Talent

A natural ability or quality. A person who possesses unusual
inmate ability in some field or activity. How can one say he/she
have no natural endownment. Is it because we find it difficult
doing certain stuffs people do with such ease. We may give excuses of us
possessing no talent but deep within us we are very aware of things we do with
much ease. It isn't something far-fetched or something we force ourselves to do.
It could be dancing, singing, drawing, advicing, lecturing, inspiring, convincing,
manipulating, flirting, bargaining, smiling, selling, acting, pretending,
athletics, welcoming, deceiving, designing, decorating, organizing, educating,
punishing, creative writing, analysing, good at guessing, calculations, an eye for
quality stuffs, decisive, critical, grasping and many others.
If you can't still locate your talent in the list then I guess you need a therapist.
Nothing personal.

Experiences

The accumulation of knowledge or skill that result from
direct participation in events or activities. The very thing that makes us whom we are now. We all go through stuffs that strengthens  us eventually, no matter how it breaks us down. It could be heart-break, poverty, sickness, difficulties, hunger, trauma, pain, distress, death of loved ones, maltreatment and a lot more.
At that junction, we feel no one can feel what we truly feel inside so we just wanna
be alone hoping to get ourselves through it. Being alone during times as such does us
no good, it only builds up disgust for humanity. It makes us hardhearted towards peculiar
category of people, our reasons may be understandable but whom do we become as a result of that.
Holding up grudges or grievance maybe worth it to us but how many people do we hurt along the way?.
And if they are also to hold a grudge against us, how many enemies would we have made?.
When I watch series or movies about revenging or avenging, the problems those people go through themselves and the innocent people they manipulate, hurt, wangle, falsify before achieving their goals are uncountable and deplorable. My point is, certain things happen to us for a reason. It could be that God is testing us in one way or the other, it could also be the works of the devil or perhaps the bad choices we made so we shouldn't react  to everything that we go through. It is difficult to endure so we would say, "if only you knew what we are going through"  just to keep the bitterness within us. We should let whatever we go through in life strengthen us rather than making us vengeful or bitter.

Lying

Pretending with the intend to deceive.
There are peculiar traits we exhibit unconsciously when telling
a lie. We may not notice but a good observer can tell when one is lying.
It's easy to tell if the liar isn't good at it, that is if we know the person
really well.
We shouldn't misinterpret them because sometimes it isn't a lie.
It could be other reasons preventing them from telling the whole truth.
Some lies could be on the account of fear or duress so judging by their gestures
alone isn't enough. And a good perceiver should be able to distinguish between when a person is telling a lie and when the person isn't. Sometimes, lying can be a good
thing. I rest my case.

Staying Natural

 I find it quite fascinating to see ladies trying to stay natural lately. It's a good thing though. But what really inspires them to do so?. Or is it because they don't have the resources to enlighten their beauty so they stick to being natural?. What is it with cosmetics that they dislike?. Is it that the side-effects surpasses it's advantages?. Do they look better being natural or they feel they aren't trying to impress anyone?. Are those that apply additives also good looking in their natural state or when it is finished, they stay indoors?. Is it because of health matters that people decide to stay natural? Do they apply little additive in one way or another? Is their choice beneficial to them or they are causing harm to themselves? If they had all sort of cosmetics at their disposal, would they still stay natural? What are the actual reasons why they are staying natural?

I Love You

The value that this phrase use to carry has been drastically reduced lately
due to the outrageous number of times we vaguely use it. Basically, it was simply used to express one's deepest and sincerest feeling for another that could not be expressed by words.
Moreover, It was the shortest way of letting one know how we cherished and adored their presence in our life and wouldn't in any way do anything to jeopardize that. How happy one felt when they heard one say unto them "I Love You". It was said with such passion and warmth that it made one feel on top of the world. It wasn't misused in anyway since it was followed by sincere actions that proved their love.
How I wish we could go back to the days when love was expressed with such veracity. You could feel each words as they were told with such passion and romanticism as written in the book of "Songs of Solomon". The feeling behind this phrase that has lost it's redolence and earnestness, that could revitalize the broken-hearted and reassure the lonely-hearted. It was just but a sincere "I Love You"

Delay Before Replying

It could be that your message may have delayed due to network problems, but on a normal basis whereby the person reads your message and doesn't reply at all.
Or the person replies minutes or hours later is definitely because of the content of the message of which we all aware..
It is definitely on purpose since they are aware the longer they keep you waiting the more the eagerness to know the reply dies out and even if they eventually do they don't answer the question as it is. They may totally ignore the message or change the subject that is if it isn't in their interest at that point in time.

Loss of Interest

We stop chatting with specific people mainly because we
lose interest in their chat. It could be that they keep bringing
up stuffs we not interested in or they are simply annoying and boring.
It could also be that they like to bring up irrelevant stuffs during unplayful times.
Sometimes we just haven't gotten to the stage where they can say anything and get away with. Moreover, having them around us doesn't feel interesting anymore. No matter how they try to impress us we just overlook their efforts besides their lifestyle doesn't blend with ours.That is when we lose interest.

Copy and Paste

Basically, everything we do now is copy and paste.
Writing of reports, pronunciamento, holiday wishes,
special occasion wishes, class assignments, essay writing
and a lot more.
It is quite normal if we are able to modify it to suit our
prospect. But I wonder why we ain't able to conjure words
ourselves on special occasions like valentine and happy birthday.
How difficult could that be?, It is too obvious to notice a copy
and paste message from an original message especially on such
special occasions.
We can do our best and think of anything lovely we have realized
about the person, their positive impact in our life and anything
to inspire them to keep on with it. It is that simple if only we
put our minds to it.  

Hear You Say

Compliments are showered on us everyday yet we ain't that happy if the one we admire does not. We may seek refuge in the sweet talks of others but that isn't enough. It's like our soul isn't content.
I heard a song by Passengers entitled "Nothing compares to you" and I was triggered to write something about it. The lyrics talked about how one could laugh and socialize with everyone in another's absence but it still couldn't be compared to the feeling when that person was around.
I thought of it and realized it was very true, nothing can be compared to the one you admire or love. Even their mere presence is a relief. Not seeing them for a week or hearing from them for a day is disheartening. We wish they were always around us and that they would shower us with sweet talks as others do but it's unfortunate they sometimes take that for granted. And we have to keep ourselves occupied in order not to miss them too much cause we know even though they may be missing us they wouldn't say it. The response we always get when we say we miss them so much, isn't good enough so we decide to keep it to ourselves sometimes. Nevertheless, we like them anyway so we have to deal with it but if it fades away with time then it isn't our fault but theirs.

An Introvert

I found myself in this category of people at a very tender age, and that resulted into writing, because sharing my thoughts with people wasn't really my strong hold. I had people I could share them with, but just didn't. Shockingly, I had handful of friends and I didn't know anything about them either, apart from their school life. Getting to know people wasn't something of my interest, since I didn't want them knowing me either. Basically, my friends mostly only guessed everything concerning me, and never knew the vivid truth, because I only smiled when they always asked me, "How many siblings I had?" or "Whether I was a Ghanaian?". I was a person who tended to shrink from social contacts and became preoccupied with my own thoughts.
 The few friends I had were the very ones I mostly spoke to. Mingling with other children wasn't something of my interest. I was very picky with choosing friends, hence, I was mostly alone. If none of my friends showed up at school, I would be on my own the whole day; not entirely talking to myself or acting strange, but just randomly smiling cause I always had funny thoughts running through my mind. I became very observant with time, cause all I did was to observe people of my interest.
Going for parties, reunions, social gathering wasn't something I liked. Funny enough I bought myself a diary which I wrote stuffs that transpired in school. I had a few crushes I always loved to sit and watch all day without getting tired; of course they had an intriguing personality. I didn't have a boring life as it may seem, I did have gadgets to keep me busy always. Music was something I never felt okay without at my leisure. I even studied with music, which also made me learn how to sing.
I was very attentive in class, I smiled once in a while when I had funny thoughts about silly gestures my classmates made unknowingly. I actually knew my mates who had crushes on others cause all I did was sit and observe more than I talked, which made me more accurate at guessing. People always misconceived my mutism for shyness, which wasn't the case. I was funny and interesting as complemented by many, but boring as well, they concluded. Your story may be different from mine but we may share the same qualities. Being an introvert isn't a bad thing after all.

Encouraging Ourselves

During difficult times, we all have variant ways of inspiring ourselves.
Apparently, It's a good thing if you know how to so we wouldn't end up committing suicide.
From my analysis, I have come out with a simple answer that most people give up because they didn't get anyone to encourage them during their times of agony. They get so much burdened with their troubles and later decide to end it all forgetting they are headed towards a place of greater torments that they can't escape. I do understand them though, cause in peculiar situations our troubles knocks us down so hard that we are unable to think straight. And in those moments of such exquisite pain, even those comforting us become myopic in thinking that their words don't carry the necessary resources to constitute to revitalizing us.  
So my remedy to this is also simple as well, That we should know how to urge ourselves on always even during good times and we should do that constantly so much so that we get very good at it.
At this stage, we wouldn't totally break down when we are dissected by our close ones who usually encourage us in our times of distress. Let's liken this remedy to that of the life story of Job in the Bible. He stood firm cause he knew how to encourage himself in the Lord. Learning to do this may be difficult cause we may be weaker as compared to Job, or we may be softer or life may have always been smoother. Regardless, we should still learn to encourage ourselves day in and day out, not because we are awaiting bad times but we are strengthening ourselves since we know ourselves better and no one can boost our moral as suitable as we may refer.

Coward

Most of us are caught up in these situations for the right reasons.
You may call it silly if you haven't experienced it before. Didn't say I have.
Anyways from numerous analysis I have come to the conclusion that we are afraid
to tell people we realize are interested in us a simple "NO" if we don't feel same.
We give them a suitable answer in order not to feel awkward around them after such an experience since we very close to them and wouldn't want to risk losing their friendship.
 But for others, saying "NO" isn't really a bother to us at all. The usual response we give people
 we care about after they have expressed their feelings towards us are;
"I'm not ready or time will tell but right now I can't say same".
"Let's be friends for now and await what the future holds for us".
"I'm not sure what I really feel, give me time to figure it out".
And a lot more...
Beating around the bush only makes them think they still have a chance so they will keep sticking around awaiting the moment we will finally give in. The problem is, we are never gonna say "YES" so we always have to deal with them, anytime we think they are bringing up such issues we ain't interested in having with them. So when we finally take the bold step of saying "NO" or #team" FRIENDs FOREVER", they still think they have to try harder and that we may be playing hard to get whilst the real fact is we will never be interested in them. Let's not mess with other people's feelings.

Predictions

It is easy for a woman to notice when a man shows interest in her.
If she is smart then she will figure it out from the first day he starts to, the same way it is with a man. You may wonder why, but it is something that comes natural to us. Our actions defer from how it use to be, we unconsciously act in certain ways that we do not realize ourselves. It could be jealousy or care, either ways it could be easily detected unless the person it is towards doesn't really want to go that road with us or doesn't feel the same way.
The only problem we have is to differentiate from those that are originally
interested in us and those that are in for something. Sometimes with much
experience we can observe critically and tell the fake from the original.
Other times we only ignore the person because we simply not interested in them and not that their love isn't genuine. Usually, we are blinded by love and ain't able to tell the difference except those around us. We could try asking a couple of close observers to tell what they think, they may tell us something we ourselves haven't got a clue until we censoriously observe. Observers often have a good sense of telling if the relationship will be a long-lasting one or not.
We cannot really tell if we have no experience or ain't updated with the things happening around us. The good thing is we all have instincts that occasionally prompts us about a particular person we are involved with.
Regardless the appearance or the way the person became a part of our life if we have good instincts we can be able to deduce if it's meant to be. The actions and reactions of the person will show it, especially when we around them often. We will easily realize the things we have in common and the things they do that we can't put up with.
Occasionally, we can tell them to change from such behaviors and we will realize if they take us serious, to talk of our words. It could be that they only pretending to impress us by doing all that we ask of since they gearing after something but if we are very observant we will be able to fish those people out from the serious ones. Because our predictions ain't always right.

Roommates

The very ones that makes our campus life a hell or heaven.
We have got to put up with them for a whole year.
Definitely, lucky if they are what we desire but if not then
we just hope the academic year will end soon.
Most of us start well but end badly. Others start poorly but end well,
which is scarce. But for the first week, we all try not to cross
one another since we don't want to be the one at fault.
Of course, we have to blend no matter how annoying they are.
Some are very inquisitive, they ask too many questions about our private life,
either about our family or relationship. Others only stick to their own business
when everything is going on well for them but the moment their provisions start to
finish they start acting generous. Others comment on everything we do.
Others are mostly quiet, they talk only when the need arises and they are mostly
interesting and funny. Others talk about us as if they know us too well, mostly when
people see us to be innocent that is when they lay bare everything they have observed
or we have told them against us. The very ones that don't take things personal and also we
usually laugh, argue, chat, play with are the ones we stay glued to even after we end up
with new ones in a new academic year. It is very obvious to notice when we ain't in good terms with them when we are visited by a friend. That is our problem anyways.

Quiet Time

I was doing my devotion this morning with an interesting topic.
Even though the subsequent message that followed thereof was not
as expected.
"Who owns your lips?", were the exact words printed boldly as the
topic. The very thoughts that came into mind was to think who actually
owned it whilst the devotion was circling around praise and worship to God.
The topic really attracted me to read it but wouldn't say I was disappointed
by the content of the message.
I wouldn't also blame those who used such a topic cause they would have done
so out of good intentions but sometimes our minds are diverted from what is
important because of "adwen B", or should I say uncalled-for presumptions.
Isn't our fault we would say, but whose is it?

That Feeling

The expression for such an experience can't be imagined except
you have been in a similar situation. Guess you wondering what
exact intuitive feeling I'm hammering on.
The very one that you try to hide but cannot be hidden. It is
written all over your face and there is nothing you can do to hide
it. An epitome would clarify what I really mean.
Godwin was with Sonya one evening after lectures, whilst they were
chatting and laughing she abruptly kissed him but they continued
chatting anyway.
Then Godwin told Joyce, Sonia's course mate,
who is Godwin's close friend but just that Sonia and Joyce ain't
that close. Coincidentally, Sonia happened to look through Godwin's
messages and read it all when he revisited her including Joyce not telling her.
She looked at him and he stood there with a face that looked like "I can explain".
That kind of feeling Godwin felt I mean.

Awareness

This may sound a little off the hook but it is true if analyzed carefully.
We have people we share certain stuffs that we do or
decisions we take, not entirely personal. Some people have a habit of telling almost everyone close to them but that is just them.
My point is, have you told someone something that the reaction of the person seems like they are already cognizant of what you saying but they awaiting one vital information they weren't able to discover themselves. It"s intriguing because they don't necessarily ask you vividly what you did all day but just generalize the question saying
"So what did you do all day?" spying to see if you would tell them and if you
don't, they don't act suspicious asking questions but the moment you start telling
them is like they rushing you to get to the actual info they didn't get to hear.
They usually do that by either saying, "uh huh or next". Guess i'm making sense. lol

Mentality

It is unusual to see a boy and girl walking holding hands without suspecting something these days. Our thinking are always negative. "Isn't our fault", you will always hear one say. Whose fault is it?.
When a friend takes your phone and goes through your gallery and sees a particular boy/girl's picture more than trice they begin to suspect even worse if you took the picture together. Also when a girl comes to visit you too much in your room, your roommates become suspicious.
Furthermore, when a particular person calls or text you too much they begin to ask questions. Or when you always with a particular person, people draw conclusions.
But they do have a point though, since about 88% of people of the examples given above are hooked up. Either they are friends with benefits or have a history together or dating and 12% are just friends. So we can't blame people when they are suspicious but rather ignore them if we know there's nothing awkward going on.

Awkward

Quite fascinating how weird certain words sound when referring to
someone we relate to. I figured that out myself not long ago.
Lemme elucidate my statement with an epitome.
It was quite a while I heard from my sister so I decided to check
out her profile page on a social media. Cause she used to give funny
remarks on my profile pictures and status and I kind of missed that.
Fortunately she was on-line, and had spotted me on-line as usual.
"Hey, Pressure status", she texted me.
"Awww, I miss you", I replied her.
"Huh", she texted back.
"Ikr" I replied.
It's no big deal you may say but how many times have you done that.
Try telling your mother, or relative I love you or something sweet if
they wouldn't stare at you in an awkward way or they may ask what the occasion is
or look suspicious.
It's something normal with blacks, isn't in our blood.

Apps Lock

Intriguing as it may sound, most people do put locks on their applications
based on many reasons. Majority think people do so based on their bad
intentions. Those that do so also say it's because they need their privacy.
What do they mean exactly by privacy?.
What are they involved in that requires privacy?
Come to think of it, some people do it for the pleasure. Some say is a formality.
They have got nothing peculiar to hide but they just dislike random people interrupting
 their private life. What is so private about their life?, you may ask. We all have something
to hide regardless whom we are. My sister for instance, have locks on all her
gadgets. Even if she could put a lock on her watch she would have. With such
people, they just don't like people touching their personal stuffs.
That doesn't dispute the fact that others use that as leverage to do their
secret "stuffs", but who cares, that's their own business anyway.

Preposterous

Certain things are annoying if they happen to you. Reasons why are very simple. Either you can't explain yourself better or the person you explaining to isn't getting you as supposed to. Obviously it hurts if you actually care about the person and wish if the person could only hear you out. But you would just ignore the person to his/her thoughts if you careless what he/she thinks, after all it doesn't affect you in anyway. When I'm bored I do crazy stuffs I later regret sometimes. You know, we all have something we would have wanted to change if we were given the chance. So as I was saying, I was bored one afternoon in my room alone listening to music. On certain occasions, what we do are inspired by the kind of music we listen to. We rarely notice because we don't pay much attention. So I sent this new friend I met on a social media whom used to call me often during the afternoon when she was given an irksome task at work and she goes nuts after spending hours without getting halfway through with it, a message.
"Hey, Stop thinking about me", were the very words I texted her.
After I couple of minutes she replied.
I quote, "Sorry for coming into your life, Won't text or call you again". For two hours I hadn't replied, not because I was short of words or myopic in thinking but because I was stunned.
Who takes such a message serious?, I kept gnarling. I later replied, "It was a joke".
"Please that wasn't a joke, besides my friend saw the text and was like I'm throwing myself at you too much and that was the end result", She replied back.
After I had read her message, I slept it off. Haven't heard from her since, I know what you thinking but sometimes certain things needs no explanation hence didn't give her one.

Technique

You wanna know if a girl is in the mood or isn't getting along with your flow. This is how to know. You can start with a suitable chat, a lot of laughter and smiles, then you go in for her hand. Then in a couple of minutes after, try holding her on the shoulder and drawing her closer to you. If she still doesn't push away then you can try holding her waist, again drawing her close to you.
 And all these should blend with the kind of conversation you having so that it wouldn't feel awkward and she wouldn't think "what is he trying to do?". And you shouldn't run out of words during the conversation but in case you do, try tickling her or doing something to occupy you two during the silent moments. 
Draw her closer to you by grabbing her on her waist, try the fore head kiss first and if she doesn't pull away then she is into it so you can go ahead and kiss her on her cheek to be extra sure she is feeling your flow before you go ahead kissing  her on the lips.
You can add a little flirting and it should be done within minutes not seconds. Shouldn't be as if you rushing her, you should maintain eye contact and if you being rejected you would obviously realize it from the start and safe yourself the embarrassment of her rejecting your kiss.
You can also try taking a risk by just going for it. That is if you are certain the girl is into you but it may end badly. Be smart

A Boy, Girl Thing.

Boys know they smart when it gets to convincing a girl to satisfy their personal desires. They show much confidence if the girl is within their capacity of grabbing.
It's quite obvious when it gets to that of girls since it is done with much ease,
attractiveness counts though. It depends massively on the boy as well, as they say one man's meat is another man's poison.
 But the question is, how do a girl and boy, who of course have
a specific agenda for hooking up, both get away with their personal desires?,
Or one outsmart the other by getting what they want on time leaving the other stranded and taken for a fool.It's just a boy, girl thing.

Funny Couple

A man and his beloved wife went to a dinner organized by the man's work colleagues,
During the dance which was a salsa dance by all couples invited, the man had emotional sank into the rhythm of the music and the sweet perfume of his beloved wife, so he stretched out to kiss his wife.
"Herrrr, are you drunk in love?" she blurted out. The man profoundly humiliated by the incident since all his colleagues nearby had a fair share of the episode of embarrassment. He managed to force a smile throughout the dinner.
Gladly they got home and he humbly confronted his wife of her behavior. She snubbed him and these were her very words she added.
"Men, they always want you to do what they want but they get bored at the slightest rejection".
The man upon hearing this replied,
"Women, they always want you to do something to hurt them and later apologize by getting them something they have been asking of for days.

Story of my life

 Her name was Lily, I once had a crush on her in junior high. Fortuitously we met in the university and in Republic hall to be precise. The first time I saw her, I was actually on my way to buy food at Queens hall. And there she was, looking ravishing and sleek as always but much better this time around. She seemed a little distressed, seemed like she was waiting for someone.  

Who could possibly be keeping such a lady waiting I muttered out. I actually stood still for ten minutes staring at her, smiling inwardly. "She was my friend", I gnarled proudly. As if I talking to someone, I was happy fate finally brought us together once again. Guess Im drawing conclusions too early you may be thinking. But sometimes when the feeling is right, trust me it's simply irresistable. No sooner had I decided to approach her than a car pull up driving off with her in it.  

Suddenly, I lost appetite because I realized she was now way out of my league. How silly it appeared but true. There and then I remembered why they say "the truth hurts".    I remember I observed this girl so much that I studied all her gestures. Apparently, I knew almost everything about her without her knowledge. It felt good at a point because it's quite funny when someone thinks you know nothing about them but ostensibly you know everything about them character-wise. Sometimes, is just not meant to be but we try to make it seem like it's because we put in little effort. Tell me, what effort didn't I put in?.  

The only mistake I did regret was making it quite obvious I liked her and also confirming I did as well which she used to say she was glad I always opened up to her but it was only to her advantage. After a while, I realized she knew almost everything about my feelings towards her including how I behaved sometimes out of hidden love. But in exchange, she was a complete stranger to me cause I knew comparatively nothing about her.

Not that I was supposed to know but she mostly claimed it was unnecessary when it got to her side of the story, even if she shared it was half-way. So with time we were drawn apart since I decided also not to share giving her the similar excuse despite the fact that it sucked cause she was the only one I could open up to.   Not that what I did was silly but if you were in my shoes, trust me you would have done same. After all I survived.

Be whom you are

Times that are good we forget our worries, more like we put them on standby awaiting times that are bad before we analysis what went wrong and look for someone to blame. But the problem isn't us but whom we associate with cause they are the very people that influence our life and encourage us do what we do.
Some people are good influence, no doubt, others obviously have got nothing good to offer which we are quite aware of so it is up to us whom we learn from. It is not a matter of dissociating ourselves from them since we could also be of a good influence to them somehow. Simply, we should be whom we are. Over pretense makes us less likable, trust me!.