Precarious

I'm not really into guys of my age anymore. I see them not to be serious cause they don't know what they actually want. None of them want to settle, they all want to have fun and I just don't want that. You'll never know what they thinking. Cause they may be claiming they love you, when all they want is to have fun with you. Now I want someone who is ready to settle. Ma eyes are wide open, lost interest in campus guys. Have had enough experiences with them. Besides, they have a career to build and wouldn't want to burden themselves planning their future with someone else, when they are still figuring out theirs. Therefore my resolution for this year has changed. Targeting guys who are working and relationship minded. Obviously, not just any gentleman cause I'm not just any lady. But for now, specifications are not required until I have quite a number to choose from. And by the end of the year, I would have gotten quite a number to pick one from. I need a gentleman not a fresh boy. Deceitful men are warned.

You'll never know

I never liked dressing formally. Can't really tell whether it wasn't just my thing or there was never the need to. I remember vividly I had this roommate of mine who had never seen me tack in before, to talk of putting on a tie. So one day he saw my application letter for an internship program at Societe Generale Bank. And he was like, am I okay?. And would I be able to adjust to the banking lifestyle cause of my way of living. Especially, my type of haircut and dress code. Fortunately, he met me during the summer vacation and was impressed with my sudden change of lifestyle. My point is, the fact that we haven't witnessed someone actually do or accomplished something does not guarantee that they cannot do it. They should be given the benefit of the doubt and a chance to prove themselves. If we are still not impressed, then fine. I'm only saying, let's give them a chance to prove themselves. Let's not be in a hurry to conclude.

Tweeting

Loving the woman I'm becoming day in day out. I see the smirk on my mama's face from time to time especially when she stare's at me every Sunday morning. My old friends meet me and the very first word they pronounce is "Wow!". The annoying part is the harassment from guys, it's rib-tickling when I'm in the mood and vastly deviling when I'm not. Those I completed High school with are always saying, I have really changed. Especially the way I dress and talk. They are trying to say I'm more sober these days. Shaking my head!. I did have crazy moments in high school so I get their point regardless of the fact that I think they are being sarcastic. I mean come on, people change but everyone is making it seem as if I have massively changed but I'm still the same irrespective of my change in physical appearance.

Sister's Love

Never met someone as inquisitive as my younger sister. Seriously, she's beyond compare. Idha is her name. I mean she always want to know what I'm up to. If I'm not asleep, she's also not planning of closing her eyes either. Sometimes I have this strange feeling she's stalking me or something. I mean it gets weird from time to time. But the good part is, she looks up to me. Yet to find someone who believes in me more than she does. She always has this feeling I can get the job done even if I have no idea. So, I try not to disappoint her. I hide my fear and do what is required of me. We do have our happy moments and those moments are like rays streaming perpetually from the sun; simply without compare. We have this chemistry which gets us through anything; elusive times. Grateful we are related. I will owe it to her someday for the man she's grooving me into.

Shelden's Story

I always wonder why ladies don't see me pass friendship?. I mean I do all that of required of me to prove that I'm interested but the lady just doesn't seem to notice me. It's not that I'm worried or disturbed, I just wanna know if it's something I'm doing wrong. It could also be that I associate with the wrong type of ladies or always try to fit into their world instead of introducing them into mine. I don't hesitate letting them get to know the real me. They seem okay with who I am or do I try too hard afterwards. I once asked an old friend of mine, so does she think I am a relationship material?. She answered oh of course but it was her who wasn't interested. I asked why not? but it turned into a laughing matter. Honestly, I have enjoyed staying single for quite sometime now and I think it's about time I found myself someone special. Still have my fingers crossed that I'll finally meet a lady and things would work out just fine.

Vexation

Sent a close friend of mine a customized good-morning message with her picture on it. I used crimson for the background cause that's her favorite color. And amperzand font style is what I used for the writings since she's into fancy stuffs. The only problem is, she isn't easily impressed so it took me roughly 45minutes to get it all done. Had to make sure the layout was a little sophisticated. Inserted a couple of emojis to create a little sense of humor. It looked a little quixotic and comical at the same time. After I was done, I paused for a moment, stared at it and admired my creativity. Then I remembered the quotation in the Bible that said after God had finished with creation, He looked at everything He had made, and was very pleased. (Gen.1:31). I went ahead to forward this splendid self-composed custom-made message to her, awaiting a response that would lighten up my day. I waited and waited and there was none so I put my mind off it. Later in the day, I received a message from her. I looked and it said "Ei you" and I replied. Then she climaxed it by saying, "I'm sure you've sent same to all the numerous girls on your phone. You think I'll praise you, please I'm not moved okay". There and then my immune system broke down and rebooted 3hours later. 

Lifestyle

I really love the kind of life I'm living now. I'm not so emotional anymore. Don't easily get hurt by people's remarks. Do what is always expected of me without crossing the line. Leave within my means, no pressure lifestyle. Always feeling free and freeing my mind when necessary. Doubtingly get offended over pointless matters. Avoiding pestiferous people, unfriending self-centered people, deleting negative minded people. Embracing positive thinkers, Walking with go-getters, hugging inspirational speakers. I mean, there is a lot about me that has changed of late. Nothing seems to bother me cause I don't fully-depend on anyone. Neither am I as bored as I use to be cause I always have something doing. I read any interesting thing I get my hands on these days. I'm so happy without reason and I'm grateful to God for the inner joy and comfort. Hoping you would be far better of than I am. 

Straighten up

Since you decided to tell the truth today, lemme also tell mine. Okay so if you haven't noticed, I don't really believe any word you say. Starting from the "I love you" to the "poetic messages" to the "romantic gestures". They are all massively too fake for my liking. I mean sometimes you try to make it seem less fake but it just doesn't work for me. If I don't even believe a word you say, let's not even talk about trust, let's not go there. I'm not saying stop trying though. You can keep trying, maybe one day I will wake up and start believing every word you say, who knows. But for now, please give me a break!. After reading this message I want you to go back and do your homework before giving it a try again else I would just not reply. I've been pretending for too long and now I'm tired. So I thought you should know what's really up. Don't take this the wrong way. I wouldn't tell you all these if I didn't like you. I think you are a really great guy and you deserve a second chance. But please don't make me regret this. You are a smart guy, you'll know what to do. 

Phoney

Okay so I wanted to tell you that I know about you and Quinn. Guess you wondering how I found out or who told me. That's your problem, not mine so don't come bug me with unnecessary questions so as to get to the bottom of the whole matter after reading this message. The only reason for this message is to officially inform you that I don't really care about your private life, neither am I into you anymore. I did before but not any longer if only you've realized that lately. So feel free and live your life. There's no need to hide anything from me after finding out all about what you've been up to with Quinn. I know all I need to know. And I'm not asking for your side of the story or an explanation or anything of that sort since you decided not to tell me anyway. But honestly, I get pissed when you try to play the "I'm innocent" crap on me. I mean I was surprised when I found out but it all makes sense to me now. And the truth is, you can decide to fool everyone else but secrets don't last these days. Alright, I'm done now so you can pretend I never sent this message. Stay Safe!.

Lesson Learnt

I waited so long to tell you this and I think this is the perfect time to get this off my chest. I hereby denounce you as my comforter, consultant, counselor, sympathizer,  protagonist, well-wisher, entertainer etc. I just realized I can live my life with your full-absence since I used to you not being around anyway. And when you do come around, you act as if everything is okay. You walk in and out as you please. I don't need to count on you for anything anymore cause you've actually not been there for me when I needed you. You always had a good excuse and I always accepted it. But no more, I have found someone who cares about me. Therefore I happily end our love life and greatly wish you all the best in all your endeavors. I don't want to know anything about your private life anymore. We are now just hello-hello friends. So henceforth, keep your distance and I would gladly keep mine as well. It's been good knowing you and I have learned a lot from you. You've been a lesson in my life, that I would never forget. See you around.
   

Myself

There's a lot you don't know about me and today I would like to tell you all you need to know. I'm a man of my word. Do my best to keep my word. Don't play around a lot so my words are taken seriously by many. Work hard to attain success in whatever I do. Cause I don't fancy cheap things. Make sure I earn what I deserve. Arguing for something I don't deserve isn't my thing. Walk with people who inspire me and make me wanna be a better person. Think things through before carrying out a decision. Therefore I always accept responsibility for my actions . Try and error isn't really my style hence I always make sure I get my facts straight. Do take risks when necessary. Confidence is what carries me along regardless how tough life turns out to be. I stick to the truth and that makes me mostly straight-forward. Hoping you would love me for who I am.

Proposal Trend

I cannot really figure out whether is the men giving themselves pressure or it's the women giving the men pressure. All I know is the pressure men are in, having to live up to expectations all the time. Recently, I heard a man had to take his woman to Paris just to propose in a boat whilst sailing cause it was the woman's dream of how she wanted her proposal to be. I'm wondering how he would plan their wedding. And I'm sure another woman would hear this and be like, "That is so romantic". I mean the trend of proposing is really becoming fancy these days. The sincerity of the proposal of late is boycotted while the creativity behind the proposal is held on high esteem. Men are thinking of ways of throwing their "future partners to-be" off their feet with an outstanding proposal platform whilst women on the other hand are learning words like, "Gosh, jeez, my goodness, good heavens, blimey, holy moly, jeepers creepers, bejesus, gracious me, oh boy, yikes". Waiting with anguish, to say one of these words on her proposal day. Keeping it simple and sincere is out of most people's mind lately. Some have to do their proposals on tv shows, high streets, airports, beaches, vacation-trips etc. If you try yours in a church, you may be told you being too serious so many men don't like doing that. But the thing is, how you propose doesn't guarantee the success of your marriage. You may propose at the independence square on 6th March, yet your marriage may last only for a month. It ain't all about the money. Let's make the right choice and help reduce the pressure as well. 

Originality

I just love being a lady. I thank God every morning that I turned up a lady. I find it mirthful to hear some ladies say "They wish they were men". Like Seriously!. Are they being serious?. It's a wonderful thing to be a lady. I really enjoy being one. I mean with all the compliments from guys. I'm never lonely. Effortlessly, there is always a guy throwing himself at me 24/7. It was fun at first before guys stopped taking no for an answer. I have met different types of guys. Funny, annoying, flirty, pompous, weird, arrogant, stingy, coward, level-headed, casanova, dumb, calm, splenetic etc. Even though I'm very picky, I'm not known to be ill-bred but rather genteel cause you'll never know whom you would need help from someday. I love feeling free so I'm much more accustomed to wearing plain sailing clothes. I just like to see all my curves and edges in any clothes I put on. Fitting clothes are my favorite. I don't do a lot of makeup though. Just a little touch-up and some lip-gloss will do. And I don't joke with my high heels. Most of my footwear have elevated bottoms cause of my model-like way of walking. And I love my hair, oh my gosh!. Braiding and twisting isn't something I do a lot. I don't really like to put my head under a lot of stress. I make sure my nails are always on point. It will shock you to know how guys love to stare at my nails left alone to feel them. Not to forget my soft palms. Some guys tremble when I circumstantially touch them. Their facial expression alone makes my day sometimes. And when it comes to cooking I just enjoy the look on people's faces while they breathe in the aroma of my dish. I can go on and on and on. But all I wanna say is, It just feels so good to be a lady, regardless how hectic it can be.

Purport

Trust me, I am really trying to keep this relationship pending. But you on the other hand are veritably doing everything within your means to dissolve it. I'm very cognizant with the fact that people change, but with you, it's either you are sick in the head or you just cannot think straight. I mean You know better. We've come a long way for you to be messing around lately. Picking up a phone to call and say hello or text message saying "I have missed you" wouldn't take a minute of your time. I mean, use your head a little sometimes. I fell for a smart guy, not someone as dumb as you are becoming. You have a sweet, fine girl like me, what else do you want?. I still have the seductive cleavage you always kept staring at, boobs & butt which are on point, smooth, soft skin you were always fond of massaging and hugging, soft palm that you made me use to do stuffs you liked. Pink silky and soft lips as you always admired. The romantic, sweet, gentle voice you always complimented me for during all our free night calls. My lady-like dressing and pictures you were always asking for. My good sense of humor and infectious smile. I'm giving you time to think things through. Cause I'm never backing out of this relationship. I'm giving you a month since you need sometime to yourself. After which we are fully bouncing back. Don't think of doing anything silly. I have heard of your movements with Sally, deal with it. I told you there was no breaking up in this relationship and you still went on to propose. Remember all the struggle you went through before I finally said yes. And start acting like we deserve each other. You know I love you. Please take care and be a bae cause I will be watching. Holla back yeah.    

Strategic II

The silence of God does not mean you have changed his mind nor does it mean you are in His permissive will. Everything maybe going on well yet it does not signify it being okay. Ignoring God's voice or signs won't end you well. Unless you confess your sins and show a sign of repentance. The truth is, you cannot ignore God forever. The fact that you keep ignoring Him and life seems very okay does not mean you are right. The reality is Him respecting your right to choose even when you choose another direction other than His. As the Bible says, There is a way that seems right unto a man but the end thereof is death. Not the beginning but the end thereof. NB: Everyone else can sail in the other direction and have no turbulence at all but when you try to do what everybody else is doing because you belong to God. What others get away with, you'll not be able to get away with. Even though, He respects your human will, He will ultimately prevail over your human will because He is God. The funny part of Jonah's story is God never stopped him from planning to run away and he eventually running away but at the end He showed him who is God and who is human after all. Hence, God will never interrupt your directions that are contrary to His but at the end, His will, will definitely prevail. 

Strategic

I was very much intrigued when I read the Book of Jonah. That God would choose someone so obtuse as Jonah. Who was a prophet yet lacked the knowledge of the omnipresence of God. I always marvel at the kind of mindset he had that led him to think of running away from the sight of God. Was he okay at all or he knew nevertheless did that on purpose?. Cause I remember vividly that when he was caught in the boat by the sailors he made mention that, I quote  I am a Hebrew, I worship the Lord, the God of heaven, who made the land and the sea. Yet he went on to tell them that he was running away from his God. He is so annoying. Meaning he knew very well what he was doing was meaningless all the same he did it anyway. He really wanted to do something that would change God's mind of sending him, forgetting God knows our thoughts and heart. Cause he knew very well the storm was because of him. When I read further I realized he even wanted to die other than to follow the instructions of God. That he went on to tell them to throw him into the water and that the storm would cease. I guess God would be in heaven and be laughing whilst watching Jonah all along and He would say, Whatever you do it's you I'm sending. Don't be like Jonah and act all smart on God.

Truecaller

Nsiah: I was fond of calling everyone, hey or herrh!, even if I knew them by name. That was the first thing that easily came out of my mouth. Hence, I didn't go through any stress of trying to recollect names of people. To me, no one had a problem with it, because I didn't. But then I had this puppy called Bristle. I hardly called it by it's name and I realized one day that it responded quickly as I called out it's name. Cause it was mostly slow to my call. I had to call it like two or three times until it came around. But this time around it came hurriedly. I didn't figure out the reason why until it happened on three to four occasions before I noticed it. So I was like, even if my puppy doesn't prefer me not calling it by it's name, then how much more a human being. It took me a while to actually stop that habit, but after a while, I recognized the sudden change of facial expressions of people towards me. You can also stop only if you decide to.

Top Secret

I doubt you would still love me the same if I told you every secret about me. Give me time  to think about this carefully. I have told you all you need to know about me for now. Please don't use this against me. You know very well of my love for you and how I trust you but you should know that everyone has got a secret he/she still holds on to. Even married people still do have secrets. My point is, Don't use this as a standing point to belittle my love or trust for you. I will tell you when the time is right according to my watch. I hope you would understand this and be on the same page with me concerning this matter. It's actually a family matter so it isn't something totally about me. Hence, don't take this as I'm keeping something about me away from you. I know you've been sincere with me from day 1, so have I. Let's not allow this to get in-between us, after all it was I who brought it up. I could have decided to keep it all to myself. But I decided to tell you so you would know that I meant to tell you. It isn't anything hideous as I'm making it seem. It's just a secret.

Preliminary

Approaching a girl is something every guy must master because that's the most important aspect of dating. This can be a very nervous moment for most guys and it's understandable because you are not sure how she will react when you go over. But really, this shouldn't be such an arduous task, it just needs you practicing a few pointers which we are going to make available to you here. Sit back and take note. Steal glances at her; Whenever you're standing or sitting make sure you steal glances at her occasionally. Look away as soon as she notices you. The whole idea is you trying to catch her attention but you also wanting a feedback before you move in. And this gesture will arouse her curiosity. She will be forced to steal glances at you if you're still looking at her. So now you have her attention, She's occasionally stealing glances at you. It's time to let her know she's indeed captured your attention. So if you are with friends, appear out of focus with whatever you're doing. Now flash her a mild smile and await her response. If she returns a smile, she looks interested so can now approach. This is your moment, keep eye contact and don't mess it up. Get your words right.

Proposal Rejections II

5. I'm waiting on the Lord: This is mostly used with the church girls. They'll tell you they have to pray about it and wait on the Lord for a sign that confirms that you're the one. 6.I'm married: This is also to get you off her back. They believe it will invoke some fear into you and you'll leave them the hell alone. 7.You're too old for me: This is normally said to older men. 8.You're too young: She could be one of those that date older men. 9.I'm not attracted to you like that: This is similar to #3. They say this to kill you desire forever. Nothing you do or say will change this. 10. It's not you, it's me: This is when she gives you a long list of reasons why she can't enter into a relationship. Truth is, she might not be feeling you like that but just doesn't want to say it to hurt you. 11. Can we be just friends: This is a killer. It's another friend-zoned line. 12.I want to finish school first: This is another way of saying she isn't feeling you like that. Wondering how many of these categories you've been a victim of?. Lol!

Proposal Rejections

Every guy has been rejected before. Some get over it and see it as part of the game. Others get so knocked out they decide to stay off the love radar. Before are rejection lines often used by women:
1. I'm in a relationship: This is normally true but at times, ladies say this to get you off their back. So many guys aren't moved.  2.You are not my type: This is a harsh one used on very persistent and unstoppable guys. The type of guys that do not know the word NO and will not accept you are in a relationship. 3.You are like a brother to me: This is when you realize you have been friend-zoned. Girls use this when they don't want to hurt you with their rejection. They like you but not sexual or romantic. This is also used in guys whom girls use because of their money. 4.I'm not ready to date yet: Another classic camouflage rejection line. She either doesn't want to tell you she isn't into you or she wants to continue to enjoy your goodies but not willing to enter a relationship with you.

Errors Women Make

These are mistake almost every lady commit in relationships which usually hurts it.
1. Being overly dependent: Most women(not all) are so dependent on men and hardly depend on themselves. They want the men to provide everything. Women who are independent mostly get the attention of men. 2. Controlling: Women mostly want to control their men by dictating to them where they should be and where they shouldn't be. Causing a lot of confusion in the relationship. What happened to trust?, men's usual reply. 3. Ignore friends & relatives: Some women are so clingy to one man, they ignore all their friends they had before they got into a new relationship. So when things go south, they have no one to turn to. 4. Clingy: Men tend to run away from clingy women who make it seem their lives can't go on without them. Find a purpose and build something solid with your man. And take care of your emotions when they're not around. 5. Social Media Obsession: There is a strong obsession for social media and what makes it worse is that, women tend to post almost everything about their private lives on social media. This is a cause of lot of relationships to fail. If you don't fall within any of these categories. Hit me up and let's hook up sometime.