your story may be different from mine but we may share the same qualities. Being an introvert isn't a bad thing after all.

Encouraging Ourselves

During difficult times, we all have variant ways of inspiring ourselves.
Apparently, It's a good thing if you know how to so we wouldn't end up committing suicide.
From my analysis, I have come out with a simple answer that most people give up because they didn't get anyone to encourage them during their times of agony. They get so much burdened with their troubles and later decide to end it all forgetting they are headed towards a place of greater torments that they can't escape. I do understand them though, cause in peculiar situations our troubles knocks us down so hard that we are unable to think straight. And in those moments of such exquisite pain, even those comforting us become myopic in thinking that their words don't carry the necessary resources to constitute to revitalizing us.  
So my remedy to this is also simple as well, That we should know how to urge ourselves on always even during good times and we should do that constantly so much so that we get very good at it.
At this stage, we wouldn't totally break down when we are dissected by our close ones who usually encourage us in our times of distress. Let's liken this remedy to that of the life story of Job in the Bible. He stood firm cause he knew how to encourage himself in the Lord. Learning to do this may be difficult cause we may be weaker as compared to Job, or we may be softer or life may have always been smoother. Regardless, we should still learn to encourage ourselves day in and day out, not because we are awaiting bad times but we are strengthening ourselves since we know ourselves better and no one can boost our moral as suitable as we may refer.