Those Things III

( A Week Later)
Boy: Didn't hear from you again. How are you doing?
Girl: Then I guess you know the reply by now. I'm doing very okay, you?
Boy: Oh okay, at least I tried. I'm doing okay as well though. Lemme know if I should pass by.
Girl: No Reply... (Then Two days Later the Boy sends a message)
Boy: Hello, I hope you are doing okay?, What are you doing at the moment?
Girl: No Reply... ( Five Days Later the Boy sends another message)
Boy: Hello, really been a while, saying hello, miss you.
Girl: No Reply...(Eleven Days Later the Boy sends another message)
Boy: Oh, so where did I go wrong? Texting the reason why you acting this way would help.
Girl: No Reply... (Twenty Days Later the Boy sends another message)
Boy: Alright, won't bother you again. This is my last message. Lemme know when you wanna talk.
Girl: No Reply... ( Thirty Days Later the Boy sends another message)
Boy: It's surprising how people just ignore you and later would want things to go back to normal.
Girl: Please let me be okay. Ignoring you for a reason. I would have told you if I want you to know. 
Boy: Okay, Goodbye then but don't come back later. I gave you the chance to explain yourself.
Girl: No Reply... (Fifty Days Later the Boy sends a message)
Boy: So you don't care?, just left me hanging for over a month for "some reason".
Girl: You should know when you are no longer needed in someone's life.

Those Things II

Boy: I'm at your door. Please open up okay.
Girl: Like Seriously, Don't remember telling you to come over.
Boy: Oh!, you just come and hear what I want to tell you.
Girl: But next time please don't come over if I say No.
Boy: And what if I don't tell you I'm coming over.
Girl: That's at your own risk.
(Girls opens the door for the Boy, They both smile.)
Girl: So what's up?
Boy: Oh seriously!,  won't you let me in?
Girl: Why are you so troublesome?, Anyways, come in.
Boy: You still sleep on a top bed?
Girl: How did you know?
Boy: I remember the blanket from first year.
Girl: I hear.
(They climb up the bed and Girl offers Boy a drink)
Girl: What do you want to tell me?
Boy: So haven't you missed me?
Girl: Please go straight to the point.
Boy: I thought you liked our "back and forth" game we used to play.
Girl: Lol!, That was then, okay I did miss it but not anymore so I'm all ears.
Boy: The thing is, you and I are still single and I think there's a reason why.
Girl: Lol, Are you being serious right now, your point being?
Boy: It's a sign, besides I know you made it clear why we couldn't date before but why not now.
Girl: Lol, so you being serious right now?, you can't even look me in the face whilst talking, what shows you are ready to date? 
Boy: I know you like me but you keep saying you over it now. And as you can see I'm not only looking at your face but into your eyes this time around.
Girl: So what do you want to hear me say right now and after saying that then what happens?
Boy: You making it seem like I'm the only one who wants this, not saying we should make it official straight away. We can still give it a try and you know for sure how happy we would be doing everything together.
Girl: Point well-noted.

Those Things

Conversation between Trump and Rozita.
Boy: Where are you?
Girl: In my room.
Boy: What are you doing?
Girl: Nothing at the moment.
Boy: Should I come over?
Girl: Nope.
Boy: Why?
Girl: A little busy.
Boy: Really, but you just said you are free.
Girl: Why do you have something for me?
Boy: No, just want to come visit.
Girl: Why what's up?
Boy: Just miss you, nothing really.
Girl: When is something really. then you can come.
Boy: Do you have someone over?
Girl: Why do you ask?
Boy: Just wanna know.
Girl: Okay, let's talk later.

Lora's Story

Losing Friends is something I'm really a victim of. It's more
like I don't really care anymore since I have gotten used to it by now.
It's not like I easily make friends but I'm someway so I like maintaining
hello-hello friends. Realized when I get intimate it's either the person
begins to bore me and I start "acting strange", they say or all of a sudden the person
becomes too annoying for my liking. I wouldn't say I'm the emotional type but unnecessary stuffs hurts me. Obviously, by people I care about. Don't know how to explain that to you anyways.  I'm not picky or anything, I do like people and I'm likeable if you being true to yourself but  everyone has got a problem. Mine is holding on to friends but good friends I intend to keep.
 

Clergy Ross

Before I start this piece I wanna clarify the fact that I ain't gay, just don't have a girlfriend for now. I'm not lying if I tell you I have a lot of hi-hi friends but someone to really share personal stuffs  with I don't really have. I did have such people in my life at a point but you know in this life, is give and take. So when I realise they ain't opening up and sharing like I am, I just let them slide away. One person that has been constant in my life is Clergy Ross, he's more like family. We go way back from kindergarten. Even though we didn't go to the same senior high and university we always find a way to catch up. We talk about everything but especially the women in our life. Actually he's a cool dude, very likeable. He's always got an information you would wanna hear. Also has the rundown of people off head, more like a database system. Music is one thing we have in common. We just love and share similar taste in music.
In fact, he's the one that gave me the idea of creating a blog to keep stock of my writings since most of them just go to waste. He's got good advice which comes out once in a while and when it does you better hold on to it like I did with creating a blog. Interestingly, we both single, wouldn't go into that too much. lol. He's too careful even though it may seem the ladies he likes, ends up becoming his bestie. Walking with him is sometimes annoying cause he has countless friends so you would have to stop averagely every two minutes to say hi to someone.
Obviously, he's a gentleman and takes his time to walk. Also takes his time to analyze stuffs as well, isn't quick to judge. He likes to take risks regardless the fact that he does what makes him feel comfortable. Easily makes friends but isn't too good with text messages. He's reasonably open, takes advice, acts matured, accepts his faults but sometimes feels lazy to carry out something when he has the idea. He perceives what is expected of him and tries his best to make people feel comfortable around him. Frankly, the jovial type, considerate, influential, gives respect to whom respect is due. He keeps away from people he isn't compactible with rather than faking to like them. Clergy Ross. How would you describe your bestie, twin, or whoever is very vital in your life?
  

What People Think

 Bel: I posted one of my writings on a group page of mine and one of my friends was like; I should write something about him. And the first thought that came into mind was, if someone was to write something about me how would it be like.? What would they really emphasis on?, and would they say anything good about me?, or would the bad surpass the good?. Because I do have a couple of friends if I'm supposed to say something about them I wouldn't just have anything to say rather than to beat around the bush. Most people would say they don't really care what people have to say about them. I think it's just a way of making ourselves feel better, because when we critically analyze things ourselves, we know for sure what people would say about us. Either than everyone concluding that,  "we are okay".  We should at least get three or four people to say something special about us. It's not like it's a necessity or something but it's to know the kind of life we're living and the kind of opinions people have about us. "After all what?",  someone may say. Still ago ahead to ask a couple of your friends what they think about you and wait for a reply. And note the similarities in whatever they have to say.

How it Started

Jude was in the room on his bed going about with his usual routine when Eve walked in. She was after a roommate of his who was busy sleeping. Jude turned towards the direction of Eve and was like see her sweet self in his head which brought about a big smile on his face. Eve noticed the smile and felt comfortable at once, she joined the movie Jude was watching after she noticed her friend was fast asleep. Jude was trying to convince himself it was his charms that made her stay and not come back later so he was feeling proud of himself to get such a wonderful company out of the blue. Of Late, his friends had been saying he had lost his coolness that made him so likeable, hence, he was wishing his friends were here to  esperience his breakthrough.
But Fred, his roommate woke during their chat and then  he realized she was just using him as means to an end. lol. It did hurt him a little, oh come on!, cut him some slack. Sometimes you know how obvious something is but you try to convince yourself just to make you feel better. Anyway Jude made up his mind not to allow her use him in case she came back another time. It turned out that Eve also had a roommate who was Jude's friend so he started going over. She came over often as well but anytime she did, Jude would be in bed "pretending to sleep" as she liked to put it.
So she would leave and send him a message of how annoying he is. Since he always claims he misses her but never shows it when she comes over. He also thought it wasn't his fault since she seem pretty okay. Laughing and chatting here and there, he didn't know what she wanted him to do actually. But he realized he didn't really give her attention as she does when he goes over to hers. And that was how it all started. After a week or two they both realized they were getting emotionally attached to each other. Eve confronted Jude first about the matter and he clarified his conscience was clear and that he was just playing along and nothing else which was clearly a lie. Since he had a bad record of opening up to a girl and later realizing the girl wasn't so much interested as he was. He just couldn't keep repeating the same mistakes. Eve also decided to lay low by not getting herself involved so much for her own sake.
To Jude's surprise, Eve had the same getting emotionally attached over little things problem. It is just a strange and complicated situation to find yourself in. Despite the fact that she wants to take things to the next level, she doesn't want things to backslide since she hasn't really gotten a hold of him yet and he cannot read her mind as well. But he just hope things work out as he plans. 

And She Stopped

I have a cute friend in my hostel called Efua. She used to visit me once in a while usually when I told her I missed her and is been a while I saw her. But one day I messed up, I forgot I sent her a message telling her she should pass by when she is free. Two hours later, she knocked on my door.
Unfortunately, I had another friend over at that moment who was just with my laptop looking through my pictures, laughing and commenting. I was playing music as well and the speakers were pretty loud so it took a while to hear someone was actually at the door. Eventually, I opened up and realized it was her. Silly enough, I put on a surprised face forgetting I was the one who invited her in the first place. She stood there staring at me in a cute smile and looking adorable. Acting all baby-like. I then signaled her to come back a few minutes time and shut the door. The girl with me asked whom it was and I replied no one which I guess she heard cause we had stopped playing the music at that moment. Later I noticed how irrational I had been cause it wasn't like I was dating the two of them secretly, neither was I hiding anything from any of them but I just acted silly. I also remembered how nice she was looking, she might have showered and dressed up telling her roommates she was off to visit a friend on the last floor and she returns a few minutes later. Wouldn't they make fun of her?. She hasn't visited me after that, silly mistakes would affect you one way or the other, just avoid them.

The Question, "Why".

I'm not here to motivate you, you don't need that, obviously. Often that's what people think I do, and it's the far off from that. What happens is that, people say to me, "I don't need any motivation." But that's not what I do. I'm the "Why?" guy. I want to know why you do what you do. What is your motive for your actions? What is it that drives you in your life today? Because I believe that the invisible force of internal drive, activated, is the most important thing. I'm here because I believe emotion is the force of life. All of us have great minds unless not challenged. We all know how to think. With our minds we can rationalise anything. We can make anything happen. We don't work in our self-interest all the time, because when emotion comes into it, the wiring changes in the way it functions. Everyone has got a story to tell some day, What would yours be?

Misconception huh!

Reading people's mind is a difficult thing even though some may think otherwise. One minute you think you have pinned them down and the next minute they prove you wrong. Let me tell you one story that just came in mind. I was in grade 4 by then and sitting by this girl. Guess you already aware of elementary school and pairing people up. This is your girlfriend/boyfriend and stuffs like that. I was very calm so it took me a while to start catching up with my sitting partner whilst others had started chatting even before knowing whom their sitting partner was. I then got very close to this girl called Goldie, who she felt most of her classmates didn't really like her. She started confiding in me and stuffs like that, getting all emotional sometimes. And just before I taught I knew her inside out, suddenly she changed. She claimed I broke her trust since someone also got to know of something confidential she told me. She just wouldn't listen anymore. She later found someone else to confide in and afterwards did the same thing to the person as well, then I realized it was her habit.

Tricky Questions

There are some simple questions that do not require instant replies so I call them tricky questions. An example is when someone ask you, do you love me?. This is a yes or no question and is easy to notice the person doesn't love you if they start beating around the bush and not answering the question as it is. Others say I love you as a friend, this is a much more clarified answer. Doing away with saying a yes or no which may call for other unnecessary questions or intentions that are uncalled for. But if it is a relationship-based intension you two have then simple questions like these are very relevant rather than assuming for the person based on their actions. Of course everyone is much aware of the fact that actions speak louder than words but assumptions aren't safe either. Hence ask more simple yes or no questions and don't assume. These are some of the questions you can ask;
1. Do you dislike my perfume ?    2. Do you like the way I look?
3. Do you like my friends?    4. Do you like the way I dress? 
5. Do you like the way I behave?    6.Do you find me attractive?

What do you do

I do act pretty strange sometimes of which I am very much aware of. Some call me annoying, others say I have attitude but if you have people being rude to you from infancy you develop this attitude of mine as well. Wouldn't dive into that because I know what you thinking right now, that is really none of your business. But the point I want to make is this, I realized this friend of mine was actually feeling down on herself. She didn't really highly esteem herself so I decided to help out cause I have also been there and know how it feels. I didn't really care to know why she felt that way because obviously it was as a result of past experiences, I just knew the feeling.
 So we became very close which helped me enlighten her on a few basic stuffs like    smiling frequently, behaving like a lady, not talking anyhow, knowing whom to befriend and a whole lot. Not that she didn't know but she needed to discover certain aspects of herself. And she was very calm and involved so it was very much easier teaching her since she was willing and open. She actually did call me her therapist so you can guess how far we went. So one day I proposed to her knowing very well what the answer was but wanted her to have a taste of someone pursuing her and wanting her. I took her down the road of love but I played it safe and made sure she didn't fall in the process, likewise myself. She was feeling a little more different and started seeing herself in a different way since then. Liked her better that way because as a lady you should have a little attitude and even if you are very interested you shouldn't right away say Yes or else you can easily be pranked. That was what I told her the first day we met and it was finally accomplished. It's a good thing to help someone find themselves when you discover they have an inner passion for something beneficial but they seem to cover it up. Help make someone a better person today.