Vybes : I won't lie to you, life isn't easy. There is no constant formula that works for everyone. A formula to success may work for many, but not you. That is why there comes a phase in our lives; required of us to explore different options in order to discover ourselves and what works for us. Discovering ourselves doesn't necessarily mean we stick to the negative aspects of ourselves. We may discover that we are heartless, rude, quick-tempered, shallow, distant, snobbish, arrogant, prideful due to life's experiences. After discovering these and any other negative aspect of us, it is then up to us to work on ourselves to better ourselves. Life is already stressful, so we must try as much as possible to work on us. We don't need to carry our baggage full of stress to someone to bare them. It is only natural that they would get tired along the way. They should see that we are also putting in the effort to better ourselves, then they would be encouraged to willingly help. We should have our dreams, goals, achievements, sense of direction, life's path before we find that person who can guide, support, encourage, lead us to that destination. We don't find someone and just throw our burdens on them, remember, they have their burdens which they also need help with. Some people don't know what they want in the first place. They only have an idea of what they want. Which is a good thing, because at least they know. We must then have time for ourselves in our lonely and alone times. Those are the times we get to spend time with ourselves to narrow down on the idea of the type of life we want, and the path we want to take to get there. Moving with the flow doesn't help; having a plan does. Ask questions, research, let's do our findings from the right people. Let's allow our instincts lead us, cause it's mostly right. Shortcuts isn't allowed!. Let's have time for ourselves to grow into the person we want to become. Let us put in the effort rather than leave it to time and chance. We must be ready and qualified when the opportunity presents itself. God has provided the means, let us take advantage of it.
