Patience

There is a lot of risk waiting on someone
who isn't ready until they're​ ready, not an indecisive person but someone who knows what he/she wants but due to important circumstances isn't yet ready. Anything can happen along the way though. I wouldn't advice you to play smart but withhold yourself in such a way that you would not get hurt if the outcome of you waiting doesn't end up your way. There's no harm in waiting anyways. Besides, what's the rush?!. At least it prevents regret. Depends on the waiting time as well, should be a reasonable one. wink!

Complicated

Would call it funny but it sure isn't.
Wonder why we don't get whom we truly want sometimes
eventhough we try our best to make them ours. Doesn't
matter the amount of effort we put into and the sacrifices
we make cause we know left to that alone we've done more than
necessary. Over doing it too makes we appear too desperate and we
don't want to lose our dignity alongside if they wouldn't accept us
for whom we are. It's not entirely a bad experience though since we learn
our lesson of how to treat others who have similar feelings towards us. At least
that is what we say to encourage ourselves. It ain't that simple. No pain, No gain. lol

A Letter To Mahama

Ma guy, we admire your good courage and
confidence and that you haven't offered to
step down yet but we have good news. Coming
2016 we want to do you a favor, simply walk away
and none of your families and friends will be kidnapped.
It is virtually because of your face shyness that is why
we haven't planned a coup against you. 2016, advice yourself.
You can choose to settle us now and we will wait patiently for
the elections next year of which you would willingly step down or
we would choose to start torturing you and your family before you step
down next year. It's your choice but don't try anything silly. You should
know we have surveillance cameras all around you and your family atm. You are
wearing white linen and sipping your tea whilst you switch from one channel to another.
We know you don't watch our local television stations and don't listen to our local fm
stations that is why you still have the guts to still be governing the nation. Your wife
as at now is happily being escorted to the new resort you bought her just this morning.
Luckily for us, your sons and daughters are having a get together at Dubai, Bosnia Hotel,
room 478 as we speak and this is a good time to strike or you can transfer the 1million gh
cedis you transfered to your Italian account with the name Fared a night ago for your trip to
Berlin to watch the champions league and many more into our account, call this number when you ready to talk. 050-136-0270. Nice doing business with you, we will keep coming for more.
Thank you.

Fellow Ghanaians

Our Brothers and Sisters in Ghana take heart,
we have heard your cry and plead and we have good
news. We have had several meetings with America's
President, Barak Obama concerning your situation at hand
and we have come up with a suitable solution which would
put a smile on your faces and ours as well. Our plan is to
build another state for you here, a 53rd State and we shall
call it Gold Coast City. Before we can do that we need you to send
us 90% of your monies and natural resources yearly until we complete
this project. It's only a 50years project.
                 Thank you.

Indecisive

The category of people we should be very afraid of.
Isn't because they are deadly or wicked but they can
change their mind any minute due to certain circumstances which
is always personal. They are easily convinced but not thoroughly convinced.
They can say Yes to your proposal and No to you before the marriage
ceremony. They are always afraid of the choice to make even if they
are to choose between two things. Get to really know them before you
start taking them seriously. It's for your own good.

Sometimes

On certain occasions, We have no choice but to say "Yes".
Not that we are afraid or intimidated to say "No" but we
just can't say so knowing how anxious the person is and
how disappointed they would be if we don't. After all the question
isn't anything serious. It could be that they asking whether we love them,
they being special to us, wouldn't we do anything to hurt them and many more.
And it's not that we lying if we admit, its just that we would have wanted to disapprove in order not to make them get unnecessary ideas.

Difficult To Tell

Some people are the quiet type, they usually
have nothing saying or to ask. They just love to listen.
They normally like to smile or laugh at any little joke.
It's difficult to tell what they are truly thinking about since
asking them why they are smiling out of the blue will just result
in them answering, "nothing". They only find the need to explain
when caught on the spot or else they see it unnecessary to do so.
Even with catching them on the spot you would have to be smart
else they would find their way out without saying anything substantial
you can hold against them. But if they feel safe with you, they try to
open up once in a while. It's difficult to tell without them choosing to
tell you. Get used to it.

Into Writing

Lemme tell your how I developed my talent in
creative writing. I was a shy kid, and a quiet type as such.
Couldn't man up for things I wanted and I usually pretended I
wasn't into ladies of which it was obvious to tell I did, by my actions.
I started writing about stuffs and ladies I knew I would never get just to
keep myself happy. Developed the habit of observing people in my class and writing
about how they feel inwardly even though their outward expressions proved otherwise. Wrote theories on a topic entitled, "Why people do what they do". Got me to understand human expressions and many more. I ended up writing letters for people's girlfriends in senior secondary school, depending on how they narrated their story, I was able to deduce the exact information they wanted to carry out. Your talent may be closer to you than you think, don't look far.

Their Company

When I love to be around a particular person it
depends on a lot of things but they being interesting
or humorous doesn't come in. Their smiles, gestures,
touches, mood are just enough even if we both silent.
Their words mean a lot to me but if they choose not to
talk at all I'm definitely okay. I can be with them the whole day
without saying a word but just staring and smiling is enough to
keep me from getting hungry. I don't know if you really get me.
Then it may be that you are the emotionless type or you've shut down
your emotion system or you may say you don't easily get carried away.
Nice try, keep deceiving yourself until you one day get carried away. I mean
chatting with them takes my mind off my surroundings cause I watch out for every
body expressions they make and that can affect my mood as well. I try not to think
about them when I'm alone cause it would make me wanna see them the more. Such people
come once in a while, do well to hold on to them. Trust me, Its worth-it

Suspect

Maya: Mom, I know Kwesi is cheating on me with another. Just waiting until it backfires then he would come crawling back to me again. I guess he underestimates how well I know him sometimes. I can always tell when he has divided attention. During those moments, he doesn't really call or text me that much. He is okay if he doesn't hear from me in a day, it's like he is fine with that. You haven't spoken to someone you are dating in 24 hours and you see nothing wrong with it. And his plans are mostly impromptu and other times he doesn't even mention it to me if he meets up with someone. I can tell when something is up with him yet he would say he is fine. Then when I decide to stretch the matter, he later decides to say what he was going through. But why hide it from me in the first place?. I don't really get it. Sometimes, he just decides to ignore me. He sees my message and doesn't reply. He sees my missed call and doesn't call back. Then 2 minutes later, he would update his whatsapp status. I mean, who does that?. Lol!. He still treats me like his ordinary friend, which hurts me. I see no changes as we graduated from friendship to lovers. No special treatment or exemptions, I don't feel special in anyway. I previously thought it was because we were friends, but now we're lovers and yet I don't feel special in anyway. The very kind of love I wished I never had. But now, I'm in love with him. Mom, he doesn't even know how to exchange common love messages. He reads and never replies. I just don't get him sometimes. How can one be such unromantic?. He's just weird. My type of weird.

Being Bounced

Most of us are afraid to go ahead with our proposals
because we are mostly afraid of being said "NO" to.
Some of us are used to it by now but others refuse to
officially propose because they aint truly certain of the
outcome and are afraid a "NO" may jeopardize their friendship.
Afterwards we find out later there was no harm in trying
after all but it's always at last. Wouldn't blame the guys
too much cause the ladies do make it difficult for them to tell
whether they are into them or not. The moment they think
they are getting somewhere they get shut down discovering something
that totally dumps their spirit which is mostly a chat the lady had with
someone else. I don't also blame the ladies because the guys makes it
also difficult for them to know what they really feel and if they can trust
them wholly since most of their actions are quite contradictory.

Regret

No courage to do something always results into regret. Lemme tell you someone's life story. A guy really liked a lady through out his 4years stay in university but wasn't bold enough to confront her, so he always kept beating around the bush because he had a bad feeling he would be bounced. He did try to propose many times but anytime he tried to, something would bump into it to destroy the chance he had. Luckily, he meets her after university at a cafeteria during their national service, of which they made it their usual meeting hour to talk during their lunch period. He mastered courage to confess his feelings to her one time. But the moment he said "Will You?", he decided to lift up his head to look her in the face. The intensive look on the girl's face alone, not to talk of her reactions made him lose courage and ended up asking. "Will you do me a favor?". Years afterwards, they meet at a business conference, both of them happily married with children. While they were chatting, he asked her, do you remember the day at the cafeteria?. I almost proposed to you and she responded, I was hoping you would, I kept on praying within me you would propose that day, cause you were a responsible guy and a very good marriage material. After she answered, he replied, "if only I knew what you were thinking, because your facial expression told a different story". And they laughed it off. So why don't you give it a try now.

A Nagging Girl

My roommates's friend called Roland, normally comes into our room
pissed off or upset from a chat he had with his girlfriend. She's a nagging
girlfriend, no doubt, but what is really funny is she complains about the little
things and this puts him off to the extent that he has to come talk about it in our
room, which can last for hours, sometimes as early as 7am. He's now fed up and concluding
that he doubts whether he wants her as a wife.
I know you would say im taking his side cause he's a boy so lemme elaborate further.
She complains about him not calling her as he used to which is a good argument but when
he realizes his mistakes and starts calling regularly she asks why he's pretending he cares.
When she calls and it rings for a longer time than usual before he picks up, is a problem.
If he picks up and says i'm busy at the moment is another problem. If she tells him she's off
to the hospital and after a while he doesn't call to ask of the run down is a problem.
If she calls and it happens to be line busy, then is a greater problem. He's now made up his mind to leave his life and that he is still young, and deserves to have his piece of mind.
Is that a good choice?, you tell me.

A Wrong Turn

Some mistakes we make ain't fixable, we just have to
live with it as it is. Realized why some people commit
suicide regardless how many loved ones they have. Sometimes,
we need someone we can pour out our heartfelt desires to but we wonder
if they would feel our pain. They may end up saying if someone could
do it, we should be able to do it as well, but that doesn't help, even though
it does to a point. I had a feeling I was lost the very moment I found myself
in a science class in senior high school, I liked reading but all the good students
in my junior high school were encouraged to offer science based on their good performance in both science and math as well. I always encouraged myself I could make it but I did really struggle anyway. So I know how it feels like taking the wrong turn, trust me I do and keeping it ourselves doesn't help us.

Think About

Having someone on your mind once in a while isn't a bad thing
you know. Doesn't mean in anyway you obsessed with the person or
you have fallen for the person. You just have them on your mind to keep
you smiling or happy because you admire their personality. Thinking about
someone doesn't make you weak, it makes you care and it is between you and
yourself if you don't want them knowing you do. Cause some people say if
they realize you cared, they will walk over all over you or use it to their advantage.
But my question is, whom do you normally think about and why?

Wish You Were Here

Has anyone ever told you this before?
What occasion was it?, Where you the only one the person told?
Did it feel sincere?, or was it just something the person said
in order to make you think you missing a lot or to feel special?.
Once a friend visited me and whilst escorting her she looked at me
and said "I enjoyed your company", I was very touched.
After a while, I found myself sitting by her during church service
after which she said same, but it didn't feel as it was the first time.
Realized that the frequent use of most phrases or words makes it lose it's
taste but not with this very phrase, "Wish you were here". During such a moment,
even if you thought of committing suicide you would hold that thought back.

Appearance

We easily intimidated by the visual aspect of people.
It becomes difficult for us to lay before them what we wanna
tell them. We fumble if we manage to find a way to talk to them.
We later keep gnashing our teeth after our awful experience with
them, thinking we could have done better. We later get another
chance of speaking to them and we start fumbling again, it's as if
our body is giving us up and all the words we rehearsed to say are
escaping from our minds. It's a normal feeling.

September Rush

I know this obviously sounds silly but it's a real deal.
This is a season whereby freshers, that is newly admitted
students into the university are being spotted-out by the
continuing students and many grab one for themselves.
It is the most celebrated and acknowledged season of all
semesters. During this period, freshers are enlightened and
welcomed into the real world. Some make mistakes they regret
for the rest of their life, but others read in-between the lines
and for others they come with a totally different mindset.

It's a very interesting time of the semester.

Technique 2

Some simple ways are as follows: (Doesn't always work)
Done towards someone you've said hello to a couple of times or someone you in talking terms with not someone you just met, greatly depends on your approach and confidence.
1.You can trick them into asking for your number to find out some sort of information if you two are chatting on-line. Thus if you excuse yourself at the moment you are to deliver the information and that you may not return soon since your on-line time is done and they may need the info urgently.
2. Invite them to an interesting program and act as if you already have their number by telling them you will send them the details later and start walking away.
3. If you attend the same lecture or extracurricular activity or same church, anything at all you two participate in, you can use that to ask for their number in case of any update or needs help in practicing.
4. You can also trick them into calling you by wanting to hear your new caller tune or people have been saying you have weird ring tones so you wanna verify. Since they have your number and you also have their number now. Don't be in a hurry to say hello after a day or two, hold on.
5. You can directly ask for their numbers after you've been friends for quite a while and been chatting often. It could be through a social media if you haven't met the person yet or face-to-face if you know the person.
6. Lastly, If you get their number through a friend, or through your own devious means just have a good reason for calling or texting and explain why you needed the number so they wouldn't ask a lot of questions. Eg. Hello, this is Ehud your church member, got your number through our choir group, just want to wish you a merry Christmas and to ask how you doing? and the timing should be right.

Phone Number

Getting someone's number could be very difficult depending on your confidence level.
The kind of approach you use also counts a lot though. Lemme help you out with a little
approaches you could adopt:
Don't get someone to get you their number, if you really serious about them. Also don't trick the person by saying your phone is off and you need theirs to make an urgent call. They wouldn't take you serious if you say hi afterwards. So if you are truly interested in them, doing it face-to-face is the best way and not through emails or facebook if you know them in person.

False Friends

I've been lucky enough to figure these things out early enough in my life such that my life is filled with good friends upon whom I can rely on. With these tools, you learn to distinguish between friends and acquaintances. Fine to have both as long as you know who can differentiate.
False friends:
* Only call when they need something.
* Only call when they wanna talk badly about someone else.
* Love drama. (and wanna be part of it)
* Always make you feel low about yourself.
* Never have time for you.
* Listen only as far as something pertains to them.
* Dump you the moment they pick up a romantic interest and return only when it is over.

Pretending to Like You

1. Jealousy
Your accomplishments makes them insecure.
2. When discouraged
 They always make fun of your failures.
3. Conveniently friends?
They stick around if they need you to get things done and ignore you afterwards.

4. Ask for help

Just text them you need help but don't describe the kind of help and observe them.
5. Notice how often they break their promises
It could be that they only like your company but soon enough they may replace you.
6. Do they make you feel bad in front of others?
Making fun of you with sensitive topics that will hurt you shows how they careless.

Make them Love You 3

Being Lovable
1. Work on being the best you. (No pretending)
2. Take good care of your body.
3. Give your life a purpose and direction.
4. Be nice to others as well.
5. Show them the best side of you. (Again no pretending)
6. Afterwards let them see your good and bad side whether they can cope.

Preparing for emotional hurdles
1. Be emotionally available. (Don't be confused from the start)
2. Be sure that you are the one. (Be serious with your feelings)
3. Have a pure motive. (eg. Not because you want to make someone jealous)
4. Have a long-term goal for your relationship. (Not the let's try and see one)
5. Believe that there are other people. (Move on if you ain't the one)

Make Them Love You 2

Earning their Heart
1. Show them love during difficult times.
2. Make yourself significant in their life.
3. Show them how much you care through sincere actions.
4  Ask them out on a date. (Be straight-forward.)
5. Be a great date. (First days out are very important.)
6. Go the extra mile.

Loving Right
1. Respect them. (Never judge them nor make them feel bad.)
2. Be a good friend. ( Make them our best friends)
3. Remember that you are two separate people. (Don't try to change them)
4. Let them be whom they are, how they are.
5. Let them make choices about their time and private space.

Keeping them in Love
1. Don't ever take them for granted.
2. Don't stop putting in effort.
3. Make a commitment.
4. Always do something new and exciting together.

Make Them Love You

Sometimes we meet some people and we know know: it's love.
However, it isn't always easy to see the wonderful qualities of some
people right away. They may need a little push to realize that maybe they love you
too. Remember theit there is no way to make someone fall in love with you that wouldn't
want love that was forced anyway. But, with time and effort, you may be able to be for
them all the amazing things that they are for you. Here are tips for getting that special
someone to have eyes only for you but the rest depends on you:
Developing a bond:
1. Find someone that is right for you.
2. Get to know them.
3. Involve yourself in things they love.
4. Make them feel special.
5. Create trust.

Make Them Not Love You

If someone is madly in love in you and you don't feel the same way about the person or your ex wanna get back with you and you don't love them anymore. It could also be that you don't want to be rude by hurting someones feelings by telling them you don't love them. Then these are the steps to make someone not love you;
 1. If he/she calls start complaining about anything.
2. Ignore them on phone. (eg. Oh sorry one min, I want to watch this TV show)
3. Have a childish attitude. (eg. Compliment everyone but ignore them)
4. Be irrational. (make no sense when you speak especially when they are serious)
5. Say things like he/she deserves it. (eg. when they get beaten by the rain)
6. Hardly answer calls. (Say that you busy and can't really talk)
7. If they message you a paragraph reply in two words..
8. Don't sympathize at all.
9. Make yourself unavailable.(esp. If they want you to come out)
10. Be embarrassing to be with. (eg. Telling them what to do)
11. Be a push over. (Force them to do things)

Don't Take For Granted

Never take someone's feelings for granted. If you realize they are
beginning to show interest in you and you don't feel same just make it
known to them. Could be either through words or gestures. How to realize
they into you before is too late are as follows;
You will notice that he or she looks at you differently and smiles a lot
when you're around. Be considerate of their feelings cause once someone is into
you your actions mean a lot to them. Be gentle
And when someone doesn't talk with you it doesn't mean they don't like you,
sometimes they are shy. Let's be careful not to mistaken friendliness for flirting,
you could end up getting disappointed or hurt.
If in anyway you get suspicious that they like you, then you definitely do not want
to ask them, "Do you like me?". This could make the person more shy and probably never want to try to ask you out or answer you. Never give them more space than needed. You may lose the person since the person may try to sacrifice the love between you, if you have expressed lack of interest.
I'm talking about someone who truly loves you so someone whose in for something.

How to know 2

Another way of realizing that someone is truly into you is
what they often do around us. In the previous episode we talked
about things they mostly say. In this episode we emphasing on what
they do. As they say "actions speak louder than words"
Let's get started already;
1. Observe if the person listens to anything you say
(Or do they change the subject?)
2. Observe if the person is always there for you as they say they would
(Are they only around during the happy moments?)
3. Observe if the person does nice things for you
(Or do you always have to ask first?)
4. Observe if the person always wants to be around you
(Or they give excuses they want to miss your face?)
5. Observe if the person knows when to give you space
(Is it infatuation or love?)
6. Observe if the person truly understands you
(Are your gestures understood properly?)
7. Observe if the person wants the best for you
(Are you mostly laughed at instead of being comforted?)
8. Observe if the person supports you
(Do they believe in you?)
9. Observe if they can truly themselves around you
(Are they comfortable not looking perfect?)
10. Observe if the person is happy to be around you
(Or you are needed only for a moment?)
11. Observe if the person gives you goodly eyes
(Do they look at you in the goofy, watery, silly, adorable way?)
12. Observe if the person is giddy around you
(Do they laugh for no reason?)
13. Observe if the person is upset when you're upset
(Are they affected by your emotions as well?)

How To Know

We are easily deceived by people's actions into believing they into us.
There's no guaranteed way to know if a person truly loves you, but there are a few ways to read the signs to figure out what is on the mind of your loved one. If you'd like to know if the person you love truly loves you back, then you have to pay attention to how the person acts, what they say, and what they do when you're together. Though love may mean something different to every person, there are many ways to tell if a person truly loves you instead of just having a crush on you, liking you a lot, wanting your money, or just being momentarily infatuated with you. If you want to know if that person truly loves you, just follow these steps
1. See if the person talks about your future together.
(What are their reactions when you talk of your future together)
2. See if the person gives you meaningful compliments.
(It's the quality, not the quantity)
3. See the way the person says I Love You
(There's a big difference between love ya and I Love You)
4. See if the person opens up to you.
(If he mostly says  "I've never told anyone this before..." )
5. See if your love one tells you how much they miss you if you are apart.
(How often do they text, email or text you?, or Do they give excuses?)
6. See if the person is comfortable at pointing out your mistakes.
(Healthy amount of criticisms, not too much)
7. See if the person truly values your opinion.
(Mostly on stuffs that matters to them)
    To be continued

Whom To Trust

Some people are good at listening but not at advising.
Others are good at advising but listening is a problem since
they think they've heard similar stories as ours. Others don't
listen at all, they just like to know if they have in anyway contributed to our trouble.
Others listen and even ask questions but end up using us as case study. It's not compulsory
to trust someone but it prevents us from making certain mistakes that we can't see ourselves.