Talk to Miss Guma

Joy: Miss Guma, I have a strong feeling my boyfriend is cheating on me. Anytime, he begins to distant himself from me, after a while, I realize, someone else has been getting all of his attention. On two occasions, he has done that. The first time, we were still friends. The second time, things were complicated between us. And again, I am having the same strong feeling that he is gone back to his old habits, which is really eating me up. I cannot confront him straightforward because I cannot really tell. If I go ahead and ask him, and I am wrong, it would really mess things up between us. So what should I do?
Miss Guma: I do understand your situation my daughter. But how sure are you, that you two are dating now?. Does he introduce you to others as his girlfriend?. If not, you should know that breaking up with you wouldn't be a problem for him. That also shows he either does not love you enough or he is just playing with your emotions. I mean, take time to think things through. Again, does he really break up with those girls?. Do you have any prove or whatsoever or you just take his word for it?. I think you should bring up a sensitive topic concerning your relationship with him and cautiously study his response and reactions, you would know where you stand, there and then. It could also be that you are just over reacting.

Framing the question is difficult

Gerald: Why do people do that in the first place?. I bet you would also relate to this feeling fully. Spare me a minute or more, while uncover what you already know. Framing the question is just a little difficult than I expected. But the idea is quite easier to grasp, if only you can relate to the experience. So the question is; why do we want to risk the good relationship we have by having someone else on the side?. Seeming like one isn't enough for us or we ain't satisfied with one. I do really wanna understand this one. What is really lacking with the one we have that we result to having another on the side. Some people just like having an open relationship. At least they make their intentions clear. Few like to keep their relationship matters secretive. Many like to let everyone else know whom they're dating to show they're proud of their partner. These people know what they want, which is also a good thing. Cause you would know how to relate with them on certain issues. But one little problem I'm having is with the category of people, who cannot choose who they really want. So virtually, they decide to move with the flow. It's like this month, Ama has shown interest repeatedly, okay let's give her a shot. Next two months, Yaa is really making the effort. Next four months, Akua have proven herself, vice versa. And it keeps rotating. We just better make up our minds before we get into someone's rotational relationship routine also. I'm just saying!

Meet Asante Bota

Bota: I think this picture portrays only 30% of my fineness. Oh yeah!, I'm a very fine girl. Sometimes, I feel like, the word 'fine' does not really describe me in my full abilities, but rather a limitation. I mean, you can say that I'm sweet but that wouldn't be enough. You can try eloquent, dashing, flashy, on-point, but I'm not really a fan of classifying beauty with adjectives. I usually don't like to do make ups cause I like to look normal often, which is difficult being overly beautiful. But I still try to blend with my environment by not giving too much pressure to others, cause I practically look good in everything. I do go to the gym every once a week to keep my shape intact, cause I don't fancy a protruding tummy. I have a lot of girlfriends with tummy issues that messes up their great shape. And I don't wanna be a victim so I try my best by taking precautions. Most ladies suffer from inferiority complex issues when it comes to beauty. As for me, I don't need anyone to compliment me, I do that all the time in my mirror every morning. Even before others add up theirs. And that's called Self Love.

Something You Should Know

Blaq: I would love you to know me; inside out. The only problem is, I'm afraid of the outcome. I know you might be thinking I'm not capable of loving. Cause one moment I'm like; l'm in love with you, another moment; my actions are contracting my words, bla bla bla. And that makes you see me as emotionally vulnerable. I totally get you if you think that way about me. Cause I'm very aware you've witnessed people taking advantage of my emotions. But please don't define me by my past. I wouldn't mind if you decide to leave me for whom I am, even though it may break me. Deep down within me, I know that if you knew certain things about me, you wouldn't love me for me. Cause you've grown to love this person that deep within, I'm not. It hurts that you see me to be emotionally unstable. If only I could erase that thought from your head. I know that is the only reason why you're holding back. Same with me thinking you're insecure. And I've realized you sometimes don't communicate where you go or whom you're talking to on the phone with or whom you're with, with me. Please don't get me wrong. I'm not saying you're hiding something, only saying don't make it seem like it. And Linda said I should tell you not to use her to kill your boredom, find someone else.

Grateful Soul

Gregg: I'm forever grateful to the LORD for how far I have come. Few years ago, I was a young boy trying to figure out life. But here I am in a new year, having my career goals and life ambitions written down. Acting all grown up and putting my life in order. Focusing on my strengths and leaving my weaknesses to God, since He had me figured out, right from when I was a clot of blood in my mama's womb. Outrightly, He knows me better than I know myself. And He knows the path that accomplishes my life's purpose. I couldn't be more thankful than I am now. At first I was a bit skeptical as to whether He had a hand in this path of life I chose. But now I'm rest assured He truly does. Cause when I sit down and reminisce about my past up until now. I just see everything fitting in perfectly and it all makes sense now. All along I was thinking this path I chose was as a result of my shortcomings. But then I realized, my shortcomings are perfected in Him. And I would have been forcing myself down a path I would be thinking is right for me. For He made me smart to my level. Had He made me overly smart I would have chosen an entire different path. And had He made me less smarter I wouldn't have gotten this far. For He knows the full length of my capability. And unto one He gave 1talent, another He gave 2talents and another He gave 5talents, according to their capabilities. It's never too late to know your life purpose as well.

Christmas Love Message III

Jenny: Now is quite clear is you I love. Circumstances and time has made things obviously clear. Haven't given you too much of a tough time, have I?. I know sometimes I go off, which makes it difficult telling what my true intentions are. Nevertheless, you've always been patient and selfish with me, through it all. Even though, you haven't been 100% dependable on. Your efforts are genuine and sincere and that along speaks highly of you. I may have been occupied most of the times you needed me, being stuck up in one thing or the other. Yet, that didnt deter you from jumping into another's arms. You stuck around like a trustworthy person and I admire that a lot. From the look on your face, you're waiting to hear something extremely romantic. Too bad I guess, but you know I'm more of a pragmatic person and words ain't really my thing. Since there are different platforms of expressing one's love; this is one weakest aspect of mine. Will make it up to you in the practical aspect. Don't forget that I love you. And please keep on being the first to say hello even when I never do. Don't stop being sweet to me, based on my reactions cause I'm only human. Let nothing come between us.

Christmas Love Message II

Hilda: Calling somebody your own with a certain assurance is difficult these days. And knowing that someone has got your back, 'no matter what', isn't that assuring either. Also looking at the way relationships are failing is as if they all have a time-bomb attached to it. Whenever you see one's status as, 'actions speak louder than words'. You know the other messed up.

Christmas Love Message

Phil: I wouldn't want to beat around the bush. But I realized being straight forward wouldn't help either in this scenario. But Lord knows, I try hard to ignore or push you away all the time, and the more I do, the more I see myself get hurt in the process. I just love myself around you all the time. And anytime I see you, I wish you could stay a little longer. I even go that far to ignore others whenever you say you're coming over. Only to see you show up and leave just right away or you show up and don't even come inside. I just want you to know there's no condition attached to my love for you. Don't worry I'm very much aware you have another. I think is quite obvious who that guy is. And you pretty much figured out where this conversation was headed right from the start. I mean no harm though. I do see you chat with this guy a lot. I'm sure you know whom I'm referring to. I wouldn't lie about that not making me jealous. But something has got to kill a man. And constantly rejecting me only kills me softly. I bet you've never had this feeling of wanting someone that bad but they never try to love you back. I can tell, you just don't like the idea of others seeing us as lovers. Your compusure around me when surrounded by others makes that obvious. And what do I do to make you mine isn't the question you wanna hear right now. I can't promise you I would keep my distance. Neither will I let you go. Please love me back.

Don't Be Too Busy To Communicate

Anonymous: I wouldn't prefer dating someone who is always busy to communicate, to talk of marriage. If the communication is strong, I wouldn't be bothered at all. And if they are willing to share their whereabouts and what they are up to with me, then that's enough for me. All I need to see is that, they're making the effort. Cause I rely more on actions; not only words. But if they have no time for me on their busy days. Then it would mean there's a lot they're​ not telling me. And I wouldn't even know if they decide to go have fun at 6pm and return at 8pm, without any photo update on their whatsApp status, cause they wouldn't tell me either. Unless, a good friend tells me, they met them here or there. And if they forget to say hello or reply my messages even when they are online. And they've already started apologizing for their absence and promised a couple of times to make it up to me. I only see them on their schedule cause their timetable are always packed. I call them; they don't pick up as and when I have something on my mind to share. I send them urgent messages; they don't reply on time. Eventually, I result to reading their messages any least chance I get, cause if I feel they cannot tell me what they've been up to all day in details, either than "nothing much" and "nothing really" then how does that make me feel?. Imagine you've not heard from someone the whole day, then you call at the end of the day to ask about what they've been up to all day and they say, "nothing". Also, when I need someone to confide in, talk to, comfort me, share ideas with, understand me, encourage me, elevate me; they are either occupied or absent-minded. So would it be any different, when we get married?. My point is; it's only natural that everyone makes time for the things or people they love and care about. In other words, what and whom do you spend most of your busy and leisure time on?

The Missing Ingredient

Monica: I'm not really good at giving details but I will try as much as possible to share with you why I like him more. I met this guy at the gym, Leslie, he said is his name. I meet new people everyday, cause I'm always up and about. But, you can always tell when the feeling about someone is different. For a moment, I noticed someone staring at me from time-to-time during my workout sessions. Then after a while, I was also peeping at him from time-to-time as well. This went on for like a week. I mean, if you go to the gym, you would realize that most of the boys are so friendly that they would come talk to you even when there's no need to. But this very guy, always smiled at me without a word. That really got to me though. I wondered why he was so weird. Then one time, I decided to join up with him in his stomach workout. I managed to talk to him and he replied so politely and his english was on point. Surprisingly, I never got tired that day during the workout with him. From that day onwards, we started working out together. Then I realized, he was actually funny, little cheeky but very honest and he had an infectious smile. And he's into a lot of things I love. He's really smart and creative. He's the quiet type, but it's interesting being around him. I think he's that missing ingredient in my life.

That Got Me No Where

Lexington: All I ever did was to please you, but that got me no where. I groomed my actions to suit your specifications just to make you happy. Cause I always wanted you to want me as much as I wanted you. But with time, I realized I was losing myself into becoming someone you wanted me to, yet at the same time, appreciating you for whom you were. And that left you in a very comfortable spot. Leaving me in an unbalanced situation, playing two roles at the same time. I guess that gave you the opportunity to call the shots. To speak your mind freely without holding back or taking decisions to suit yourself. Cause you only had yourself to please and didn't need to wait for my consent. Even though, that made me feel less appreciated, I didn't notice until now. Wouldn't say I was blinded by love, but I was caught up in your love spell. From now onwards, I'm gonna be myself. I would like that you love me for me.

Tribute to Obama Look Alike

Nagie's Angels: If there was anything brighter than the morning sun, it was your future. Your utmost potential yet untapped made yearn for more of you. You were self-made but the journey was at length. Your full-strength determination made you an epitome of excellence since that day you met Obama. You were so zested to attain greater heights. And you soared as high as an eagle. Your leadership was staggeringly a memorable one. It was as if the heritage of Obama was passed unto you. Such charisma, passion, bravery, exuberance encompassed you like an armor. Yet your brotherhood was your bouncy castle. Everyone that knew you, saw potential. A rear potential that couldn't be shut down. A vibrant young man right from junior high school through to the university. Yet death, stole you away from us. As irreplaceable as you are, we will always hold you high esteem for the little but great impact you had on everyone around you. May your soul rest in perfect peace.

Girl Your Love is Wicked

Edwin: I wonder what your definition of love was, when you said you loved me. It wasn't once you said that, but on different occasions. Yet you've chosen another over me without my knowledge. Thinking that we were at the verge of getting back together, not knowing the brief distance you gave me was a caution that you have given in to another. May I ask what's so different about him?. What special qualities does he possess?. What made you easily choose him over me?. I wonder if there's an actual answer to all these questions in my head right now. And whether your answers would be convincing enough. I didn't do anything wrong to deserve this. But don't worry, I will surely find another. Please don't come back, cause you've made it quite clear over and over you don't want me anymore. So don't try to hold me back when I try my best to move on. I've been around you for so long, trying to get you to myself but anytime I feel we are, you surprise me once again. I can't do this no more.

I Looked Stupid

Linwood: I've felt stupid once. I remember that day so well as if it was just yesterday. It was on one fateful night, when I decided to share my feelings with the one girl I want to date in college. It took me almost three hours to sum it all up in three paragraphs that night. Hoping to at least, see a reply when I wake up that very morning. I woke up and there was no reply from her. I checked her status and noticed she hadn't yet been online. I archived her on my whatsapp chat list, just to try forget about it until she replied. I really tried my best to keep it together that day. Before I realized, it was 4pm in the evening and still no reply. I was about calling, when I decided to check up if she had read my message, of which whatsapp confirmed she had. I sent another message and later decided to delete it. She noticed that I deleted a message through whatsapp notification, and pleaded that I should rewrite it, cause she really wanted to read it. But I didn't have the message, so I decided to write it all over again. She was online waiting for the message the whole time. She read it after I had sent it to her and yet no reply, not even an emoji. I send her a message that I was waiting for a reply. She didn't reply that either. Then later in the night, she sent a message, I quote,"hope you are fine?". I mean, like seriously?, who does that?.

The Path We Chose VII

Hakim:

The Path We Chose VI

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The Path We Chose V

Hakim: Funny as this may sound, but anytime I tried leaving Fred's (Jackie's friend) room. They would bring up this topic, of me not having patience. They even proceeded to ask if I were single and concluded that my impatience was the main cause. I decided to wait anyway and accompany Jackie to her room afterwards and leave right away. Before I knew it, I was also holding the game controller playing the Fifa 18 as well. There was also loud music and pop corn so we all lost track of time until I had a phone call. I took out my phone and saw 7missed calls and the time was 6:47pm. I verified if that was the correct time from Fred. As he was verifying, I was already headed for the door. As soon as he confirmed, I stepped out. Jackie realized that I wouldn't be coming back so she followed. She tried convincing me to at least walk her to her room. She collected my phone and started viewing images in my gallery. She peeped at me anytime she saw an image of me and a lady. She then came across a writing entitled, 'a path we chose', with her name in it. She opened her door, hurriedly sat down and started reading. To be continued.

The Path We Chose IV

Hakim: I managed to get to the room before 12am. I had no clue how I ended up in bed when I woke up and it was almost 10am. I switched on my data and the messages kept on coming. I scanned through and saw Jackie's name. She said, "I'm not feeling too well this morning, and you know I'm in 1 in a room, and I also don't have any friends in this hostel. Kindly buy me yam 2cedis, with fish and sausage, and sobolo with ginger 2cedis, thank you. Please I'm very hungry, hurry up." I almost decided to go buy it for her but I got an idea to call up first. I called up and it was so noisy in the background. I noticed she was in a friend's room, judging from the intensity of the music and laughter at the background. In a most calm and feeble voice, she said, "So you decided not to come, haven't you seen my 2 missed calls. I've eaten now, a friend bought food for me and now I'm stuck in his room. Please come for me okay. Don't have an excuse to give in order to leave". I knew this was a flimsy excuse to see me, but I decided to give her the benefit of the doubt for the first time. I got there at 1pm. And there she was playing Fifa 18 on a flatscreen Tv and screaming on top of her voice. To be continued.

The Path We Chose III

Hakim: I met this new person just today through a friend. Jackie, she said her name was. It was funny how we were introduced. We just had no option but to chat. Cause the friends we came with left us to hang out. For a moment, it looked like a set-up. And for a while, all we did was look at each other's face and smile. Until it began to get weird. But Jackie is the smart type, she realized I wasn't much of a talker so she decided to do the talking whilst I listened and waited for my comment, as and when necessary. We covered every topic. Including dating, career goals, family, culture, sex, movies, series, music, fashion, gadgets, makeups, animation, future goals etc. I got her number afterwards, and in fact, we had nothing more to talk about. We just did revision on the topics we've already discussed that interested us. She was so particular about my type of girl. I guess I skipped the part I went to see her off at her place. And she didn't want me to leave. She went ahead to lock her door and placed the key in back pocket, daring me to come get it. I thought she was kidding until it was 2hours to 12am. I managed to pin her down in one corner and begun tickling her all over to get her to give up. And before I knew it, her tongue was up in my mouth. Just then, I knew it was time to leave.

The Path We Chose II

Glenda: Ridiculous, how this may sound but I was very certain we were headed towards this path all along. I was clueless, as to how we would, but deep within my guts, I knew. I could see it from the way you looked at me at times. That sweet, soft, unstable look with a pinch of shyness, sauced up with a partial smile. That smile really gets me everytime though, especially when I'm pissed with you. Anyways, that's only one aspect. Another one is, the way you sugar-coat your voice when I always call up unexpectedly. Believe me, when I say, I can feel your smile pierce right through me on the phone. It's just so infectious. Never stop doing that. And another one is, when you doing something and you call up and you don't wanna cut the line unless you through with it. Especially when you cooking stew on a Satutday morning or baking meat pie on a Sunday evening. And sometimes when we have nothing saying, we just be on the line and be laughing in turns. Smh!!!. We've surely come a long way.

The Path We Chose II

Glenda: Ridiculous, how this may sound but I was very certain we were headed towards this path all along. I was clueless, as to how we would, but I knew. I could see it from the way you looked at me at times.

The Path We Chose

Glenn: The path we chose to take was never a complicated one yet it turned out so. Prolly, we were headed towards this direction right from the on-set. But all we did, was to convince ourselves things would get better, while we stuck to the same old practices. Every good thing has an end, so nothing surely last forever. All I did was hope this very thing we shared would last. Nevertheless, I put in mind everything happens for a reason as well. Preparing myself for any possibility of us going our seperate ways. Cause you were no more stable. And I couldn't tell what you really wanted but it was very clear the focus had shifted from me. I'm happy we've come this far anyway, cause you've opened my eyes to many possibilities in this life of ours, of which I'm grateful for. A day with you, was always a better time spent. No doubt about that.

Everyone Has Got Potential III

Ruby: Someone just asked me if it's by-force to engage in something beneficial aside work. Even God, gave us the choice to choose between heaven or hell. So, you know, it always boils down to choice. But one thing I have noticed is, people with extra knowledge always make extra cash here and there. And that extra cash maybe more than their monthly salary. It could be some special dishes you can cook that people would require your expertise during special occasions. It could also be your extra knowledge on autocad, photoshop, video editing, counselling, coaching, choreography, stageplay, instruments, spokenword, music, savings, investments, gadgets, vehicles, comedy, script- writing, catering, pre-technical skills, hair-dressing, manicure. It's not too late if you have no knowledge about anything. Just download tutorials on anything of your interest from YouTube and start from there. One step at a time.

Everyone Has Got Potential II

Trump: I'm sure by now you've discovered this little aspect of you. That is, knowing what you are good at. It's basically anything you do without stress. There's got to be something you do with so much ease. It's necessary you have a hobby or you involve yourself in any beneficial activity aside your work. You could be good at playing instruments or singing. Improve upon that by learning more songs and doing more practice to enhance your abilities. Let someone take a nice video of you in the process and be uploading them on youtube. You'll never know what may come off it. If it's writing, you are into. Let someone help by creating a blog for you. Then be sharing your posts on different platforms as facebook, twitter, whatsapp groups etc. All I'm trying to say is, engage in something productive aside your work. And that may bring about your breakthrough.

Everyone Has Got Potential

Xerxes: One thing that I have noticed over the years is that you don't have to be a genius before you can create something. What is most important is your time dedication, in other words; commitment. You just don't give up at the start, cause you wouldn't get nothing done, if you keep quitting at the initial stage. But one basic thing is to find something you love, or switch what you doing into something you love to do. Which would make it interesting for you to continue at any leisure time you get. And also you should love to read. Not necessarily reading in general, but that is also good though. Most importantly, reading into what you wanna do is what builds your interest. Cause, then, you would realise it's scope and what it really entails. Just don't try to do anything big at the start cause that would certainly kill your interest. Start with anything small that you love to do. I just don't want to give examples cause it would favour some and not all those reading. But, in order, for you to get an idea of what I'm talking about, lemme narrow it down to my field of interest. Let's say you wanna create something as a computer science student but you hate coding. Knowing very well you don't have a choice cause every job you want to apply for entails a little knowledge in coding. All you have to do is, go online. Download interesting basic things you can develop through extremely simple coding. Maybe you are more interested in games. So download videos on creating simple basic games that wouldn't require much coding and start from there. As you go along, you would be getting better and better in android programming in general. And in 5years time, you would be among the top ten. Everyone has got potential.

A demon in my Room IV

A demon in my Room III

Edd: God forgive me for the sin I didn't intend on committing. "The soul is willing but the flesh is weak". The very line every sinner uses and I'm even tired of hearing it myself. But God, You know I haven't done anything yet physically, but in my mind, I have done worse, and it's still on-going. And that's the reason for this prayer. Just after the prayer, Mary called me. Asking me if I was in the room. I was very certain if she came to meet Casandra it wouldn't be a nice scene. Not that we were dating, but the way I'm into her, I just didn't want her having a certain perception about me. Cause I knew Casandra very well and how she's capable of making people believe something that isn't so. Anyways, before I could even reply Mary, she was already knocking on my door. Immediately, Casandra shouted, please who is it?. I did tell her to shut up and sit up cause I didn't want the one at the door to think otherwise and who knows who might be at the door. But she gave me the "You don't tell me what to do" look. So I told her to at least lemme know the next time before she comes. She laughed, So that you would fake not being around as you always do?, she replied. That was when I realized it was gon be a long day ahead. To be continued!

A demon in my Room II

Diana: At that juncture, I realized the advantage of memorising scripture. I started praying in my head; God if you save me once again I will start memorising scripture like crazy. Yet even if I'm short of verses from the Bible, there is one particular one I could never forget. I quote, "For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places", Ephesians 6:12. But the next verse was what I was looking for. There and then, I found my phone on the floor. I quickly opened to verse 13, "Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Abrupty, I heard a knock on my door. I asked who was it but no one replied, so I headed towards the door. Few seconds after, I saw the demon in my room flee. It looked as if a demon of a higher rank had been tasked to finish in a few minutes what the previous demon felt hesitant to. I went back to my bed, blasting in tongues based on the verse I just read. I heard another knock on the door, I shouted, "Give me 1 minute". After a moment, I stood up and I felt heavy. I knew I was ready, I asked again who it was just to be sure, yet no response. I opened up and there he was. I bypassed him to look further if anyone else was there, but there was no one else. I told him, I won't buy a watch today so he left. Yes, it was a watch seller. I went inside my room, and went back to watching my movie. I forgot a few minutes ago I was energised in the Spirit. That's what many of us do, after we win one battle, we relax thinking that is all. Forgetting that when a demon is defeated, it goes to call several demons stronger than itself to attack us again. Don't lose your focus.

A demon in my Room

Diana: I saw a demon in my room last night. It was just sitting down comfortably, as if it was waiting for an instruction to execute. It wasn't disturbed at all by it's surroundings, it looked as if it was embedded in it's thoughts. I have never seen a demon, to talk of it looking troubled. But there and then, I realized the duty given it was beyond it's capabilities. It knew very well no excuse it would try to give would save it from the punishment that awaited it if it did not deliver as assigned. All of a sudden, it stood up and decided to at least try something. I could see it was gathering all momentum, vim and vigor. That was when I realized I was at risk. All along, I was so caught up in the moment that it felt as if I was in a 3D cinema. To only come to the realization it was actually happening. I also began to search for my phone to open my Bible app. Don't judge me already, I do my quiet time often but the memory verses don't really stick in my head. So I couldn't remember most of the memory verses off head. And for some funny reason, I couldn't find my phone. Lol!!!. To be continued.

No Touching Bae II

Sam: Since we are sharing what we've put up with over the months, lemme also share mine. First of all, I don't like it when we agree on something and you don't come through. Hold on and lemme make my point. First, it started with our movie night on Friday which you gave the venue and time yourself but on that day something came up. And you didn't bother to leave a message. Also, you asked me to be your dancing partner in your rehearsal team of which I agreed, and you sounded happy about it. Only to realize, you were still asking others as well after I've agreed. And that just put me off but I just overlooked it. Another thing is your laughter and loudness when speaking with me. You claim its part of you and that you can't seem to change. And about me not touching you, I won't do that again, I would prefer you also don't.